So earlier on i looked into what makes a man cheat on his partner. to my surprise or maybe not, i came accross a youtube post from a guy explaining the reasons men are unfaithful. So he gave it the whole..men were not created to be monogamous speach (which im starting to really believe). After more extensive research i came to the same conclusion. Men from those good old cave man days were designed pretty much for only a few things. To bring food for the family, protect their caves and to reproduce. Hmmm millions of years later and that miraculous thing called MAN sadly hasnt evolved that much. So men are wired to only do those few things. its in their biological dna to spread their seed to as many females as possible. It is unnatural for a man to be monogamous. Period!
Another point the guy on youtube made is that men only cheat..because the ‘other’ woman was there. Yes..because the opportunity had presented it self and they took it with open arms and tongues to the side, drool on their shirts. I m sure many of us have heard this before: it was offered on a plate so i lapped it up… well thats pretty much what it is.
So if men are created to spread their seed to numerous females, and they think that monogamy is some type of wood, then what is the point?
Its very simple; MEN ARE WEAK. Now im not particularly religious, perhaps spiritual, but i do believe that in life, temptations are not just those delicious chocks, they are life’s way of testing you in various situations, perhaps the devils way of luring you to his dark dominions? So to truly know if you are strong as a person, you have to face your temptations in the face and only once you can walk away laughing, you know you have that inner strength. Also, cheating is an addiction that you can never truly overcome. ‘once a cheater always cheater’…..that has a lot of truth in it. yes perhaps people can change for the better, however it does not mean that the temptation has gone away for good. Even a recovering alcoholic, who say hasnt been in a bar for over a year, will still get that niggling thought at the back of their heads telling them to have a drink. But does avoiding the temptation really prove you have over come? NO.
A man who has cheated before, will most certainly do it again. and why not? if he was weak enough then, what would change it the next time or the time after that? NOTHING. if the opportunity was there again, he would grab it! WEAKNESS!
So you can understand my frustration at women who keep taking back their cheating partners. oh he said he felt really bad and promised not to do it again.. he might of promised it to you, but could he honestly promise that to himself? probably not. we can lie to others, but we can never lie to ourselves. Women who forgive their men for being unfaithful will a lot of the time become suspicious, paranoid. they might check their spouses phone or go through their emails. i have been there, and boy is it ugly. After dedicating myself to this man for 3 years of my precious life, he repays me with a wonderful memory of his naked skinny butt and her roadkill face and numerous rolls of fat ontop of him and perhaps even some chin hairs? ok so there wernt any chin hairs but i hate the bitch so let me have this.
So i try to forgive and for a month after the ‘incident’….i became a nasty creature who i no longer recognized when i look in the mirror. i cried myself to sleep just over the mental pictures, i checked his phone every time he went for a shit and i scanned through his emails on a daily basis. After about a month i came to my senses and left the prick. And to top it all of i dont even remember him trying to really win my trust for him back, in fact i think my reward for his second chance was to make him dinner and do his laundry. Oh there was that one time he came home with a bunch of flowers, but then he should of known in those 3 years that i was ALLERGIC! There is no point in keeping tabs on your cheating man or not letting him go out on the town with his male friends, because if he doesnt have the chance to face his temptations, how will YOU or HIM know if he really wont cheat on you again? So i say if he cheats he cheats, drown the bastard!
I have even tried dating guys who lets say werent the pretiest picture but won me over woith their personality and ability to make me laugh. Even those proved to be cheats. I mean…seriously…YOU cheat on ME? yes im still scratching my head to that one. So it doesnt matter if you go for the guy that typically looks like he doesnt get that many girls (so is bound to be smitten that YOU gave him a second look), will still on the occasion he is presented with a free ‘meal’ will say yes please and thank you ma’am.
So do we as women learn to accept the fact that men will cheat and live with it because there is nothing we or another few million years can change or do we have more of a chance to evolve into asexual’s?
I dont know, but i do know that i will not put myself through another few years of a relationship i think will last forever, only to walk in home early from work and find the scum bag puffing away on top of what i can only describe as a big let down to all women kind.

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and why (as some have suggested) i should go to counselling to deal with my TRUST ISSUES! im a strong, independent woman, as much as i have flaws, i dont need to work on my trust issues, because YOU CAUSED THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE! im not going to waist my time working on these issues, work on thinking with ur smaller head!
i am who i am, and every woman is a beautiful creature, to be treasured and fucking bowed down to! you would be nothing without us, and next time you think of hurting a woman, remember your mommas and sisters and daughters! dont be a hypocrite!

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And when the obvert, sexual come on didn’t work, this man starts formulating lies to make himself appear honest and kind. All the while, he slips in those inuendoes that all women have heard. Anything. He’ll do and say anything to try and manipulate. So repulsive. And you know this tactic probably works often enough. That’s why he’s doing it. He’s been rewarded for this behavoir. And we do have to own some of the responsibility, in that respect. You don’t buy a Rolex from a guy in a van and not expect to get ripped off. No.

But, sometimes, they are pretty good at diguising themselves. They learn and get better with their lies. So, we should learn and be better at detecting their true nature. If he had been respectful, he was a pretty interesting guy. But, for his behavior, I found him quite distaseful. He probably could have fooled a younger, more naive me.

I want to slap his mother for not teaching him to respect women.

Maybe that is the answer. Maybe not. One thing for certain, the only way to keep a man from treating you badly is to not let bad men in your life. I’ve been single for 12 years, and I’m abundantly happy. If I were to ever give this life up for a man, he would have to be very special. I just do not see that happening. As time goes, my indifference to relationships gets stronger. I feel stronger, more self-assured.

I wish I had been this together when I was younger. I certainly could avoided a lot of abuse.

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Or in other words, a guy talking about babies who never had one. Where to start. Probably we should make something clear. Women and Man have indeed, a different reaction to seeing a baby. Lets look at the picture below.

I don`t need to be a fortune teller to know for sure that most women who see this say. “Awwww” and “So cute” and you would melt away seeing the shear cuteness of that adorable cuddly litte baby.

Men don`t have that inbuilt mechanism that places you under the mind control of these purple worms. We actually see them for what they are. Behold, for i will reveal to you, what a man sees when we look at them.

We can see the true forms of these things, that got you under their infulence, and demand you attention day and night. Making incredibly annoying noises to disturb their enviroment, allso occasionally exreting stinking substances you have to clean up.

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Allright, fun aside. Lets take a look at the whole baby thing a bit more seriously.
Honeybounch had claimed that “Men hate children” or “Men hate babies” i am not sure what it was. Well all i can say to that is… Not being totally smitten by something does not equals hate.

Try to see something from out side for once. Especially early in a relationship. You might think that you are talking about joy and the absolute height of your love when you say you want many kids. Well, unless you have spent a lot of time with eachother allready, saying that you want a kids sounds like this:

“I want you only for your seed and maybe for financial support. I dont give a damn about you, i only need someone to help me raise my annoying spawn.”

Having kids is no joking matter. It will demand all of your attention, it is a responsibility you cannot take lightly. That kid will basicly own your life until they can take care of themselves, and by that time, you will be an old man/woman.

Try to understand this, if he is with you, he wants to be with YOU in the first place, and building a family comes only as a secondary goal, or none at all if he is too young. Likely he would like to spend at least a few years just enjoying your company, without distractions. A child changes things on a fundamental level. Not only will it demand your attention, wich means you wil have no time from him, but it will allso likely demand his time, his attention. Thats not to say a father wouldn`t share your joy of having kids, see them grow up, watching their first steps.

But bring it up too eary, and he will see it as the end of his life as he known it, and rightly so! He will probalby want at least a little fun out of his life before he commits himself to the 7/24 duty of being a father. (Or at least what should be a 7/24 duty.) Not to mention that jump into things too fast, and you might allready have the kid coming when it turns out, that it doesn`t work out soo well between you too after all. Or the financial foundations prove to be unstable, a thousand things could go wrong.

If you start to talk about having babies on the first date, well yes. You are right. He will head to the hills. Not because he hates chilren.

But because he sees you as an irresponsible hussy who just wants to breed and push out babies without giving it enough time or the needed preparations, both in the material and in the mental sense.

And he would be right.

And if you find someone who talks about wanting kids the second date himself? Likely he thinks its ok because he will leave the kid as entirely your responsibility and problem.

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Regardless, this one might still posess some insight you might find useful. So let me present to you, with a list of things one should check, about your significant other, before taking it too far, and burning you even more, or when it is even too late to get rid of the pig that makes you life a hell on earth. Too often, do people find themselves in love\with a crush on someone who seems like a dream come true, only for it to become their worst nightmare.

Keep in mind, this is just my list of checking, and obviously this only applies to people who have retained enough sanity to have doubts. If you have fallen into a pit so deep that you became totally blinded by love, or alternatively, you sufffer from stockholm syndrome. Well, this comes just as late for you, as it was for me. Now, captain hindsight to the rescue!!!

Number 1:
Watch how he treats others. Now your sweetheart might be the kindest person on the world, he might be considerate, sweet an whatnot, but remember, this is how he is to YOU. Obviously, if he is genuinly interested he will be on his best behavior. Wich might say a lot as well if the best he can do is staring at your chest while talking, and a his compliments include far to many animal motifs and double entendres about screwing, but i am assuming you are past that point. What i am talking about is, look at how he treats people he doesn’t want to bed. His friends and family, but perhaps even more importantly, people who are not his friends, maybe even people he doesn’t likes. A true gentleman is someone who calls a cat a cat, even after tripping ower it and breaking his nose. Is he a graceful winner or a sore loser? Does he keeps his cool even if threatened or insulted, or does he reveal a whole different side of himself? If he can be considerate even of the people who he othervise dislikes, chances are you will never have a fight with him, an argument maybe, but never a fight.
Does he treats other people as shit? Does he takes every opportunity to humiliate or degrate others just for fun? He will likely do it to you as well, as soon as things get bumpy in the relationship.

Number 2. Ask your family and friends, and listne to them. Best option, ask you father. Now keep in mind that unless your father is of saintly nature himself, he will absolutly hate the guts of your boyfriend no matter what. But this is good, you can allways count on people who hate you to notice your flaws. Some of it maybe slander, some of it imagined, but never dismiss it without exploring it in detail. Especially if it comes from someone who actually likes you, and probably wants the best for you. And regardless their dislikes, unless you are the unfavorite in your family, you parents are actually looking out for you.
So weig every word they say. Is the worst complain some vague stereotyping (perhaps with racist overtones if you are of different skin colour), or complaining his looks? You are probably fine. But your mother is probably not making it up if she says she saw him groping a prositute in a back alley, and it might be worthwhile to listen to your friends if they say he treats them like shit when your back is turned.

Number 3. Check his parents as soon as posible. What kind of people are they, is he complaing a lot about them, or does he have a healthy relationship with his family? People with good parents still might turn out to be assholes, especially if they were a bit too loving, and forgiving. But the opposite is much rarer.
Are his parents likable people who welcome you with open arms?
Or is his dad a colossal asshole and a sleazebag who looks like he bathed the last time when he was a hobo and it was raning? Is his mom a bitter crone who loves to share slanderous rumors, and often voices her unflattering opinion of their neighbors? You can count on it that the apple didn’t fell too far from the tree.
If one parent is an asshole, the other still likeable, you still have a chance that he learned from the likable, and learned only how not to be from the asshole, but don’t count on it.
And should his mom turn out to be dead, stuffed and put into a chair, while he still talks to her? Not a good sign at all. In fact, you should prbobaly look for an exit right away.

Number 4. Pay attention to your enviroment! I cannot stress this enough. Riding along in the back of his van that has pieces of its paint missing, the windows are darkened, and has “red paint” dried on the floor is right out. No, seriously. If his home, his car and his clothes make you feel like the protagonist of the next thriller movie? He looks like a serial killer? Chances, are, he IS a serial killer\rapist. Get the fuck out of there! On a more serious note, there are a thousand little things that can be a dead giveaway of his personality. Check under his bed, check his computer if he uses any. Finding porn should not be a suprise, but instead of complaining right away about it, check what kind of porn it is. There is nothing more embarassing then finding out that your date is a closet gay necrofoliac with a vampire fetish, who beleived you to be a crosresser and the main thing that grabbed his attention is how pale you are.

Number 5. Last, but not least is that you should check your priorities. Know what you want and go for that! Having standards and needs is fine, but it is rather unlikely that the prince on the white horse will turn up and sweep you off you feet and ride you to his castle. Do you actually want someone to be with, or a money making machine? Do you want to be loved, or do you want an ornament?
Being career driven, having half a dozen university degrees, looking great, all nice stuff, but neither is necessarily making you good partner material. Now i am not saying you necessary have to go with the jobless hobo, or the total loser. Heck, the total loser probalby knows he is a total loser and no matter how happy he is that you graced him now, sooner or later he will take out his problems in life, on you!
But the other end of the spectrum is usually the pretentious snob who cares more about his looks\carrer\prestige, then he ever will about you.
The question is, what do you need? What do you want? Make it clear what you priorities are, and what comes secondary. You need financial stability and support for a family, and thats the most important thing? Thats fine, but don’t be upset if the money making machine cares more about his career then you.
Standards are fine, but put them too high, and you might realise that your partner has even higher standards, ones that you have no chance to fulfill. If your a snob, another snob is what you get.
Someone who is simply fun to be with, and is loyal and loving might not have be terribly rich, good looking, or even too smart. Thats not to say you have to go with the retarted hillibilly or the ghetto kid. But there is a middle ground, where most people stand. And that charming fellow you met in a bar, good loking, witty and drives a car like a dream, and professed you his love the day you met? Too good to be true? Why yes, it is. Because thats likely a pickup artist.

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With all of this said, men are low creatures. Horrible, filthy slobs whose lives revolve around that one act. On top of this, society has evolved into a war on the senses, and they are losing. The availability of visual stimulation is overwhelming, and not one of them has the will power to overcome it. Even men of the cloth, sworn to celibacy ( a display of their blind allegiance to a god they have and will never meet) can’t resist. And so they slink into their bedrooms to find that 7 minutes of privacy to feed the need. I wanted to know exactly what a Fleshlight is so I searched for videos online. It was…upsetting. Not the fact that they were doing it, but because they needed to. Its basically a gross imitation of a vagina. An artificial whole to stick themselves into because there are women out there that know better than to touch them. There were men holding these ugly things in their sweaty fists, pumping away at themselves as if it felt like the real thing. One man had set up a fuck machine but instead of a dildo on the end there was a Fleshlight. And he just sat there, camera aimed at his unkempt crotch, black, faded T-shirt still on, legs spread wide, with this ugly thing sliding all over his sex. And what am I 90% sure he was thinking about? A real, flesh and blood woman. One who actually likes him for some reason, who wanted him inside her because she at least thought he was attractive or funny or maybe even sweet. Disgusting. But then one might say, “What about women using dildos? It’s the same thing!”. I’m not sure this is true. Yes, maybe I’m just biased because I’m a woman. When women do it, it’s seen as sexy. Some do it because the thought of regretting sex with a man is too much to bear.

Sometimes I feel like maybe I should give them the benefit of the doubt, but then I realize that I’ve said to myself, “God fucking damnit I hate men so fucking much,” and really meant it, about 1,000 times.

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