“The male is completely egocentric, trapped inside himself, incapable of empathizing or identifying with others, or love, friendship, affection of tenderness. He is a completely isolated unit, incapable of rapport with anyone. His responses are entirely visceral, not cerebral; his intelligence is a mere tool in the services of his drives and needs; he is incapable of mental passion, mental interaction; he can’t relate to anything other than his own physical sensations. He is a half-dead, unresponsive lump, incapable of giving or receiving pleasure or happiness; consequently, he is at best an utter bore, an inoffensive blob, since only those capable of absorption in others can be charming. He is trapped in a twilight zone halfway between humans and apes, and is far worse off than the apes because, unlike the apes, he is capable of a large array of negative feelings — hate, jealousy, contempt, disgust, guilt, shame, doubt — and moreover, he is aware of what he is and what he isn’t.”

- excerpt from Valerie Solanas’ “Scum Manifesto”

Men can be Jealous Idiots and can’t just let things rest. I made sure to point out the faults to the point that a restraining order was requested for stalking and raw fear of what I might do. In my mind, I was thinking “If it’s drama you want, check this out”.

To make a long story short, my previous relationship has now been over for a year and wow would I love to have some company within life. The bad part is that a year hasn’t even scratched the anger that I still possess. How could I ever keep from letting my damaged feelings pop up the first time something similar happens to my previous relation. I often wonder what the triggers could possibly be, maybe even a kiss. How long will the damages caused by trying to hold onto a relationship that was doomed affect future relations? What about the fear of love and caring being turned on you as a weapon. I can’t think of a single thing that hurts more than someone you love and care for turning against you in an all-out offense. I was hit at 30 MPH on a bicycle and spent many days in the hospital/rehab and that was like having a pimple compared to the damages I felt from my ex. This is the worst part, I didn’t just stand there and take it, I delt it right back. Talk about inviting more of it. I now look at the outcome. I am single and looking with hose/land/car/investments and the ex is homeless trying to dodge arrest for drugs.
I posted on plentyoffish.com and pretty much spelled out in the comments about myself that I am a destroyed man that still wants love…any suckers out there. I doubt this will be posted, but quite often there is a sword with a sharp edge on the front and back.

Firstly, I was not at all irritated by this e-mail, and I believed that I responded in a very rational and also helpful manner.

Vowing to never date men does not make her a “strong woman”, if it is for the wrong reasons. I did not rip this woman apart, but rather tried to build her back up. I think your whole problem is that you are being narrowed minded…how can an upset and angered women get helpful advice from a biased person like you.

I never suggested that this woman needed a man, and I suggested that she take time to find herself before she get into any relationship…maybe I need to refresh your memory:

“I think that you first need to address the issues you have with yourself before you try to get into any relationship…whether it be with a man or a woman.”

Not in any part of my post did I sympathize with men, or even suggest that this woman needed a man.

I personally have the “balls” to run this site, and I think I do a great job at it. I have taken a stance not only to stand up for myself, but many other women over the years. I have felt this “abuse” you speak about first hand, and the only way to get out of it is to stand up for yourself…something I did over three years ago.

I was physically and mentally abused by a man that I truly loved with all of my heart. I did not go and jump into relationships with women because I had one man treat me like shit. I stood up against him, and was able to make it on my own. Over the past three years while I was not in any relationships, I worked on helping myself, and becoming the women I have always wanted to be.

There is nothing wrong with being nice, and there is a difference between putting people down and being honest. This is me being straight up honest: “Women can be just as conniving, manipulative, controlling, disloyal, and hurtful as men.”

I am not putting women down, those characteristics are not gender specific (that is what you need to understand), they are unique to every individual. This being stated, I have in no way stereotyped either gender. Can men be dicks, jerks, assholes…absolutely. Can women be bitches…without a doubt. All I’m saying is that it is up to you what you want to be. I want to be the nice, strong, happy, optimistic, loving life…person. It appears to me that not only do you want to be a “man hater”, but you want every other women to be one as well…seems a little closed minded to me.

I am proud to be yet another woman who will never date men again. My life will be loads better than yours ever will be by that fact alone. Stop judging your own fucking gender for being strong enough to go it without walking pieces of shit with flaccid dicks.