I know I’m going to sound cold and bitter, but in all my life (49 years), I have yet to find a man who hasn’t lied to me. I keep thinking that right around the corner there is going to be a man who won’t do that, but I’m always wrong. I found out today that my husband has been lying to me. I’m not new at this whole relationship thing, and you’d think I’d know how to pick a good man….but is there any good ones out there? I’ve done everything i could to please him and love him, yet this is what I get. I’m just SOOOO sick of it. I’m better off alone than to be married to someone who would treat me like this.I deserve better than this and I’m not going to take it anymore. My advice for everyone….don’t let a man be everything in your life, because when you let that happen, and they hurt you, you feel like you’ve lost everything.

No. A man that lies to you probably doesn’t care about you very much. So, dump his ass and move on from that. I’d dump him in a second. It’s like a weight lifted off your shoulders. Trust me. There are plenty of fish in the sea. And don’t worry if you can’t find someone right away to take his place. Work on you. Love yourself and spend time doing the things you love with the people you love.

he lied. A girl called him late at night and chances are it was what it sounds like: a booty call. He fell right back asleep afterwards and he was with you (a girl), so he probably didn’t feel like leaving right then and hooking up with her. He’s a guy; he knows he can call her the following day and hook up later.

I’d pursue those other guys who are interested in you and leave this guy to himself so he can grow up. Either he’ll get a clue and realize how important and great it is to be honest with your friends, or he’ll continue to live like a little boy and lie for no real reason.

i’m sorry you cried yourself to sleep that night – that’s the worse! When you are awake crying RIGHT NEXT TO THE GUY who made you cry, while his dumb ass falls right asleep and he slumbers like a little baby. Who woke up feeling fine the next day? My guess is the liar.

maybe you’re making a big deal out of nothing here. maybe he just lied because he was being put on the spot and nervous. there are so many possibilities with this situation. why do men lie? because they’re just stupid like that. no one really knows why they do it. as women, of course we think they do it because there’s something to hide. to be honest, there probably is. you can’t hurt yourself by pretending not to care and act as if everything’s normal when it really isn’t. if you really want to remain friends with him, ask him what’s up. ask him whether he’s hiding something from you. tell him you expect all your friends to be open with you and not lie to you. if he doesn’t give you a good reason as to why he needs you in his life, he’s not worthy of being your friend. don’t let this guy make you crazy. i don’t care how much of a worry-wart you are, he is not worth worrying about. as you said, there are plenty of other men who want to be with you. go out with them, see how they are, give them a chance. you are a strong, beautiful woman and i know you have enough confidence to get over this loser.

Men are so really STUPID honestly, you have to figure out if you want to be “friends” or lovers….also if I had a guy friend I would ask who’s that? wanting to really know who was it? Because A bottom line we tell ourselves we don’t care who calls etc. but we do care. We really do. Especially if we spend time together and were “Friends” why not- Guys want to have their cake and eat it to..they can never really “commit” especially when you put yourself in the “friend” category. If you care more TELL HIM. say it! and make bounderies if you’ve decide to continuing in being “friends” My “Friend” he treats me great , he’s there when I need him, but he also has FaceBook and astc like a male “I’m you Man” page, I take it with a grain of salt I do my thing and let him do his thing, though it really pisses me off, cause he thinks I have no idea…That is why men are STUPID! get yourself out there have fun, don’t have him utilize all your time- Remember if he’s a “friend” treat him like one. If your sleeping with him and still doing the “Friend” thing than you need to STOP, because guys will keep the “friend” thing going on to they find a Girl”FRIEND” . Good luck your Gorgeous, your A woman

Sorry to hear that. I had the simial situation with my EX. We just broke up a week ago,because I found out during the month we were having a break from each other, he had his ex over his place for 2 weeks (she is from another country). after she left, he contacted with me, and then we went back together about two months. He never mentioned that his ex came to visit him…he lied about everything that he was doing the whole month when we were off. Cut short, I knew that he was still in contact with his exes special the last girlfriend, she calls him all the time. When I found out, I called him right the way , but he couldn’t answer why he did it. so we called it quits again. Next day he came to pick up his stuffs, he still had no answer for me, even couldn’t look at me. Well I think it is time for him to go,.. we all deserve better. Good luck

It sounds to me like he wanted to get away with lying to you because there is something going on when a girl calls at that time in the morning. He lied because maybe he thinks something will happen with you two again. He should have not lied but at least he owned up to it after you asked him and did not lie again. The fact you were crying and he didnot even care tho is a bit weird or why he did not question you being upset with him, unless u hid it very well. You need to really talk about it.

He was wrong for lying,

But there’s probably a good reason he doesn’t want you getting involved.

If it was me I’d just chill

Maybe the girl that was on the other line was an old friend and he didn’t want to get you worried and just quickly said it was his buddy. It sounds like this guy is just as scared as you are. He may even be scared of commitment, but realizes that he really cares about you. If he left his movie at your house on purpose, which it sounds like he did I think he wants to be more than just “friends.”

Risk it and take a chance with this guy. What’s the worst that could happen? You become happy and fall in love? And if it doesn’t work out you learn from it. I’ve fell in love and out of love, Yes it is hard to do, but you become a better person in the end. As the repetitive saying, “Life is too short…” It truly is if you get the nauseating butterflies in your stomach when you’re around him and see yourself beginning to fall in love with him when he wraps his arms around you the risk of telling him how you feel will not only make you feel better, but might have a good outcome for both.

Either way both of you win. You get to find out how he feels and if he feels the same way then you go from there. If he doesn’t then you can move on and quit wasting your time on this guy and see what else is out there. I wish you all the luck in the world, “a better woman.”