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I hate men. I hate the games that have to be played with them.I hate the fact that they want women so bad sexually, if you have sex with them too quickly, they leave. It hurts so bad. I hate to think of how many men I have had sex with (only because I desire intimacy/closeness) and KNOW that I meant nothing to them (and vice versa). I’ve only had 2 real boyfriends, but several partners.
I hate the way men try to give you the bare minimum, but will take everything if you allow them to. The other day I was texting with a guy that likes me and I told him that I had gotten laid off of my job. He then says, “oh, you’re at home?” After I tell him yes, he proceeds to ask me if he can come over and watch tv with me. Call me crazy, but that made me so so angry! He has never ever invited me out to dinner, lunch, a movie, bowling, or any other type of date, but he wants to come over my house, kick off his shoes, watch my cable on my tv, sitting on my couch, in my house, where I don’t even know how I’m going to pay rent at this month. If there is one thing I know about men (especially those that will invite themselves over to your place of residence, or you to theirs) they want to try to establish some false sense of intimacy with you, put their arm around you, touch your leg, try to kiss you, eventually hoping it will lead to sex. All without them ever having to spend a dime on a damn date.
I hate men who approach me who are way out of their league. And I get so frustrated with myself for being so damn polite to them, and not wanting to hurt their feelings.
I hate how I have to pretend not to like the guys that I’m really interested in, knowing that if I pretend that I couldn’t care less about them, they will chase me to the ends of the earth. But if I am genuine and authentic, and show that I like them, they really aren’t interested. It’s the most unnatural thing in the world to pretend as if you don’t like someone when you actually do.
For every man that I have ever had sex with, I hate you. I hate you for making me feel worthless in your eyes, when I was simply trying to share a part of myself with you. I hate you for making me doubt myself. I hate you for making me have such a negative outlook on men. I hate you for making me cry. I hate you for not even making the sex worth my time.
by monykah23 Responses to “hate”
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I am 53 and single by choice following a near lifetime of crap from males. I was beaten and sexually abused numerous times as a child. My own father beat the crap out of all of us and my mom ,and the cops, males of course, did nothing. Sexism is rampant because men want control over women and are true only to their crotches. If women ran things, the world would be a better place.
Am I bitter ? Sure but I was not born this way; I was made this way, I love my kids and my dog but have no use for men. If you think they’re ass&^%$# now, wait until they age . YUK ! At least some were good looking back then…
I have neen humiliated, beaten, spit upon in the face, stolen from, and lied to , used and betrayed. Counseling ? For what? One counselor told me that considering all I have been through, it’s a wonder that I am not gay or nuts.
Men need women more than women need men. A slick campaign orchestrated by retail markets to make women think they’re too fat, ugly, hairy and smelly to attract a man and if they shape up then prince charming filthy rich good guy will come looking for them and you will be happy forever is BS.
I am content more than I ever have been in my life without a man to push me around.
I’m so glad I read what you wrote Monykah I feel the EXACT SAME WAY!!!! I could go on and on but simply put I hate men I just fuckin hate em. To my misogynist ex boyfriend to my cousin who molested me, to my neighborhood highschool crush that took advantage of me to the losers I’ve dated who made it seem like they’re such great guys but only want sex. Fuck these assholes. I hate men.
You too Sweet Sue!!! That’s so true—we have all this pressure to be all this for men who don’t even deserve the time of day. I’d rather be alone forever than with a man, with their controlling ways, the insecurities that they project onto women, the verbal and physical abuse. It’s so discouraging and just makes me hate them.
It truly is amazing that men claim to love sex so much. If they really are obsessed with it, why are they so BAD at it? Most could not find a clitoris to save their sorry lives. They are impotent in mind and body.
Ahhhhhhh……ok I’m new to this forum, and this is my first post. I’ve been reading on here the last hour or so and have found this site to be a breath of fresh air. Not that the topics are new, because they are ageless, but just to find a group of women who feel like I do every day and finally have somewhere to vent! Thank you ladies!
Hecate: because they are also lazy… and selfish….the same reason they would just as soon watch porn than actually have sex…it’s easier
Some days are emotional meltdown days for me; thank goodness ot doesn’t happen too often but when it does, it all come back to haunt me. I become immersed in outrage and sadness and relive things. I wish I could forget but it’s always there. I do not think I can ever trust a man again. They basically wrung me out completely emotionally and I just don’t want to even be bothered but there is this part of me that still believes in miracles but I have grown to dislike men to the point that I would not be a good partner either way.
I don’t want to be dependent on them in any way.
I just wanted to be loved. Got sick n tired of hearing lose weight-smile more-dont be too smart around guys-men need to feel good about themselves-build their egos-don’t give in too soon…don;t make them wait for sex too long-
Fuck that and fuck them.
Hun I feel the exact same way. I fricken hate two men right now, because they both made me feel like an object. I feel used and abused. I hate them!
I laughed when I read this!!! This may be a women’s website or some BS, but I cannot believe this!!! This is life. Are you getting raped in Ruwanda as a kid? Are you on the brink of starvation in Ethiopia? All you have to do is worry about your poor little emotions being hurt. Big deal!!! As a man a cannot stand emotional women. I hate self pity and if sex is such a big deal for you guys, here’s an idea… DONT SLEEP WITH THEM!!!
Monkykah, thank you for your comment about how men just want to come over to our houses for sex. It is so true. Sometimes I get so afraid of men liking me that I sometimes cover my head like a Muslim to prevent them from looking at me, even though I’m not really a Muslim. I’ve just studied alot of different religions. I usually do the Muslim covering thing as an outlet to feeling suicidal about feeling like an object. I’ve been pregnant twice. I have one baby in Open adoption. I see him three times per year. His name is Levi. I really hope that he grows up to be a proper young man who treats women right. About 6 months after my baby was born I wrote the birth fathers parents and told them about the baby, because he didn’t have the nerve to tell them. He called up the adoption counselor and complained that he was afraid to go home because I told his parents about his 6 month old baby. The adoption counselor took his side. Telling me that it was an evil thing to tell his parents about the baby and very Revengeful. Like I care that his parents are mad at him for having a baby. He deserves it, and they have the right to know that they have a grandchild even if they never see him.
Matt says:
February 2, 2010 at 5:06 pm
I laughed when I read this!!! This may be a women’s website or some BS, but I cannot believe this!!! This is life. Are you getting raped in Ruwanda as a kid? Are you on the brink of starvation in Ethiopia? All you have to do is worry about your poor little emotions being hurt. Big deal!!! As a man a cannot stand emotional women. I hate self pity and if sex is such a big deal for you guys, here’s an idea… DONT SLEEP WITH THEM!!!
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So here’s Matt to define what is abuse and then to diminish the abuse we have experienced by telling us that it could have been much worse and for that we should be thankful.
Message to Matt: go fuck yourself. I do not need to justify my pain and suffering to you and neither does anyone else here. You lack the empathy and compassion to care anyway so why are you here?
As far as sleeping with men, I have chosen to be celibate. and the choice is easy now considering the men in my age bracket 50+ cannot get it up and they’re sickly and dependent. No thanks. I
I know what you mean. Its that false sense of intimacy that kills us. Since when did dating become over rated? and why do we fall for the games,… I do this a lot now i don’t sleep with men but i am like a makeout bandit and i get all slutty when i drink and a cute guy shows me some interest. I hate men but i still have hope!
FUCK YOU MATT!!!
that’s another fucking reason why i hate men…they have anger issues,and they think they rule the whole damn world.
Matt, matt matt….lol…what a dick….even if you honestly believe what you’ve just said, why come on here and be a prick and kick off? Big deal – we’re slandering your sex on a website…men would never do that…..ha!
Women have come on here to express themselves freely and emotionally and despite what you may think of their views, your harsh reaction is so unnecessary…no one was gettin at you personally so…how do i put this? fuck off!
no such thing as a good guy….just a bad guy who thinks hes an angel…
Hey Monykah, everything you have written is so true. I feel exactly and totally the same, I have been through so, so much, all men are the same, and frankly I wish I could go back and undo it all! But it’s done, and the best you can do is never repeat these mistakes and live your life with the utmost dignity and independence! Men are not required – treat yourself like a princess.
And also to SweetSue, thank you so, so much – you have voiced EXACTLY what’s happened to me. You and Monykah put into words what I couldn’t.
I’m finished with men – it’s poison for me. Total poison. Always a backward step. Always destructuve. I hate men for doing this to me. The pain is always there, yes. Very hard to deal with. But thank you for making me feel not so alone with this stuff.
OMG- I am in so much pain right now because of some stupid, dick, player who ‘likes me’ (apparently!!) but ‘doesn’t want a relationship’. What this basically translates to is ‘I want a fuck but you aren’t worthy of anything more’. I’m so angry. This might sound conceited but I swear this bastard doesn’t deserve me anyway!! I HATE MEN and I LOVE this blog.
To being single and happy!!!!
Hello Ladies!
I love this site and I just want to say I whole heartedly agree with Monikah! Although all men aren’t trash (I know a few exceptions in the Church) unless they are really truly trying to live up to something bigger than themselves as a God-Fearing man, then there is no hope for them as males.
As part of our hatred for them is the utter frustration that we need a good one! Our hopes and dreams of being mothers and having a strong man to protect us and provide can’t happen without one!
So I hate men because my dream cannot ever come true unless I find one good one who loves me.
I hate men because I I’m afriad I may be alone for the rest fo my life
I hate men because I may never get to wear that white gown
I hate men because almost all of them require petite females
I hate men because I’d like to have one
I hate men because none of them are interested in me only sex
I hate men because even the ones who want sex are too lazy to go about getting it the right way
And to Matt- If you dont want an emotional woman, then you need to become a homosexual!
You know girls,
i had sex like a man once. I was drunk and i decided i wanted sex so i thought fuck it, i’m going to have sex with a guy tonight….so me and my friend ended up meeting these guys and we went back to their apartment nearby and i had very good drunk sex! I woke up the next day and thought shit what have i done…i then thought oh my god this is actually quite funny, i then said to the guy can u call me a taxi and i grabbed my friend and out we went. The guy was about to ask for my number and i just cut him off and away i went feel powerful and somewhat liberated…there were no strings attached, no emotional ties or promises or sweet talk neccessary – just sex – he didn’t need to hoax me into bed, i didn’t feel the need to be emotionally involved with a stranger – just sex
And after i thought to myself. i get why women do this! I get my why they just go out and treat sex and men the way men can treat us and because i felt so good after i thought yeah! this may be the way forward, just have sex like a man!….But then after..when i really thought about it… i realised it wasn’t about the sex…it never was. It was just a moment of madness because i was angry at the guy i fancied who was my friend who took another girl home that night…
At the end of the day, for me. I don’t want just sex….even though i know i can get it and i could probs handle it like a man if i wanted to…but i don’t want to! And women shouldn’t be the only ones that wants sex and love!
so…
i hate men for not wanting more than just sex……
i hate the men who say they are straight to the point, honest and hate playing games. You know the ones who use the “honesty” card as a way of sayin “look babe if i don’t like you i will just tell you. If it’s not workin for me, i won’t be long telling you!” and YET they are the worst kind who lie and cheat
i hate men for knowing what to say until u break down your barriers
i hate them for hurting me and making me have to re-build my defences
i hate them
Miss Dawn posted ( snipped):
I hate men because almost all of them require petite females
and why is that ? because smaller women are easier to control physically.
Men should not be in charge of government. Look what happens as soon as one gets elected; their crotches start to wander. Party affiliation doesn’t seem to matter; it’s all about how their tiny crotches control their thinking and behavior.
John Edwards is a lying asshole for denying the baby was his, for denying his affair and for HUMILIATING his wife. Likewise the others in office. Screwing around when they should be fixing America. Men should NOT hold public office!
Addition to this, men should take meds to control their crotches but they won’t.
For those ailments exclusive to women, there is mydol. Why nothing for that which ail men, their wandering slut crotches causing them to lie, cheat, deny, be derelect in duty, commit perjury, steal..all just to satisfy their dicks.
I completely understand you honey. Everything you said sounds like what I’ve been through with men. I used to feel like I was never going to find a good man. For a long time I was bitter. But I realized that I had to play the game how it’s supposed to be played. Don’t be so quick to get your feelings involved. With every guy you talk to go in strictly for friendship. Keep your options open. (Talk to more than 1 person at a time) That way if they mess up you won’t be so hurt. I know you don’t like playing games, but that’s what they do….so do it back. Don’t show any signs of love at all.
I am fourteen and I hate guys too… But they know that we also love them, thats why they are like that…