Is there someone out there for everyone?

I always wonder to myself, “Is there someone out there for everyone? and if so when will they show up?” So many questions left unanswered. Life truly is what you make of it. The other day I was on my way to work and I was sitting at a red light thinking…thinking about my day ahead and so forth, until I heard honking. I look to my right and it was my ex who was also going to work. At that point I was about 10 miles from work and sat in the driver’s seat wondering, “did he ever find happiness?”

Life is strange how it works. One minute you think that everything is going the way you expect it to and then you wake up and not everything is perfect. Ever since I entered the “dating” pool for the first time since I was 17 things are definitely different. For 3 1/2 years I never had to “worry” about being single or ever wonder who I would be with, because at the time I thought my ex was everything I needed and more.

I was “off the market” for so long and now all of sudden I get so much attention. At first it was a nice transition from being with someone to becoming single, but now it’s overwhelming. “When will I know when the right person comes along?” What if I think he’s the right guy, but isn’t? and he just didn’t come along yet?

I realize that there are many people out there with similar thoughts and just take the risk with who they “think” is right for them. I look at my parents who will be married 24 years next month and think how did they know? I ask them and they always say, “love.” After 24 years they have their ups and downs like any normal couple, but how come my high school “sweetheart” and I fell out of love, when my parents were high school sweethearts and stayed in love?

People say that when you are least expect someone to come along they will. It’s hard to believe that, because everyday you see couples together, hear stories about relationships, etc. It’s hard to ignore the fact that you don’t have a “true” love in your life.

How can I determine what feelings are real?

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1. laci salada on October 24th, 2008 at 11:12 am
I think that each of us is compatible with many people — you choose to love and create a commitment. Love is a feeling that springs from action (as well as our loins). And that’s what’s so sad about our society right now — too many people are chasing superficial marketing dreams based on infatuation and disguised as The Quest for a Soul Mate (TM). Consumerism feeding off a biology-fuelled scarcity complex, no?

Unfortunately, I think women like myself, who are below-average looking and in their thirties, will be lucky to marry (read: have children.) Why? Because despite what our politically correct society likes to tells us, *all* men no matter where they sit in the attractiveness hierarchy seem to feel “entitled” to women above them in looks and status. No matter what they themselves look like, or what their intelligence level is! This never ceases to amaze (and dissapoint) me. Below-average looking men seldom end up with their marketing dream, and instead wake up at forty (the male equivalent of a woman’s thirty, natch) wondering where their youth went.

Who’s chasing the below-average looking women? No one, we’re invisible — from below-average looking men and the media (who concentrate on attractive women only.) I’m not one of those mythical single women being avenged for passing over all the poor men who threw themselves at her feet in her twenties! Oh to have had such attention! I’m kind, happy, warm, short, giving, stylish, settled, travelled, slim, altruistic, and a million other adjectives that don’t matter on internet dating websites because I’m not purdy. In fact, I’m really kinda plain. Kinda human. Like all the kinda plain, kinda human men out there. But oh — did I mention I’m “realistic”?

I’ve cut my losses with men, and I’m in the process of adopting a baby and becoming a mother — yay! Maybe I’ll meet a man to have a relationship with afterwards when my baby is at school, maybe I won’t. But I will be a mother! Oh, how I will be a mother! The rest of my life is going to be gruelling and incredible — I can’t wait

2. Bella on October 12th, 2008 at 7:22 am
There’s someone for everyone. I meet women that are 100% what I want in a woman. But so far, all those someone’s are already taken. What’s worse, taken by those who don’t deserve her!

The question might be better asked, “Is there someone left who’s single that is for me?”

3. DaveA on September 28th, 2008 at 10:23 am
Krissy,

That’s awesome. Isn’t that so unbelievable that stories like yours actually happen, I hope you both continue to hit it off. I’m with my boyfriend now for over a month and I’m so happy. We actually went on a date about five years ago and we’ve been good friends ever since so things are going really well. How did you both get up the nerve to start up a conversation and meet? I don’t think I could have ever done that! Let me know how things go!!

BYE!!

4. Destiny on September 21st, 2008 at 9:14 pm
I have had problems with men all my life. Recently, I tried to remember a friends number(my cell was dead), and dialeda different number (got the last four digits wrong. It was this guy, and we started talking and though neither of us are the type to do this, we met at a coffee shop. To my surprise, he had a NICE car and was really hot. AND I cant remember the last time I was this comfortable around someone or could conversate so well. We are somuch a like and are fascinated by eachother. I dialed the right wrong number! I feel something with him that is different. It has only been a week so I dont know if he is THE ONE, but I now believe that it is possible.

5. Krissy on September 21st, 2008 at 1:12 pm
Who fucking cares???
The focus is STILL on men i.e ‘ I will find my guy’…
HELLO we need a paradigm shift.
A shift where the focus is from MEN & ‘who’ or ‘whom’ is he going to be??? and onto fucking ‘why’????
Why do we ultimately need being hurt and crushed, why do we even need the oposite sex?
Why?????
Perhaps becuse the male dominated society in which we live tells us that ‘Jesus was the male son of a male god’ and that women in all biblical aspect were whores, dim-wits and at best ingnorant vessels for the bringing through of this male energy/jesus.

Then we woman are taught that we are so inferior/corrupting and evil, that we can not preach or partake in the intimate rituals of religious life???!!!!

What a huge load of posion that we womwen swallow… and why are young women suffering rejection in the forms of bulimia and anorexia???? OH dear!!!! is it not obvious??????

Contact me with your veiws

On: midsomer@iinet.net.au

LIGHT
Debra

6. Dee on July 19th, 2008 at 9:40 am