I lived in Austin, TX with my boyfriend for the past 5-6 months. He asked me to move to Europe with him. I gave up everything I owned and asked him if he was sure. When I got here to Europe he broke up with me.
This post was submitted by Laura.
Here I sit complaining about the same man who I swore I would never speak to again. I was doing well, actually went three months without any contact, but as soon as he made contact I was off to see him again. This man has a lot of problems, intimacy, delusional you name it but at least he has an excuse.
What is my problem? This man got me pregnant and dumped me like a piece of garbage, has played all kinds of head games and yet I can’t stay away from him. I know what you ladies are thinking….that I am completely crazy and deserve better. I would like to think that I deserve better as well. Here’s the thing, if one of my friends was experiencing the same thing I would be all over her to stop. He plays the biggest games. An example for those of you that are curious…..the last game involved coming to my house when I asked him to be quiet because my roommate was asleep he said he was going to the store and never came back. Now he won’t even return my texts or take my phone calls.
I never know what is going to set him off. He is so unstable and unpredictable, has a lot of aggression built up and thinks everyone is out to get him. He truly thinks women are second class citizens and clearly treats me as such. I just don’t know why I keep going back for more. It’s not even a sex thing…he holds back sex sometimes to play games.
Is anyone else in the same boat? Keeps going back for more pain and suffering from a loser like the man I described. OR has someone overcome a similar situation? I would love to hear about it.
This post was submitted by burnedagain.
Hi everyone! So I have come to the conclusion that boys – not men make life confusing. I broke up with my ex a couple months ago. We had been together for many years and were close to becoming engaged; anyways we grew apart and it was definitely for the better.
So, as soon as I was single there was the usual “rebound.” I think it was more that I was afraid of being alone than anything. Then I realized that I would be fine living the single life until I found someone. Weeks went by and I met a guy.
Now, this guy was five years older, which isn’t a big deal, technically married, and had a girlfriend. Yes, ladies and gentlemen what in the world was I thinking?? We ended up hooking up while he was still with his girlfriend. And he made it clear that all he wanted was to “hook-up,” even though he kept telling me how much he liked me, better than his girlfriend, which I am NOT ok with.
While we “hooked-up” all I could think about was, “is this gonna go anywhere?” Then of course the thought of his poor girlfriend did cross my mind. That too was another reason why I wouldn’t want to see myself with him – once a cheater always a cheater. Who’s to say he would not cheat again? Most likely he would.
So I got over it and decided to move on and forget guys for awhile. Too much of this drama was driving my crazy. I went to a party with my friend and very unexpectantly met a great guy!
We ended up talking for hours and hit things off right away. Later I had found out that the other guy (the one with the gf) dumped his girlfriend for me.
He was telling me over the phone how he could now give me 100% and see where things could go and that he really cared about me. I was so confused because this guy is completely opposite from me. I’m 21 he’s 26. I’m more conservative and laid back he’s the bad boy type.
I couldn’t truly understand what he was doing? He was saying all the right things to try and trick me into thinking he was some awesome guy. And don’t get me wrong he is a nice guy and good friend, but not my type of guy to be in a long-term relationship with.
At that point I was very confused; I was confused about how I was going to turn that guy down without hurting his feelings. It was obvious that he was playing the field and didn’t care about me. He was trying as hard as he could to get me because he now found himself solo and no girlfriend to sleep with.
The first thing I told him was besides not having the same feelings about him as he did for me, that I couldn’t be with a “cheater.” His response was comical, “ohh I would never cheat on…we would be so close in that I would not have the temptation.” Right after that I got sick to my stomach thinking, “I hooked up with a slime ball.”
Personally, I think that getting to know someone before you get intimate with them shows a lot about the person. It shows that they care about YOU and not only what you look like.
So as you can guess I’m dating the guy I met at my friend’s birthday party and I’m so happy! This guy is completely perfect – great sense of humor, personality, intelligent, and not too mention not bad on the eyes.
Last weekend, he took me to see a movie it was the cutest thing, he did the arm-stretch and put his arm around me. He gives me little butterflies in my stomach when he kisses me – having that feeling makes me realize that I would risk anything right now to make it work between the two of us. And I believe that he is the same way.
I’m excited to see what happens between the two of us and will keep you posted. If I can give any advice I would say, “Take a risk on the unexpected it might just be what you’re looking for…”
This post was submitted by Erin.