I HATE MEN

I am sure many of you are here because you “hate men“, but do you really hate all men or just a few that pissed you off.

Well maybe not the best question, but I personally do not hate men. If you have read a little about me you will find that I am single, but I certainly do not want to be single forever. I have picked wrong guys in the past, so now I am more choosy when looking for a new man.

The New Year is approaching, so lets start fresh.

First you need to take care of yourself…really what nice guys wants a girl that is falling apart. Get your career on track, manage your money well, find new interest or pick up an old one (interest not habit), start exercising, eat well, and take time for you. I mean seriously, how are you going to have a healthy relationship if you’re not healthy.

For the fresh start I think it is best to clean up the past. Apologies to those you wronged, take responsibility for what you have done and do what is necessary to make it better, and eliminate activities and relationships that drain you.

Now it is time to find Mr. Right.

No Comfort Zone Allowed
Get out of your comfort zone and start meeting people. Go to new places, and make new friends. It is also a good idea to know what you are looking for so you don’t waste your time or anyone else’s time. If you don’t like kids, and the guy has three it’s best to not get involved.

Communication Skills
When you are out, pay attention to how you communicate with others. Communication is important in every relationship, so make sure you listen well and speak what you mean. It is also important to focus on now…don’t let yourself get caught up in the past.

Be Open Minded
When you are looking for Mr. Right, you don’t need to have everything in common…look for someone that has several shared interest with you. You don’t need to do everything together.

I use to think that the color of someone’s hair, how much they weigh, or how tall they were was a non-negotiable requirement…I have come to learn it was what I thought I wanted. Remember it is not all about looks, or even having similar interest…there is much more to a relationship than that.

Relationship Requirements

To have a lasting relationship find someone with similar values.

Chemistry is a must. Just remember attraction alone is not enough to sustain a relationship.

In order to get love right, you need to choose someone you admire and respect. A love of equals.

Find someone with purpose to their lives. Then support each other and help each other achieve goals.

Find someone you trust. Build trust with each other and gain emotional safety.

Share a healthy self esteem to build a good strong relationship. Let your partner know they matter, are important in the world, and have much to contribute.

Find and give support for your life, plans, and dreams.

Remember, relationships that last have the qualities that endure, such as kindness, intelligence, honesty, patience, and vibrancy.

Happy Dating!