I HATE MEN

Yes, org, an organization of hate.

In spite of women hating men for every possible reason they can, and it’s pretty much just “something to do” anymore, that pretty much has to do with sex or “verbal abuse” or a guy did something she didn’t like, we at ihatemen.net made an exact duplicate of this site for you. If everything goes well, maybe we can work out a link exchange, and maybe a portal on both sites so people can bounce between the two. Your call, but our site stays.
It’s already registered. No going back.
Ihatemen.com and ihatewomen.com pretty much shared the exact same members and the same design, but owned by the same guy. Our site owner and you will have to work something out.

http://www.ihatewomen.org/

So I have been married for almost 6 years now and I can honestly say that more often than not I hate my husband. My biggest complaint is that he sleeps on the couch 99% of the time. He falls asleep watching tv and despite his recent promise to me to try to read in bed like I do before going to sleep, I still find him on the couch in the morning, usually with the tv and lights still on! IT DRIVES ME CRAZY! Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of other issues. The next most important one is that the romance (what little there was) is completely gone. So I am always asking myself- why did I get married? Is this reason enough to leave? I am usually unhappy and even miserable at times. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

I used to think so. They’re poetic and more in tune with their emotions and the emotions of the people around them. Sure, most of them are sweethearts who serenade me with Leonard Cohen songs when I’m sad and give me back massages and hugs… But they aren’t all always that way. One of them in particular.
I secretly loved Mr. Poetic Piano Man for three years and it remained a secret until February this year. He lives in Calgary and I live in Edmonton – he came back into my life at writing camp. After that weekend, we saw a lot more of each other; we talked a lot, eventually I met his family and his friends, we kissed. I spent hours with him whenever I could, I listened to him; his poetry, his piano playing, everything he told me. I was even more in love.
Until I found out. Single, he told me? Single, my ass.
I found out that I was one of five girls that he had feelings for – including his GIRLFRIEND, who had just graduated from high school. At first, I thought I could deal. In a desperate attempt to forget about him, I let my heartbroken friend use me to get over his ex. I ended up being hurt anew when he left me as well. Talk about opening a new wound. I should’ve seen that one coming. So I panicked and ended up avoiding both guys – I found that I couldn’t deal with them just yet.
Several months after getting reacquainted with Mr. Poetic Piano Man, I found myself having to live with him again for a week at writing camp. It was hard. Being so close to him, but so far away. I broke down a lot – and the fact that he knew I was hurting and didn’t seem to give a fuck hurt me even more. He still had his sweet moments. He still stopped to smile at me, he still hugged me goodnight, he still gave me back massages. Which only pissed me off more – I was trying to get over him and he sure as hell wasn’t helping. Didn’t he know that I loved him? So I deduced that he is either an jerk or stupid. He either knows that I loved him and is messing with my mind or he has no idea how I felt. He’s smart. I want to believe that he is the latter.
Before I even met Mr. Poetic Piano Man or Mr. Heartbroken, I somehow developed feelings for Mr. Call of Duty. Yes, the kind of guy who cares about videogames more than his girlfriend – not that he’d ever had one, anyway. When I was reunited with my ex in February, I completely forgot about him. I only had eyes for the Piano Man. But – surprise, surprise – Mr. Call of Duty decides to make another appearance in my life. Thus complicating things – again. I KNOW that he isn’t right for me and I KNOW that it would end very badly, but I’m in a really indecisive spot right now. I tend to move on from a past heartbreak(s) by finding someone else. I know, it’s rebound. But I can’t control who it is that I develop feelings for after a breakup. It’s also the only way I’m going to move on. And I really don’t want to be moving on by being with Mr. COD. But at this point, it looks like another inevitability.
I deserve better than a guy who brings up my boobs and having sex in conversation every five minutes! I deserve better than a guy who will use me to get over his ex and then move on to another girl completely! I deserve better than a guy who will lead me on and then drop me just like that! I know that there are guys out there that are better than any emotional wreck or flirt or horny gamer. I’ve met them, I’ve befriended them – and they are what gives me hope. But just because I have that hope doesn’t mean that I don’t hate men right now.
Do writers make better lovers? Nope, not this one.

Okay so I met this guy online. At first he seemed like a nice decent man. We talked for a month before we met. Yes I slept with him (I can do that, I am an adult). So why is he a douche? Well, I don’t think a real man would use a woman to get to her friends. dude grow up, you are a grown man. if you want to be friends with my friends go ahead. Don’t use me in that way. What goes around comes around.

Ladies,
I advise you all to get a NEW hobby and not waste your time nor brain capacity on idiots. I have avoided men at all cost and I do all the approaching, I only approach extremely attractive men and flaunt them around campus (why not?).
Have fun ladies, if a guy wants to waste your time then you mimic your prey down to the tail between his balls.
Also teach yourselves something new and become wiser everyday…I have done this myself, I taught myself how to sew and have read a lot more books than ever before. Most of the books I read are well beyond “library standards”…read books that are hard to find and about a subject you have a passionate interest in.
There is also one woman that I truly look up to named Alexyss K. Tylor, I can tell you she will put a muzzle on these dogs.

I am a 23 year old virgin. I am very attractive and I guess most men think I am either taken or a tart. Whenever I meet a guy and I really like him .. and he shows obvious interest .. i get disappointed when I find out he is either married or has a girlfriend some time later. It’s like my interest is an ego boost or something. Why can’t I just attract a nice guy who likes me and is single? I am a nice person ffs, I have a good job, and I am fun. Men who ARE single seem to just fall in love with me instantly without even getting to know me so I don’t even bother with that crap – not interested to get to know me either. My friends all told me my expectations are too high and to try dating unattractive men and they were even worse a$$holes – embarrassing me in front of their mates with ‘look at my hot a$$ girlfriend’ and making me feel like I wasn’t even a human being. I will die a virgin. I hate men : )

I would really appreciate replies from women only, that’s why I’m here.

There is/was (he’s persuing his music career, or so he tells everybody) that Im head over for this guy. Im still in college, 23, a virgin, I guess you would label me a “good girl” and unfortunately I have always been attracted to my father.
My father is flirty, outgoing, cocky/confident, cheap-ass hell, just that so called “alpha male” type and can blend in into any of his surroundings. Since Im 23 my father has become an overbearing asshole towards me…and I will leave it at that.
Unfortunately, the guys Ive always falling the hardest for are just like him but I never seem to win them over. I’m so sick of trying, I told my crush numerous times how I felt and its like no one gives two craps about chasing a girl like me. I’ve been complaining about guys for as long as I can remember.
Everyone tells me to wait for this and that, but what the h3ll am I waiting for? I’m TWENTY THREE and I want to DATE the guys Im actually WANT…I always give the “good guys” but these posers are quick to invite my over their house. (to watch a movie, yea right…)

Do guys not understand what a virgin is?

Sh**, am I being unrealistic…I want to screw that ULTIMATE guy, not someone I really don’t want…I want it to be worth losing…like someone really rich/attractive/etc. of course, I want him to be the envy of everyone because a virgin is worth THAT MUCH. Its silly to some but I want to have pride it losing it to whomever the “one” maybe.

Can’t these men raise their sons to work for the VAGINA? …d*mn so lazy.

I must be honest, I dislike most men. This more than likely stems from my past, in fact I know it does (it’s a long story so I’ll make it short… Mother sold me to stepfather who was trucker I was forced into prosititution at a very young age lasted for 11 years, many bad men). When I was 18 I met a dude online and flew out to meet him (very unlike me) needless to say I fell for him quickly as he did for me. The first year of our relationship was rough because I was learning to accept and cope with my past but we loved each other passionately; soon after I began feeling ‘normal’ I had bouts of guilt. I felt guilty for being happy for some reason and I cheated on him as a form of self punishment. After a few months of separation he took me back and I swore it would never happen again but almost exactly a year later I did it again (twice) as a punishment for myself. It’s been awhile since the last screw-up and during that time I have learned to identify and halt the thoughts that enter my mind when I’m feeling down and I have begun to truely respect myself and my body. The problem is… I think I’ve hurt him to much for him to see that my behavior has changed, I want him in my life more than anything else. Should I just let him go even though my heart refuses to believe that that is the right thing to do? He still acts as if he wants me in his life but when I ask him to take me back he shy’s away (I don’t blame him), Am I being too pushy? How can I downplay such powerful emotions to make him more comfortable? He also found out he is more than likely gonna die in the next year if he doesn’t get surgery (that we can’t afford), how can I help him cope with his fears while letting him know I want to spend the rest of our lives together be it 6 months or 6 decades? (I’ve told him outright but IDK if he believes it)
He is the only man I’ve ever loved and ever trusted I don’t want to lose him. Y was I not strong enough to fight off the thoughts that so many sick men put into my head? Y do I still suffer? Y can’t I get a break?

I dont profess to be an expert .. but I really have been where you are now. Whatever stage you are at .. numb.. hurting.. embarrassed.. asking yourself why.. or already furious .. there are things you need to do to hold yourself together and in some cases.. salvage your pride.

They say losing a boyfriend/lover is the same as losing a loved one in death. Well they are right. The numbness is the same .. the why me .. the how could you do this to me.. then the anger comes.

Of course if he happens to be still living around the corner or he goes to the same school or office – then there is another couple of stages after the anger. ‘I will always love you………and maybe’ This is based loosely on that scenario.. and how to help yourself get over it with your head held high and a modicum of pride.

* Its all over and you are in the numb stage. Mind numbingly blank.. (your body/mind is in shock) so try hot sweet drinks.. a warm bed ..and no.. alcohol/drugs wont help. It makes it worse and postpones the pain. This stage lasts a few days for those that thought they were in ‘real love’ so if you can.. keep a low profile and let it out. Cry if you can because it helps.. and I really mean that.

You will find that every few days you just seem to scroll through ‘stages’ so just go with the flow. Its easier to let it happen and not fight it. Theres nothing you can do to stop it and you really shouldnt try. Its a stress release that happens in humans..and its perfectly normal. Of course thats hard to accept when you get to the last stage and you want to commit murder just to get even with him.

Soooo..lets start that ‘getting even’ bit or as its commonly known.. salvaging your pride and moving on. This is about Empowering you and showing him you dont give a toss (even if you still do)

*Your diary.
Yes you need to keep one.. and no I dont mean a blog. I mean a private handwritten ‘for your eyes only’ diary because thats the only way to get it all out. When you get to the ‘anger’ stage and formulated your thoughts then you can let it all out on a blog (no names please) and go for it. You can create one from the main page of this site. Until you are at that stage you will be asking yourself how he could do this.. because you gave him everything he asked for and more.. and he still dumped you.

*Hairdresser.
Change your hair.. even if its just a cut. If you can afford it get a color or a perm or all 3. Theres a song that goes..’Im gonna wash that man right out of my hair’.. and nothing beats a haircut after a break up. Its like you really are cutting him out of your hair. Symbolic of course but it works. This is one of the first things you must do. It dosent matter if you burst into tears while she’s cutting your hair. Hairdressers are ok..they see that all the time. Odds are she will take special care and help you to feel better.

*Your bedroom.
Strip it out .. wash everything. Change your room around. Even if you dont have $$ to do anything really radical you can put the bed on another wall. Add a plant. If you have a desk.. place it so when you sit at your desk you are facing the door. Thats a feng shui power move and believe me.. it puts you in control.

*Facebook/Social sites/Emails/Phone/Twitter.
Change your wallpaper.. and take all pics of him down. Yes…..straight away. Everything of him HAS to go. No sad love songs and no ‘Ive lost him’ poems. Put that in your diary. Make it look to the world as if its YOU dumping him. Unfriend him..block his name on your emails.. take him off your chat list.

I can promise you if you dont..then you will hang on to the hurt (and the hope) for months longer than you need to and it will grind you down. He will have moved on and be with a new girl (or more) before you let him go.. and thats not going to help you..or your real friends. Its like when you do your bedroom.. you see a new picture and lessen the pain.

Theres another reason to do it. If there are any other guys out there that like you and watch your site..they will know you are ‘free’ and they can safely ask you for coffee. Nothing worse than a new boyfriend having to look at an old boyfriend on your facebook/myspace. I know thats the last thing on your mind right now.. but it will be the first thing on theirs.

*Clothes.
If you have an outfit that he really liked.. either bin it or put it in the back of a drawer until next season. Jeans you can get away with keeping..but not a top or jacket. Besides..if you have changed your hair color then odds are it wont look good anyway. (Dont forget to get a new lipstick to go with the color. What looks good on a blonde wont look good on a red head or vice versa)

*School/Work.
If you cant avoid seeing him then you are just going to have to brave it through. ‘Fake it until you make it.’ At school you can have a trusted girlfriend to walk around with so you are not alone.. (dont try blackmailing your brother into coming up with a ‘buddy’ to help you.. they spill the beans eventually and will feel bad all over again)
Hold your head up high (with your new hairdo) and walk on.

*Talk.
To your mom/nana/girlfriends/church friends. It hurts to keep it in and helps to get it out. Trust them.. they can help you. If by chance you find yourself a single mother..then you will need these women by your side to help. Ask for it.. you do not have to do this alone.

Nobody said this will be easy.. and right now its the hardest thing you will ever have to do.. but do it you must. By the time you get through this list you will be at the ‘I hate Men’ stage.. and once you are angry.. you are on the road to life again.

We are Women.. we are strong. We are the givers of life and the nurturers.. and we can certainly kick ass when we need to. So if anyone reading this Blog can add something more to the list.. please do so. Every little hug helps when someone is in pain.

Remember.. be the change you want to see. ♥

Its not even a good game?? The graphics are great but the whole ragdoll thing is outdated……the the single player is SO linear and non replayable and the multiplayer is just fdull of racist 6 year olds who camp……bad company 2 all the way…….ahem..anyway

Basically I LOOVEE my gaming….and my girlfriend knows this….but what she also knows is…..(no hazzmatty not to ‘shut the hell up when im gaming’)….she knows that i love HER much more…and i would much rather have a normal day out with her than have a hardcore gaming session playing DiRT 2…(my fave atm lol)….really though its a mutual understanding.

You need to just lay the law Steph…..tell him that if he loves you he better start showing it MORE than that (overated badly made and rushed) game….the days of the MAN setting the rules and WOMAN obeying are long gone…its 2010 guys the only way you can make men change is to force them to evolve…..i tell all my girls mates this and they trust me because I am a male and I know a lot of guys who know a lot guys etc….

if he doesnt like it steph it means you can do better than someone who is so ignorant and wont listen…it means you and him are not compatible and similarly to what ‘TheFounder’ said its down to fundemental flaws. It doesnt mean theres anything wrong with you….and maybe not even him…but if he wont listen then hes being ignorant and it means you should kick him to the curb and let some weak submissive girl take him onboard.

I always say….be strong…have a backbone…and set the standards you think you deserve and dont let guys bend those standards for their own benefit.

Good luck Steph!

Okay so I am a member of the male species and with a lovely girlfriend at the moment, i figured I should post here seeing as most of the comments are from women expressing their personal experiences.

Being a guy, i am friends with a lot of guys and these guys are all friends with other guys so naturally i here a lot of stories as well as opinions of how and what men think (if you can call it that)

Basically men are simple, disgusting creatures..mostly…they are also manipulative though, and in my opinion the man is as simple as the ape it once was 10 million years thus meaning you can not expect any change, in fact its the weakness of a lot of women that allow men to be what they are. You see a pretty face and you fall to your knees with love, he says the right thing and he has his way, women need to change first so that man can evolve. Be strong, vigilante and trust no one, if he likes you enough he will find a way to hang in there to earn your trust….that said some women are just as bad as men making it harder….we just have to hope that the male sluts join with the female sluts and leave everyone else alone.

Let me now express some stories of how typical a man is and how disgusting they are….to the extent it makes me actually sick that i am technically one of them

1. Party, man likes woman….woman flirts from distance but nothing comes of it….at the end of the party when everyone is asleep…out of frustration the man masturbates and then ejaculates in her face. His friend shows him nothing more than respect for what he has done……in my opinion they both deserve cancer

2.Man and woman getting it on at party….the man takes a break and goes upstairs to watch porn to get himself ‘ready’…goes downstairs and says ”well?..you guna finish me off”…not only was this male disgusting and perverted…like most…but the woman got with him anyway…..and thus the male got his way…and ticked her off….if anyone had any sense they would not touch her out of fear of catching something….some woman just need a backbone and also know when to stop drinking! its disgusting!

3.A colleague from work, as a girlfriend who is pregnant with his child…sadly..its a boy…..(or rather it will be….i see him out most days and hes flirting with and getting with other girls….now usually I would say shame on the girl for not getting an abortion and leaving him…but the story continues….i know this gy and he has a violent part about him…mainly because he does cocaine most nights before he goes out…..he boasts to his friends how he hits her to keep her inline and if she ever left him he would put her in hospital….his ex gf who is a friend of mine was pushed down stairs by him and when her sister told him off he spat in her face. I could go on for a LONG time about this one but I will move on….

I mean most guys I see I just automatically hate….I ask myself….if my loved one was drunk can I trust them to look after her…….I think the answer would be no in most cases…..you can usually tell by the way they dress and carry themselves…the way they talk….their arrogance….the car they drive…how they drive it……but I find its also the ones who look ‘normal’ and friendly enough are just as bad.

Women…take my insider advice….be strong and be easy and weak! no matter how hot he is! men will not evolve if women continue to be week. MOST men are disgusting creatures….from the ages of 14 to…..well….death….it makes me sick how parents allow their offspring to become these animals and it shocks me how so many women stand for it!

Men love being in charge and only want one thing, most of ‘us’ have no respect for women at all even though it may come across differently…hence why ‘we’ are so good at manipulating the fairer sex.

Anyway…thanks to whoever made this site….i let off some steam….ha

Good luck ladies and spread the word!

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