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ok, you’ve been screwed over by us men. Now you’re generalizing ALL men into the same category. There is this special group of men that wouldn’t treat you bad even if we were paid millions of dollars to do so, the only place you have to look, IS THE FRIEND ZONE! You women choose these guys thinking you can change them, but you can’t…and it’s stupid on your part to think that. You honestly have done all these bad things to yourself. I’m sick of women complaining about how much men suck, but they are un willing to look in the friend zone where a guy has been chilling for a really long time just happy to be around you. Isn’t that what you guys are looking for? Someone who is happy to just be around you? Oh no? my bad you want the douche bag that’s going to pretend he isn’t in to you, so you can chase him for several years. anyway if you’re allowed to rant on here so are we…Power of the Men!

This post was submitted by sidman777.

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Roses are red, Violets are blue, You’re effin asshole and I hate you!

This post was submitted by @ftale.

ALL THEY DO IS USE WOMEN AND MAKE WOMEN FEEL LIKE SHIT .
THEY CONTROL US AND TELL US WHAT TO DO AND WE AGREE AND BELIEVE THEM THEN THEY JUST PISS OFF WITH SOME NEXT GIRL WHEN THEYVE HAD ENOUGH LEAVING US FEELING UGLY AND LIKE SHIT!!!

This post was submitted by sk.

I took him in, I couldn’t wait to clean him up
So adorable and cute my loyal new pup
I fed him I cared for him even shared my bed
I cuddled him I pampered him I stroked his head
True he barked and whined, some nights didn’t come home
But I had faith in my doggie even if he chose to roam
The more I loved that pooch the more unruly he became
I tried and I tried but he was impossible to tame
Foolish to think he could feel and learn
Just a mangy mongrel unable to love me in return
Once my sweet companion scrambling to lick my face
Now a bothersome creature, good for shitting and taking up space
The final straw came when the ungrateful beast bit me
I made up my mind, he had to go quickly
DUMB DOG…had it all, if he just learned to obey
But all my friends warned “you can’t train a stray”

This post was submitted by jus_me@llday.

As The Fat Girl, I first got to know boys as the horrible people who spit on me, pulled my hair, threatened me and called me names.

You’d think that in 30 years I would have found members of the male gender that don’t treat me that way. You’d be wrong. They still act like that, but now they’re much more dangerous. They don’t just want to ruin my clothes or mess up my hair or give me bruises now. Now they want to get closer, to do bigger damage.

That thing your momma said about how men will have sex with mud as a way of saying men are not discriminating is absolutely true. They love playing around with fat chicks once or twice when they’re really hard up. If they have to fake the beginning of a relationship to get it, oh well. Of course, once they aren’t so desperate anymore they stop putting on the act and start being, well, men.

You feeling good about yourself today, sister? Date a man. He’ll fix that ‘confidence bug’ you were coming down with.

My name is Bleh, and I absolutely HATE men. I want to kick them all in the balls simultaneously.

This post was submitted by Bleh.

Hi, I just stumbled upon this site and I have to say I am saddened by what I’ve been reading and the experiences that a number of you have been through. As you maybe able to gather, I’m a male… one who has often been saddened by the attitudes of some of my fellow Y chromosomal members. I just want to say that, while there are a number of us who are a**holes and jerks, please don’t think of us all the same way.

Myself personally, I’m all behind equality and equal rights/wages (and freedom of speech), fortunately the modern world is rectifying this. Sadly some males are still in the dark ages concerning their attitudes towards women… I must say with disgust that my father was one such person (so was one of my grandfathers). My parents are divorced now, but to this day he still tries to be controlling and manipulative at times. I never wanted to treat women in that manner (I try to treat everyone equally, male, female and different nationalities) and I praise my grandfather (the good one) for reinforcing in me how to be chivalrous and to treat women well. I know guys with the opposite attitudes to me and truthfully I feel like smacking them upside the head sometimes.

I don’t want to say this to bignote myself, but my now wife, when we were still going out was in a car accident, which still has her largely needing a wheelchair… I spent as much time in the hospital as I could with her and I never once dreamed of leaving her or cheating or anything else. I’ve been supporting her recovery and have been her carer for the last couple years and will continue to do so for however long it takes.

Besides my wife, I had one other relationship and I was engaged, she cheated on me and left me for her ex from high school (this is the condensed version). I’ll admit it’s rare for a guy in his 30′s to have only had two girlfriends, my first one put me of relationships for a couple years. I never wanted too be a player… my opinion is one of quality over quantity.

What I’m getting at is we aren’t all the same, I’ll fully agree that some of them are fully deserving of your ire. Just try to remember that a few of us are actually quite decent. Anyway I’m sort of rambling a bit here, I just strongly dislike the idea of hating anyone without knowing their character.

Take care all

This post was submitted by Damascus.

My relationship of two years has me very confused these days. Im such a mess and I feel like I am half the woman I used to be.
I admit that I am by no means the perfect girlfriend but I am always thinking of him and his needs and feelings above my own because that is what he expects of me. I feel like he never reciprocates this although I am constantly asking him to be a little more sensitive to my feelings. All I want is for him to just remember I am in this relationship too and to consider my feelings before doing and saying certain things.
I believe he has some anger issues though he would never admit to it. I am constantly walking on eggshells trying to keep him from getting angry and lashing out at me. I am unable to talk to him about how I feel. Every time I attempt to share my feelings hoping he will understand he just gets angry and tells me what I feel is crazy or invalid.
When he gets angry he has temper tantrums where he throws things and punches holes in my walls. Then afterwards he cries and makes me feel bad fo making him angry in the first place. I hate it when he does these things. If I wanted to deal with temper tantrums and constanlty cleaning up after someone I would just have a child.
He has called me horrible things on many occasions. I have been called a stupid bitch, a worthless asshole, and other mean things by him. Although I have forgiven him his words still remain in my mind echoing with pain. I never speak to him like that and if I did he would probably leave me. After calling me these horrible names he always cries and tells me he is so sorry and he loves me. If I am not immediately forgiving and don’t comfort him through his tears after he verbally abuses me then he says I am just being a bitch who won’t quit fighting with him. He really expects me to just sit there and deal with his shit and then be nice as soon as he calms down. He always has an excuse for being an asshole such as; I’m tired, my back hurts, or I had a bad day at work. Well I fucking work too and I also get tired and sore but you don’t see me running around being a raging asshole.
I know most of you will say I should just leave him but he wasn’t always like this. At one time he was the nicest sweetest guy and he is so different than other guys. We still have good days and sometimes he makes me feel so happy and lucky to be with him. I know it is impossible to be nice and happy all the time but the way he deals with being angry makes me feel like he has no love or respect for me. He has told me many times that I should always know he loves me regardless of what he says or does but does that mean he gets to do and say whatever he wants at my expense? Why am I always expected to be calm and nice no matter what he does or says or else I am a psycho or a bitch. He acts like his feelings are the only ones that matter because I am a woman so mine are automatically irrational and ivalid. I just want him care about me emotionally the way I care for him.

This post was submitted by donewithyou.

I’m probably not old enough to see the good things in men yet. But the men my age probably aren’t old enough to exhibit their good qualities either.

College men are horrible. All they care about is girls- how many girls they can hook up with, what girl they’re going to hook up with next, who their buddies are hooking up with. They care so much ABOUT girls but don’t even care FOR girls.

I have come to realize how much I hate men not after being used or rejected by them, but after hanging out with my boyfriend’s roommates. All they ever talk about are girls. But not once have I heard them consider a girl’s feelings. I have seen and met so many girls go in and out of their suite and be used. Sure the girls are happy at the time, and that’s the guy’s only justification for what they’re doing. But if the girl knew going into the situation that they were just being used, there is no way that they would ever go into it in the first place.

Now a guy’s natural response would be something a long the lines of this: The girl should know better, if all men are supposedly foul low-lifes, then a girl shouldn’t even question what she’s getting herself into. However, this is FALSE. How is that? Guys know exactly what girls want to hear, and it’s so easy for a girl to believe what a guy tells them and be swept up by it. And let’s say a girl knows better and knows not to trust men. Then she’s labeled as a girl with trust issues and emotionally damaged. So it’s easier and it makes a girl happier just to go along with whatever a guy tells her.

For example, one of my friends just recently put her art in an art show on campus and a guy texted her asking about her artwork and acting really interested in the meaning behind everything. Here’s where the line is, should the girl be flattered that the guy texted her wanting to know more about her artwork OR should she be distrustful and automatically assume he’s feigning interest and being nice to her just so she will keep hooking up with him? The typical response of a girl is: A guy who was just talking to you to hook up with you wouldn’t go out of his way to ask you about that. He’s not playing you.

WRONG. The day after this guy texted my friend that I overheard him talking about how he was trying to get with this other girl. Meanwhile, he’s still talking to my friend and hooking up with her and she has NO idea what he’s doing behind her back. Does he even consider how she would feel about this? As she’s starting to fall more and more for him, he’s starting to play the field more. Would she be falling for him hard if she knew this? Probably not.

In college, men are in their prime of “player -hood.” And in this day and age, they’ve figured out exactly what a girl wants to hear. They pretend to be interested and what she’s saying, listen to her, tell her she’s beautiful and the only one for him just so they can get her to hook up. And even if they’re being diabolical lucifers behind her back they’ll never let her know, just in case they need a back up person to hook up with and they know that if they’re ever show her their true colors she will never hook up with him again.

So at this point, it’s hard to differentiate. Is a guy being nice to you just because he wants to hook up with you, or does he actually care? And if you get suspicious and assume that he’s just trying to hook up with you, as that is usually the case nowadays, and he actually cares about you, the trust boundary that you put up to protect yourself in the end ruins any potential relationship you can have with him. But how’s a girl to know when it’s appropriate to trust someone or not? And living a life where you can trust no one is difficult and harsh. Is it worth it in the end, to not trust someone to prevent yourself from getting hurt?

And now this all comes down to why I hate men. They toy with women’s emotions. They lie to them to get them in bed. They tell them what they want to hear and then throw them away. In my opinion, using someone is one of the worst actions that a person could ever do. And men do it all the time with nothing on their conscious. For people who talk about women and say that they love women all the time, men could care less. All they care about is their social status and how much action their manhood is getting. So in turn, they use women and don’t even have the decency to be upfront about it. But then again, what woman in their right mind would get with a guy who straight up tells them, “Girl, you’re beautiful but I’m just pretending to listen to you so I can use you.”

People mature and grow out of phases. I’m only in college. Maybe not all men are terrible. But college men? They can go fuck themselves.

This post was submitted by BoysStink.

Dear ladies of the world,

I am a young male, damning I know, whom has come across this site and read a few of the posts displayed through the news feed. Surprisingly, I have not found getting angry, nor defensive about the views and rants posted here but almost empathetic and a bit sympathetic.

I will take into consideration that many(or some) of you have been abused sexually and/or violently by men and thus developed this hate. Not including these severe cases I have concluded in my mind that some of you, quite frankly fear men, or simply find you lack of understanding for the male being frustrating and this interpret this as hatred for men.

Anyway, I believe many of the posts shown here have displayed the message of deep insecurity. And upset. However, what you seem to fail to understand is it is a two way street; we are both human. Born from our mothers, live off emotion. Although different in some ways it may surprise you that we also share many of your characteristics, yet, feel we have to react a different way.

As a man, I feel women have more freedoms than I do in what they can wear, in what’s advertised for them, in job opportunities, in what you can socially acceptably say and do. As women of course you can see the opposite. And that’s fine but you’ve got to realise that that’s society, society is not completely run by brooding male bigots, the reason there may not be as many big wig entrepreneurs is that perhaps not as many women choose that career path. Although it is not hard to find strong, successful women what ever field you look at.

I found a post which I found particularly interesting. It was talking about the evolutionary theory behind why men would be unfaithful, cheat. I talked slanderously about how men have not evolved from their primitive instincts and how they have no control over their sexual urges for other women besides their lover.

As a someone very adept to the Theory of human evolution through a psychological lens, I will explain, in-short, the outline to you. ( im sorry for those whom may already know all this)

Humans are higher primates. From a very early stage men and women set themselves certain roles and tasks, which at the time was successful.

Men would;
1. Defend settlements,
2. Hunt for food,
3. Teach the young
4. Build shelter etc.

Women would;
1.Forage for fruit and nuts
2.Tend and befriend other females so that in the case that they were to die perhaps their young would be cared for by another woman.
3.Look after children etc.

This all sounds very sexist but this is how it was million of years ago.
Now, a lot has changed, gender roles are over lapping, equalism, multiculturalism, all these great things, but there are still instincts we have not evolved from in BOTH sexes.

Things like; men like cheating, men are lazy and all those other things you like to rant about but these are things we control! We have a conscience and it is our responsibility to ensure we remain faithful.

however, women also have primitive instincts still, “TEND and BEFRIEND”- give into a lot of social pressure to fit in, care a lot of other girls and try your hardest to please your friends is in fact an ancient instinct… MATERNAL… OBSESSION WITH LOOKS not all i know and a stereotype, but I have to go on stereotypes of both genders to make this point understandable, originally, men look for youth in a woman because they were the most fertile, women looked for muscle and intelligence(and age) in a man because they were the most resourceful,

Sexuality is just an overall frustrating thing;Men not giving unattractive women a chance is a terrible thing but the fact a woman stereotypically looks for a man of whom she can depend on and take his money and things to look after herself and their kids is not a very flattering prospect for me either.

I would like to hear you thoughts and comments on my post, thank you for reading, Im looking g for thoughts, opinions and debates, but an argument.

*All comments on gender is a generalisation and it must be understood that I understand completely that there are many exceptions and have never looked upon women as anything less (or more) than an equal to me (and malekind).

Thankyou

This post was submitted by ZelliTheEqualist.

He came into my life as a friend….for many months we were just friends..this man from coorg. He was so king, loving, tender, caring, that I slowly found myself telling him all my troubles. He listened patiently to all I had to say, gave me a shoulder to cry on. He told me about his life how difficult it had been. We were friends for a long time. He seemed so harmless that when he asked me to meet him, I agreed. That was when I should have seen through him, but I didnt. He asked me if we would take my car or his. I told him it was better that he brought his car,he said ok, but 2 days before we were to meet, he called me and said that he had an accident , so he couldnt use his car and that he was sad thatwe couldnt meet. I said that it was ok, we would meet in my car. He then said that as he was a bachelor he didnt want to eat out , could I bring him some food. we met and we had a wonderful time. he never came on to me, we just talked.
After that day we met very frequently,but he said that since he didnt have a job, he couldnt afford to take me out. I said that it was OK, that he could pay for everything once he had a job and he agreed.
He sent me text messages through the day, love poems once in a while, kept saying that he missed me. slowly I started falling in love with him.and he behaved as if he was in love with me.
He kept asking me to go on a holiday with him, I didnt, but finally he landed up in the town that I was working. We took a hotel room and spent 3 days there. It was then that he told me that he was a virgin and that he never had a woman in his life before. And that he wanted to lose his virginity to a special woman.
Then he told me that he had to sell his Blackberry as his parents needed money and he didnt have any to give them, so he had to sell his phone. I believed him. Then he went to a hill station in kerala to visit his cousin whose husband was ill. he called me and said that he didnt have money to buy his ticket back and could I buy it for him. I wanted to but couldnt as he didnt have any ID.
Then he said that his uncle was in hospital and dying and his aunt needed Rs.25000 to pay the bill, could I give. I didnt as i didnt have that kind of money.Then he called me from Coorg 2 years back and asked me to pay his ph billas he couldnt pay it from there and he would return it as soon as he got back. But he conveniently forgot about it. I know I should have guesses that he was fooling me, but I didnt as he was so kind and caring and I believed his stories.
Then he asked me for Rs.1 lac. as he was in trouble at work and had to return the money. I told him I would give but my friend told me to give him only half. When I told him he got angry and disnt talk to me properly for a few days. I really beleieved he was having a financial problem as the recession was on and times were difficult, and I fell in love with him and didnt want to see him suffer.
he didnt ask for money all the time at first. then he said that he didnt have money to buy tolieteries so I bought him every month. Last march he didnt have a job and had lot weight. he told me he didnt have food to eat and that he was feeling weak. What would you do if the man you loved told you that he was weak with hunger. I started buying him his monthly groceries from march. But he would find fault if I forgot to buy something> I thought that he was tense that he didnt have a job and that he had to take things from me so I kept quiet.

Then he said his friend was in hospital and they needed Rs.10000 to pay the bill, could I help out. i said no.I was already paying his telephone bill, buying his groceries, bought him clothes, shoes, socks. underwear. It was then he said that his parents didnt have money to pay their rent and to buy groceries, could I lend him Rs. 10000. I gave it to him immediately. a few months later i agin gave him money for his parents.
It was at this time that I realised that he was taking me for a royal ride,so I told him that I wanted to break up. He said that I could break up with him only If I returned his virginity. It was hilarious. He said he couldnt let me go. I was by then so much in love with him thnat i couldnt believe that he could use me.
Anyway as time went on I told him that I was finding it difficult to be in a relation ship with him and that I wanted to break up with him. He trhen threatened me saying that if Ibroke up with him , he would break my legs. that he knew rowdies. I was terrified, so I continued. continued paying through my nose.
He then said that his dad was ill, needed a surgery and he didnt have money. That was in november last year. in dec he told me he was going to Coorg to fix his dads surgery. I didnt give him the money. He refused to answer my call for a few days. when he finally did I asked him why he didnt talk to me all these days, and he said that he was so worried and tense about his Dad that he couldnt do normal things. but he posted pics of elephants taken in some sanctuary near his hometown. wow I thought…your dad must have been real sick that you could go click pics of elephants. In december last year, I met him before the new year. He always used to wear a ring on his pinkie, a ring that belonged to his grandma, he wasnt wearing the ring. He said that as I didnt give him the money he had to pawn the ring. what he didnt know was that I had seen him that morning wearing the same ring. I passes by him on the road and saw the ring. It was then that I realised that what my friends were right all along that this man was a fraud, a cheat, a liar, a man who didnt have any qualms about using women.
I have broken up with him but he has said he would take revenge on me, get even with me. I dont blame him…I blame myself…I was a fool to love a man so blindly..to believe him… I thought that no one will use another human being in this way…I was naive…I had nevermet someone so evil,some one who could pretend to love someone for years only to get his bills paid, groceries bought…I realised too late the reason why he didnt want to break up…who would pay his bills. That was the only reason that everytime I told him I wanted to break up he threatened me, threatened to call my home, threatened to break my legs

This post was submitted by anjali.

When more than half of the world’s population wakes up on Thursday – the 101st International Women’s Day – it will be hard to know whether to celebrate or give in to despair.

A British woman will face the prospect of at least 14 more general elections before women equal men in the House of Commons. But a woman in Qatar will be six times more likely to go to university than the man next door.

The global gender gap defies simple solutions: 85 per cent of countries have improved conditions for women over the past six years, according to the World Economic Forum, but in economic and political terms there is still a long way to go.

“From London to Lahore,” says Oxfam, “inequality between men and women persists.”

1) Best place to be a woman: Iceland
Iceland has the greatest equality between men and women, taking into account politics, education, employment and health indicators. The UK comes in at 16th place, down one since 2010.The worst is Yemen, and the most dangerous is Afghanistan.

2) Best place to be a politician: Rwanda
Rwanda is the only nation in which females make up the majority of parliamentarians. Women hold 45 out of 80 seats. Britain comes in at 45th place, behind Pakistan and United Arab Emirates. The worst countries, such as Saudi Arabia, Yemen, Qatar, Oman and Belize, have no women in Parliament.

3) Best place to be a mother: Norway
Norway is the world’s safest place to be a mother, with low risks of maternal mortality – one in 7600 – and skilled help with childcare. The worst is Afghanistan, where women face dangers during childbirth and from bombs and bullets.

4) Best place to read and write: Lesotho
Literacy rates among women in Lesotho exceed those of men, with 95 per cent of women able to read and write, compared with 83 per cent of men. The UK is ranked 21st. The worst country is Ethiopia, where only 18 per cent of women can read and write, compared with 42 per cent of men.

5) Best place to be head of state: Sri Lanka
Women have run Sri Lanka for 23 years. Dozens of countries, including Spain and Sweden, have never had a female head of government.

6) Best place to be a woman in the arts: Sweden
The Swedish Arts Council has launched initiatives to improve gender equality in the arts. The Swedish Film Institute insists that film grants be distributed evenly between men and women and there are quotas for women in film production. In the UK, only 6 per cent of film directors and 12 per cent of screenwriters are women.

7) Best place to be a top dog: Thailand
Thailand has the greatest percentage of women in senior management (45 per cent). The lowest is Japan, where 8 per cent of senior management positions are held by women.

8. Best place to give birth: Greece
Greece is the world’s safest place to give birth, with a one in 31,800 risk of dying in childbirth. The worst place is thought to be the world’s newest country, South Sudan, where there are fewer than 20 midwives.

9) Best place for economic participation: Bahamas
The Bahamas holds the top spot globally for economic participation and opportunity for women. The Bahamas has closed its gender gap by 91 per cent in the past six years, while the lowest-ranking country, Yemen, has closed only 32 per cent of its economic gender gap in the same period.

10) Best place to be a journalist: Caribbean
The Caribbean is the region with the highest proportion of TV, print and radio news stories reported by women (45 per cent). The worst region is Africa, with 30 per cent of stories reported by women. Europe comes in at 35 per cent.

11) Best place for the right to choose: Sweden
Sweden permits women to have abortions without restrictions for the first 18 weeks of pregnancy and there are no mandatory consent requirements. El Salvador, the Philippines and Nicaragua are among the worst because of a ban on all abortions. British women can have an abortion up to 24 weeks; two doctors have to give consent.

12) Best place for labour force participation: Burundi
Burundi in sub-Saharan Africa ranks first for labour force participation and is the only country where the female labour force participation rate (92 per cent) is higher than that of men (88 per cent). The worst country is Pakistan, where the labour force is made up of four times as many men as women.

13) Best place to earn money: Luxembourg
Luxembourg shares the top spot (with Norway) for estimated earned income. When income is capped at US$40,000, women and men are as likely to earn the same amount. The lowest female earners are in Saudi Arabia, where women earn US$7157 to men’s US$36,727.

14) Best place to go to university: Qatar
In Qatar six women are enrolled in tertiary education for every man. Questions remain as to whether their investment in education has led to the integration of women into the economy. The worst country is Chad, where three times as many men are enrolled as women.

15) Best place to live long: Japan
Women in Japan can expect to live longest (87), beating men by seven years. Female life expectancy is shortest in Lesotho (48), but only two years less than men. Britain has the smallest gender gap, four years, of any country in the EU.

16) Best place to be a lady of leisure: Denmark
Women in Denmark spend only 57 more minutes each day on unpaid work than men, the lowest in the OECD. Mexican women have it hardest, spending four hours 21 minutes more on unpaid work than men.

17) Best place to be an athlete: United States
Five of the top 10 highest-paid female sporting athletes in 2011 were from the US. The worst country, Saudi Arabia, has never sent a female athlete to the Olympics and bans girls from sports in state schools.

18) Best place to leave your husband: Guam
The Micronesian island of Guam has the highest divorce rate in the world, and Guatemala has the lowest.

19) Best place to drive a car: India
New Delhi is the best place for women wanting to break into the male-dominated world of taxi drivers. The worst country is Saudi Arabia, the only country in the world to ban women from driving.

20) Best place for high-skilled jobs: Jamaica
Jamaica has the highest ratio of women in high-skilled jobs, such as legislators, senior officials and managers. Almost 60 per cent of these roles are filled by women. Yemen comes last. Women there take up only 2 per cent of high-skilled jobs.

- Independent

This post was submitted by shazz.