The ‘real man’ as it were is a provider and rarely single for very long. Having recently become one, I have met more high quality, nice people in two weeks than I have in years of ‘dating.’

Every man has two conflicting drives inside of him. One of those is consumed with desire and it is all about what he wants. The other is the ability to give freely emotionally - to be a true self-less provider.

My dear, you are looking for this provider and I can tell you right off the bat he is not spineless or feminine - however he will put your needs - in fact, the needs of you, your friends, his friends, his parents, your parents, etc. before his own. He is a servant king. And he’ll do so genuinely and with a smile on his face because he is one of those 5% or so of men who have realized that taking from a relationship divides the spoils, while giving multiplies… and also, there is a remarkable shift in perspective that comes from growing beyond your own needs.

You might already know some men in your life who are on the edge - the first step towards helping him get there (if you want to try it) is to ask him if what he wants will really make him happy. Dissolving the connection between the two is one of the keys to living a truly happy life…

The second step is to help him see that what he wants in life is not as important to others as what he does with his life - how his life touches other people and makes them better.

The third step is to simply state that we never get what we want in life exactly - and even if we do we are never satisfied with it. In other words, people can’t build their lives around desire.

A lot of women these days have been sucked into a similar trap of believing that having wants as strong as men, and basing their happiness on fulfilling desires like men - well that this is the way to female liberation. Nothing could be further from the truth. Some of the happiest women I know in the corporate world have what would be abysmal dating lives, but they are fulfilled by the time they give volunteering, being a part of their neighborhood, etc. For years I never understood why this was possible - as a guy, volunteering is for suckers… they don’t even get paid!

So the three steps above may also be good questions to ask yourself - as a means of getting back in touch with your natural feminine nuturing side. I can say quite frankly that when I see a woman who has these qualities, I want to shower her with love. Perhaps it is because I know that she will take that love and make it bigger? I’m not sure exactly.

But do look for these things and if you find a ‘real man’ out there - act quickly because they are not single long.

Now that my credentials are in good order, I have something to say to you. First off, when you wanna post something like that, make sure you put your name on it. You just automatically labeled yourself spineless. Doing that is like entering the Special Olympics…you may be a champion, but you’re still retarded….

Secondly, Anonymous (hahaha), you’re a selfish, self-righteous chauvinist dickhead. You probably don’t have a job, you have a shitty life, shitty house and you probably don’t think your mom loves you. You have absolutely nothing better to do than go around to different sites and spit your sexist filth on blind eyes, either because you’re cynical or just bored. By the way, we’re all laughing at you right now.

“Unfortunately women desire things that are not only unfun, but are also unproductive.” This is just funny. It’s guys’ sole desire to do nothing! We desire to be left alone with a beer, a football game, and a Playboy mag….It may be fun in the short term, but is that really productive? Most women (except the ones you’ve met along the way) enjoy creating homes, having kids, being mothers, being wives….Guys hate that shit because we’re selfish, most women are not. You need to seriously grow up, grow a set, and be a man. Stop being so self-centered. You, Anonymous, are the exact reason why a site like this was created. I actually love this site because I love making fun of guys that are selfish pricks like you! A word of advice: Stop chasing around the fast, loose, big chested, unintelligent barflies. Drop the ignorance, drop the fear, and find an intelligent, independent, smokin hot girl to have a meaningful relationship with.

Just because they’re independent doesn’t mean they don’t have feelings, douchebag….Stop being a useless asshole with nothing better to than sit in your dark room and waste your hate on harmless websites.

I’m assuming the reply to this (if you even have the nerve) will be “every girl assumes a guy is gay if they state their opinion.” Well I have your answer: Not True. But from your affirmative answer it sounds to me like you have relationship problems of your own. Hence why are you a man going onto a “I Hate Men” Site? You must have used the search engine for something…maybe someone is disliking you now? who knows.

Yes, I was venting - and a typical man would say “rambling,” but it got your attention didn’t it. I will agree with you, at 21 I have seen a lot of guys that just try to get into girls pants. And to your “clingyness” excerpt that you factored into my post is somewhat untrue at least for me. I go out frequently and have a good time with my friends. So if you were hoping I was some clingy, needy, whiny woman — very wrong, but I would hope that a guy I was in a relationship would want to be with me not just for the sex. If you think that’s something wrong to want than you have your own issues and are whining to me.

“Anonymous” I’ll be waiting for your reply if you are manly enough.

Let me tell you some

The world is a harsh, cold place. You need to be strong to make it on your own. Healthy men understand this concept. We are independent, we take care of ourselves. We don’t rely on welfare, spouses, parents, etc. for handouts. We take care of ourselves and we live our own lives.

Then this woman went on to ramble about not wanting to hurt anyone’s feelings, but not wanting anyone to take her friendship for granted. I have no idea how someone could possibly write that. Men don’t want a woman’s friendship. Men want sex. We want a lot of it and we don’t want to cuddle afterwards. We desire to spread our seed to keep the world populated. We don’t want to be friends with people who want to latch onto us. Friendship is supposed to be mutualistic. I have a mutualistic friendship with the people I drink beer with and watch football with. We enjoy something but we don’t rely on each other to do it. If women would be cool and watch football, drink beer, and back me up in a fight (and actually have the ability to back me up in a fight) along with not whine about emotions or demand I talk to them all the time, hell the world would be awesome.

Unfortunately women desire things that are not only unfun, but are also unproductive. If they expect me to be a part of it, they better start picking up the check at the dinner table and asking me for sex after the date. They get too much. Fill out a draft card ladies, then complain about 25 cent paycheck difference. I’m tired of the stupidity.