I HATE MEN

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1. I am more than likely the very “Pig” that causes the arctic wind that stings your soul. I also was in a relationship where I cared for the person beyond belief. I tried to do about everything I could to make the relationship work and it did for about 1.5 years. To be quite honest it was wonderful for a good part of that time. My partner had been involved in drugs and alcohol in the past, as well as some other bad decisions. After multiple dealings with the legal issues that kept popping up and the choice of friends my partner associated with, I started ignoring and isolating myself. Before long I was being told “Being around you is like walking on a floor covered with potato-chips”. The rebellion that pounded me was beyond my belief, I couldn’t believe that someone that said “I love you” could do such things. I could honestly write a book on the drama that started pounding at me, but I tried to hold my ground and say “That didn’t hurt, but I am going to try and fix this”. I finally ended the relationship due to having no choice, but not after taking enough damage that trust will be a hard thing for me to find again. 4 days after we broke up, my ex got married to a homeless drug dealer and pretty much passed all the things that I had given and worked for to the relationship that she now had. Her whole motive to getting married to him was “He doesn’t complain about anything that I do”. The Tag watch was sold and smoked in a pipe within the first month along with many other things that I hoped would be cherished someday.

   Men can be Jealous Idiots and can’t just let things rest. I made sure to point out the faults to the point that a restraining order was requested for stalking and raw fear of what I might do. In my mind, I was thinking “If it’s drama you want, check this out”.

   To make a long story short, my previous relationship has now been over for a year and wow would I love to have some company within life. The bad part is that a year hasn’t even scratched the anger that I still possess. How could I ever keep from letting my damaged feelings pop up the first time something similar happens to my previous relation. I often wonder what the triggers could possibly be, maybe even a kiss. How long will the damages caused by trying to hold onto a relationship that was doomed affect future relations? What about the fear of love and caring being turned on you as a weapon. I can’t think of a single thing that hurts more than someone you love and care for turning against you in an all-out offense. I was hit at 30 MPH on a bicycle and spent many days in the hospital/rehab and that was like having a pimple compared to the damages I felt from my ex. This is the worst part, I didn’t just stand there and take it, I delt it right back. Talk about inviting more of it. I now look at the outcome. I am single and looking with hose/land/car/investments and the ex is homeless trying to dodge arrest for drugs.
   I posted on plentyoffish.com and pretty much spelled out in the comments about myself that I am a destroyed man that still wants love…any suckers out there. I doubt this will be posted, but quite often there is a sword with a sharp edge on the front and back.

   1. Wilson on June 15th, 2008 at 9:07 am

2. I am with one fellow who is so rude and cold. One thing that irritates me is his cold behavior which he never corrected inspite of me telling him not to be so. This ass has this cold rude behavior with all his folks and not only to me. What should i do.

   2. Anna Philips on June 7th, 2008 at 7:38 am

3. I’ve got a friend thats 48 & hes so cold hearted, hes so rude.. Just cause I had corrected him on some one that he said was my friend & I disagreed with him.. I wasen’t rude with him I Just don’t like this woman he keeps mentionening to me..& I Don’t understand why he keeps bringing her up when ever I’m with him.. so I’ve decided to not ever talk to him & I will not ever email him again cause of his rudeness & him bein col hearted..

   3. Kathy on May 10th, 2008 at 5:57 pm

4. My father, a psychologist, began beating me when I was 14. My hatred of men is tempered by the fact that my mother instigated and watched the beatings and refused to ever console me or apologize afterwards. I attribute my sanity to aliens, not god. Perhaps, it’s the same thing to you, but I assure you, it is not the same. A person influenced by aliens is hypersensitive, super-intelligent, and aware of everything taking place on the earth. A god-influenced person is in isolation and knows nothing about life outside of a TV reality. God-fearing people are so inacapable of knowing others that they believe TV portrays reality.
   I have thousands of pages to write, but I want to tell you about my most recent experience.
   I moved into this house with three men: a white Army officer, an Indian law student, and a half-black high school graduate working two jobs. After a month, everyone left for the X-mas holiday.
   I never had more than a twenty minute conversation with the law student. The rest were grunts and nods.
   For four months I was the maid of the house. These swine did absolutely nothing. When I said NO MORE, I was told that we would discuss it. Discuss whether I was the maid or not? I paid the exact same rent as these three men. WTF? WTF? WTF? I am older than all of them. I am less physically able to work than all of them. I have a heart murmur, yet these men decided that I needed to clean up after them, while they never gave a thought to anything. OMG! OMG! You cannot even begin to imagine what these men did. I thought I lived in psycho hell with women. Oh no. Women will act crazy when they are trying to fuck you up. Men act like they have no idea they have just slammed the microwave door for the hundreth time at 5AM. They will slam that mfer until eternity and claim ignorance. People are crazy, but men believe that every woman is a domestic slave. They believe they can just capture a woman and then go out and do their thing. These men are so chivalrous that they would do anything to avoid changing a roll of toilet paper. Men are garbage. Men are worthless parasites. What are they good for? All three of my male roommates treated me like their maid. All of them would have fucked me at a moment’s notice. OMG. Men are amoral cesspools, exploiters, oppressors, users.

   4. Sharon on March 31st, 2008 at 12:09 am

5. Men are assholes. I was with one and it was great then over night he decided he didn’t love me anymore and totally ignored me. Jackass

   5. nadia on March 27th, 2008 at 11:25 pm

6. Dear Lindsey,

   Firstly, I was not at all irritated by this e-mail, and I believed that I responded in a very rational and also helpful manner.

   Vowing to never date men does not make her a “strong woman”, if it is for the wrong reasons. I did not rip this woman apart, but rather tried to build her back up. I think your whole problem is that you are being narrowed minded…how can an upset and angered women get helpful advice from a biased person like you.

   I never suggested that this woman needed a man, and I suggested that she take time to find herself before she get into any relationship…maybe I need to refresh your memory:

   “I think that you first need to address the issues you have with yourself before you try to get into any relationship…whether it be with a man or a woman.”

   Not in any part of my post did I sympathize with men, or even suggest that this woman needed a man.

   I personally have the “balls” to run this site, and I think I do a great job at it. I have taken a stance not only to stand up for myself, but many other women over the years. I have felt this “abuse” you speak about first hand, and the only way to get out of it is to stand up for yourself…something I did over three years ago.

   I was physically and mentally abused by a man that I truly loved with all of my heart. I did not go and jump into relationships with women because I had one man treat me like shit. I stood up against him, and was able to make it on my own. Over the past three years while I was not in any relationships, I worked on helping myself, and becoming the women I have always wanted to be.

   There is nothing wrong with being nice, and there is a difference between putting people down and being honest. This is me being straight up honest: “Women can be just as conniving, manipulative, controlling, disloyal, and hurtful as men.”

   I am not putting women down, those characteristics are not gender specific (that is what you need to understand), they are unique to every individual. This being stated, I have in no way stereotyped either gender. Can men be dicks, jerks, assholes…absolutely. Can women be bitches…without a doubt. All I’m saying is that it is up to you what you want to be. I want to be the nice, strong, happy, optimistic, loving life…person. It appears to me that not only do you want to be a “man hater”, but you want every other women to be one as well…seems a little closed minded to me.

   6. a better woman on February 19th, 2008 at 3:18 pm

7. Telling that woman that vowing never to date men again is a cop-out is merely you judging her, which makes you a hypocrite for being the least bit irritated by her email. Vowing to never date men again makes a strong woman, those of you who need a man are only half a woman. Why the hell are you running a site called ihatemen.org if you’re going to rip apart every woman who is so sick of them that they don’t want to date them ever again? Men are shit, hands down. If you’re going to sympathize with men every time a woman talks about how she’s sick of their shit, stop running this site and hand it over to a strong woman who has the ‘balls’ to stand up and speak out against their abuse.

   I am proud to be yet another woman who will never date men again. My life will be loads better than yours ever will be by that fact alone. Stop judging your own fucking gender for being strong enough to go it without walking pieces of shit with flaccid dicks.

   7. Lindsey on February 17th, 2008 at 5:04 pm

8. I have tried my best to be positive but i can’t take it no more.what’s the use of having a relationship with any of them when everybody knows before hand that nothing can stop men from wanting other women and cheating.wherever you go,they’re all the same…assholes.

   8. Sylvia on February 15th, 2008 at 3:52 pm