I HATE MEN

I was seeing this one guy for a while. At first our relationship was very phone-based since our schedules always conflicted. We were able to talk on the telephone almost every night, and we got together occasionally by meeting up at a bar. (No, I did get introduced to him at a bar.)

He never picked me up when we went out, we never even went out to dinner together. Every time we were suppose to do something like go for a bike ride or just stay in and watch a movie, he stood me up at least 50 percent of the time, and sometimes he would fall off the face of the Earth for months at a time. Over the few years we talked, I came to like him very much since I learned so much about him as a person, but I also came to realize it was not worth it.

This was a very draining relationship, and I was the only one getting hurt. I would get upset every time he stood me up, and feel like there was something wrong with me. I have come to realize it is not me. I am sorry, but you can’t have your cake and eat it too. It is his loss that he missed spending time with me. If you give a guy more than enough chances and he still keeps messing up…he has to go!

To keep this from happening we have to remember to stay positive, and motivated. Make plans with people you can count on, and people who care about you. The people that care about you are the people that will be willing to make time for you.

Don’t let yourself get taken advantage. Your time is important to you. If you are busy, and the guy is giving you the “now or never” ultimatum…tell them never. If they are not willing to work with you to find a mutual time, they really don’t care about you or your priorities. The guy that has the attitude of “I don’t want to keep you from getting your stuff done” is the kind of guy you should look for, keep, and appreciate.

The bottom line is don’t let yourself get walked all over…stand up for you. Make “you” a priority in your life, and make time for those who care about you. Treat people as you would like to be treated, if they can’t give you the same respect then they don’t deserve yours.

You want to find someone that appreciates you, and who you appreciate. Someone that you can share fun times with, and if time becomes an issue, both of you are willing to work together to make time for each other. For example, if both of you had a crazy week and got lots to do, why not meet up at the laundry mat. While the clothes are washing, you can get a bite to eat, run errands together, or just go for a relaxing walk. Even folding clothes together can be fun, or interesting to say least. Remember, there is nothing wrong with helping someone out, just don’t let yourself get taken advantage of…that is key.