I HATE MEN

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1. 100% in agreement. Don’t go on a 2nd date with a man ungracious to foot the bill. Any man who doesn’t automatically do that esp when he did the asking (as most do) knows nothing about dating and how women tick. I’m not talking about forever, but certainly for the first few to several dates. Sure, they complain what about feminism and women want to be equal, but some things remain timeless (just like men are still traditional and conservative about sex, while they like it when they don’t have to wait long to get it from a woman, usually won’t ever consider her serious girlfriend and wife material - they think how many other guys has she done this with before me, and after me?), and when a man begrudges picking up the tab he obviously doesn’t value you. If he’s like that in the beginning when first impressions are important, he’ll be worse with you later chances are. I esp love it *sarcasm* when a guy doesn’t pay, or worse yet, you pay for him as well, and expects sex. Go pick up some drunk or desperate girl and stop wasting women like us’ time.

   Bottom line, if a guy’s a tightwad - cut your losses right away and run! Like the saying goes - cheap with the wallet, cheap with the heart.

   1. anonymous on December 10th, 2008 at 3:29 pm

2. boyfriend makes 10,000 a month and never buys me a thing, but always buys his daughters thousands of dollars of stuff.

   2. virginia on December 6th, 2008 at 6:47 pm

3. my boyfriend makes two times what I do, $10,000 a month. He always breaks up with me before the holidays and has never bought me a single gift in three years.

   3. virginia on December 6th, 2008 at 6:46 pm

4. I’ve dated this engineer and he makes $11,000 a month to my $5,000 a month. I also am a single mom with two girls, ages 12 and 16. He has insulted so many times after he takes me out and says that I’m using him when he pays for our dates. I cook all of the time for him at home from scratch. He has never cooked me one single meal, ever, yet he always breaks up with me before the Christmas holidays. He gives his 22 and 20 year old girls thousands of dollars a year, and he tells all of his friends and family that I’m using him. For what. He’s never bought me a single gift or thought of me when he comes over–not offering to pick up something from the store as an gesture of kindness. Don’t you think I should rid myself of this torture once and for all? Thanks.

   4. Virginia on December 6th, 2008 at 6:45 pm

5. Why are all women so money hungry, anyways? Nowadays, u have a job and can afford to pay at least for yourself. Don’t u people have an ounce of self respect?
   It seems all you women folk care about is how much money u can extort from a man. Its really sad.
   Well here is an insider info…men acts cheap because they want to test a womens’ character…and all of u if fail so miserably..

   because money buys security you MORON. contrary to popular belief there is nothing much men of today can offer women. even more so the secure uneedy ones. all of u are just an advanced breed of leeches. our self respect has been lost since the times when men dictated the role of women in society =). please refrain from being double standard.

   or maybe they’re just cheap full stop. and looking for a free fuck until theyve loosened a vagina before moving on. i think that give;s a more accurate picture.

   5. PetulantPoetess on November 16th, 2008 at 5:12 am

6. the next time someone;s witnessed actual “courting” taking place let me know. I thought we;ve progressed to 90210 style if anything.

   6. PetulantPoetess on November 16th, 2008 at 5:07 am

7. see thats why being a smart, financialy secure, sexy, single woman is the key. self defense skills also cant be overstated (in the case of an attempted rape for all the aforementioned qualities)

   7. PetulantPoetess on November 16th, 2008 at 5:06 am

8. I don’t know….men, can’t live with em, can’t kill em.
   -I am currently working on such a contraption. The future looks bright. We will be able to kill all of them some day soon. Oh but before that we might need to sperm them dry and keep the sperms in some incubator like device with liquid nitrogen to preserve them or something of that sort. Meanwhile, hang in there ladies!!

   8. PetulantPoetess on November 16th, 2008 at 5:01 am

9. Wow! I love this Site! You would not believe how much it has helped me. I felt like I was alone in my experiences and somber feelings towards relationships. I have come across too much cheap men, that i now believe its a North American epidemic that has infected our men.

   9. Lisa on November 5th, 2008 at 7:40 pm

10. I thought i was alone, with my experience with cheap men!

    10. Lisa on November 1st, 2008 at 9:29 am

11. Cheap !! You girls don’t know what cheap is !!
    My cheap American husband came home today and said.. I have got something for you!!
    I’m all excited as have got nothing from him for so long.
    He pulled out of his pocket a b/w piece of paper which was a calendar ordering docket. He accounced he pulled out of the middle of his calendar at work.
    I thought maybe I was going to get to order one..not very exciting but better than nothing.. think again!!
    No, the order form was my gift and the calendars could not be delivered to my country which he realised before giving me the scrap of b/w paper.
    I am stunned at his cheapness and insulted that’s all I am worth to him.
    Should I divorce this cheap skate girls?

    11. Fed Up on July 10th, 2008 at 5:22 am

12. If what is posted here is true, then I’m afraid there are a some men who are giving our gender a very poor reputation. To those who are guilty of this, please stop it immediately!
    To you girls out there, in South Africa this doesn’t happen. A gent will not even think of making his girlfriend pay a restaurant bill. Needless to say, he will probably go out of his way to please his girl, in every aspect of life.
    I can’t see how women get caught in situations like these. Normally, within days of a relationship you are able to assess the quality of your boyfriend.
    You should be careful before getting intimate with someone.

    12. Roy Kasseepersadh on June 23rd, 2008 at 9:38 am

13. Why are all women so money hungry, anyways? Nowadays, u have a job and can afford to pay at least for yourself. Don’t u people have an ounce of self respect?
    It seems all you women folk care about is how much money u can extort from a man. Its really sad.
    Well here is an insider info…men acts cheap because they want to test a womens’ character…and all of u if fail so miserably..

    13. akshay on June 13th, 2008 at 4:16 am

14. I hate cheap guys!!! I have been with my bf for nearly 2 years now and i dont think i can take it any more. Yesterday he asked me out to lunch, he ate some of my food, hogged his own and when it comes to the bill he was calculatin who ate what. He made me paper roses and ever since he never bought me flowers again. What a fuckin cheap ass! He asks me for money when he dont have enough and dont even mention about returning it.

    14. mary on May 1st, 2008 at 10:02 pm

15. I came to US 20 years ago from Europe, and let me tell you, there is a big difference between europian men and American. In Europe they would never make you pay half the bill, and then expect to get laid. American men are extremely cheap. They blame it all on emancipation. “You wanted it, now pay for yourself”. I had couple of those experiences, couldn’t get it at first what was going on. The tricks that one of the guys used not to take me out, you wouldn’t believe. And he was not a poor guy at all;very nice house, car, vacations every 2-3 months. He would buy a cheapest wine for me, never asked me which one I liked. Was probably afraid to hear the answer. Within one year he took me out to eat 2 times, and for a drink 2 times, and one time to the movie. I would come to his house, stay there for 3-4 hours and he wouldn’t even offer anything to eat. How it ended, he promised to take me out for 1 year so-called anniversary somewhere nice as he said. and then when I came to his house, pretended that he forget, put his beach shorts on, sat on a couch with me, tried to have sex right away, and when I said ’so, we are not going anywhere’, he said.’o, if you want to…’ Can you believe it? I am a great cook, so I would cook for him and bring him food, he of-course liked that!!. Will never do it again. Was very hard for me to leave him. Besides his cheapness, he was a grea guy, handsome, great in bed, very considerate when it came to sex. I think he was trying to replace his spending a little money with great sex, I don’t know. But, yes, was heart broken. Still Think about it all the time. He lost me because of his ridiculous cheapness. And I didn’t even asked for much. I didn’t asked to pay my bills, or take me on vacation, just a little night out from now and then. O, well, his loss.

    15. diana on March 30th, 2008 at 1:05 pm

16. Cheap men make me want to hurl! I was dating this guy that was the king of cheap. I would pick him up on my day off and drive him to and from work, to the gym, to do shopping, etc.(He doesn’t have a car, probably too cheap to buy one!) One day I was low on gas and he actually had the nerve to tell me, “You need gas.” yet didn’t open his wallet when I pulled into the station. I thought that maybe money was tight, then he came into money and his cheapness didn’t change. I spent three days helping him move. The first day he bought me pizza to “thank” me. The second day, after I used my gas running him to and from the old and new house, he asked me if I was buying the dinner this time since he had bought it the day before. The nerve! I kicked his butt to the curb!

    16. Diana on February 26th, 2008 at 2:01 pm

17. Yes I agree with the general comments here. Recently a read something that I found quite disturbing regarding being cheap. I’ve attached it here:

    Comments made during a radio interview by Roy Williams, star pro football player on Detroit Lions with a multimillion dollar contract. You can see that your situation with your dating was rare.

    On being cheap: I am cheap, I’m a cheap date. Get you some McDonalds, with some cheese on it and I’m just really cheap, man. I’m very low key, I like to stay home. I like to go bowling on Monday nights and I go to the casino every once and awhile. Other than that, you won’t see Mr. Williams out at all.

    You do tip the pizza guy? There’s no such thing as a tip. But I am really polite and I say ‘Thank you sir.’ … The pizza man knows, when he comes to my address, he’s coming for free.

    If you’re on a date and she wants to go to a nice place, what do you do? I might just take her to the casino and get her a free buffet. If I did take a date out to a nice place, I’d take her to a nice place, like a Red Lobster or something. It wouldn’t be Morton’s or nothing like that.

    First of all, I don’t care if women have gone a long way since the “old days”. Yes women are free to work and have control of their lives and don’t need men to support them. With that said, I don’t think the traditional roles between a man and a woman will ever change. There’s a lot of be said about a man who picks his date up, takes her to a nice restaurant, and gives her flowers afterward. That’s why people call it “courting”, and from the looks of it I don’t think some men know what it means any more. Luckily I’ve been fortunate enough to have dated some very generous men in my life thus far, and I find that when I meet someone now I can’t help but always get really turned off if the guy is cheap, especially if he makes a lot of money. What’s the point of dating someone with money if he won’t enjoy it for himself or with you. You’re better off having a girls night out with your friends, at least with them at the end you won’t feel like it was a waste of makeup to get ready.

    17. Kim on September 28th, 2007 at 1:36 pm

18. I agreed to go out with a man for a cup of coffee. when he came to my place he bought the coffee, coffee pot, filter and the cup to drink in. Talk about cheap!

    18. MARY MORRISON on August 23rd, 2007 at 1:31 am

19. Some men just dont realize the price of a relationship. Yes, as shallow as it sounds, it costs money to date and/or to be married. I have a cheap one right now and am contemplating ending it because of his cheapness. All I ask is that his masculine, provider instints match my feminine, nurturing instincts. Right now, its not so as I am providing and nurturing.

    19. Worth More on August 14th, 2007 at 1:46 pm

20. I love the comments. I’d like to add that when I was in my 20’s I never expected anything from a bf ever and so, I was never really given much. But now that I’m in my 30s and still single I’ve realized that if my bf is cheap, he will be cheap as a husband. Once cheap, always cheap. I’m not materialistic but when my friend who is 42 yrs old is sporting 2 nice pieces of “real” jewelry from her bf of 6 months and my brothers who buy for their gf’s also, and I don’t get anything, it makes me feel cheated. Men don’t realize. Even if it’s something small like filling up our gas tank for the week, it would be appreciated. Especially if we use our gas to drive to their house! They just don’t get it. Sorry but more and more I find that I’d rather be alone.

    20. Tara on July 8th, 2007 at 2:14 pm

21. **you need to decide if he’s worth your time

    21. rea on July 6th, 2007 at 9:11 pm

22. I can’t stand cheap guys!! i dont care how cute, smart or nice he is if he’s not willing to spend his money on me then that will be the end of it….that may seem a little harsh but thats just the way it is-im a traditional kind of girl and i like to be made to feel like a princess because i know i deserve it besides we as woman have to put in so much effort to look good for them and that costs money- i mean hair, makeup, outfits etc…so it should be their pleasure to take us out and spend…especially when he has money but if he doesnt then i guess thats a different story but then he really need to decide if he’s worth your time!!

    22. rea on July 6th, 2007 at 9:10 pm

23. I agree with everyone here. MEN are cheap! I have a 2 year old daughter with a so called “man” and he is even cheap!!! Barely gives me any $ for HER nor for ME, the mother of his daughter. I think I am entitled to something! It’s crazy. Men suck. If a woman had male genitals I would def. become a lesbian!! MEN SUCK1

    23. Jenna on April 3rd, 2007 at 11:12 am

24. Wow, I can’t believe my comment was deleted. I put a lot of thought and effort in to what I wrote and with a click of a button my side, a real man’s perspective, deleted.
    I’m not angry, or bitter. Just looking for a response, or at least an acknowledgement. Not all men are evil just like I don’t believe all women are evil. People are misguided and people make mistakes. Don’t be completely blinded by hatred towards an entire gender just because of a few bad experiences.

    24. Roy Rogers on March 8th, 2007 at 8:50 pm

25. “Any single, available employed, generous, fairly decent looking God fearing men available out there? Im looking!”

    Yes miss, they are out there. The problem is, the only reason they’re single is because it’s illegal for them to marry their boyfriends in most states. Straight “employed, generous, fairly decent looking God fearing men” tend to be snapped up fairly quickly, and tend not to cheat or leave their wives.

    Unless you, your boyfriend and his wife are Polyamorous, you clearly don’t have much in the way of morals. If this is the case I recommend you do the following:

    1. Find out where and when a Widower’s support group is meeting.

    2. Find a reason to be in the vicinity when the meetings are ending, or while people are still trickling in for the meetings to begin.

    3. Start prowling.

    4. Be prepared to deal with a few months of him being a bag of tears. His wife did recently die after all. The good news is, “Nice guys” are more likely to treat you as a real relationship as opposed to a disposable “Rebound.”

    25. Anon on March 8th, 2007 at 12:31 pm

26. I totally agree 110%! I have been dating a married man for over 8 months. He acts like he dont appreciate a great-intellegent woman or a spectacular lover who happens to be employed, sexy, and beautiful! I make him feel righ at home, fix him breakfast, lunch and dinner from time to time and he doesn’t think he should do a damn thing for me. Moreso, I have to ask for money and even on payday he never has it unless its for the phone bill I got for him! He’s fine but not worth that! Any single, available employed, generous, fairly decent looking God fearing men available out there? Im looking!

    26. Sexy on March 7th, 2007 at 9:19 pm

27. I’m totally with you on that one, it’s not just you who come across cheap guys. All I wanted for valentines was one lousy card. My roommate demanded (and received) flowers and an evening out from her man, what did i get from the guy I’ve been dating for 6 months…. an email.

    ok so there was a picture of some flowers contained in the email, but I don’t think modern women should ever be satisfied with that no matter how much technology advances!

    27. eve on February 19th, 2007 at 2:56 pm