I HATE MEN

As a woman who hates drama, I try to avoid it at all cost.

Now when I was younger (from lets say 18 - 21) that was not the case. If someone messed with me I came back with a vengeance. I would just react and get right in their face…I did not take the time to think things out and then respond. For me this is something that I just grew out of I guess. As I got older I came to realize what kind of impression I was making on others when I acted like that because otherwise I was an intelligent and organized young woman.

I bring all of this up because I was out one night recently and saw a young woman who reminded me of myself. She was a cute girl and was having a good time with her boyfriend (I’m assuming). They were both really cute together and just having fun…it was obvious as they held hands, hugged each other, and laughed together.

There was another man who I guess liked this girl, was jealous or just wanted to cause problems. Well he started ‘talking shit’ about this couple…more so directed at the girl. Well let me tell you this girl got heated…she was spazzing out. She wanted to beat up this guy…it took two guys and another girl to hold her back. They took her outside to calm her down, but let me tell you if people in the bar weren’t talking about her before, they definitely were by the time her friends got her outside. She got upset because one guy was talking about her, but she left there having the whole bar talking about her.

In this situation I would either:

A. Ignore the guy

B. Come back with a witty comment

You never want to bring any negative attention to yourself. So, if you ignore the guy he usually only get more angry and loud and hopefully he will get kicked out. If you come back with a witty comment it makes you feel good about yourself and puts the guy in his place. A bonus with this is that if your come back was really good you end up getting people in the bar and even his friends laughing at him.

Advice from a better woman: I am not saying that A. or B. are your only options, but what I am saying is that you should not let anyone push your buttons.  When you start to get upset or angry take a deep breath, walk away from the situation if you need to, or just ignore them and have yourself a good time.  Go dance with your friends, shoot a game of pool or darts, play some of your favorite music on the jukebox, and before you know it you won’t even think twice about what some jerk was saying or doing.

If they will not leave you alone and it is becoming a problem just let the bartender know…it is always best to let a sober person with some authority in the place know what is going on and if necessary handle the situation.