I HATE MEN » stupidlady http://www.ihatemen.org World's Largest Women Driven Social Media Website Tue, 07 Feb 2012 22:42:34 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 out with the old; in with the new http://www.ihatemen.org/2010/01/11/out-with-the-old-in-with-the-new/ http://www.ihatemen.org/2010/01/11/out-with-the-old-in-with-the-new/#comments Mon, 11 Jan 2010 14:45:40 +0000 stupidlady http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=687 Continue reading →]]> I really thought my man and me were clicking again. He didn’t come home again. It took a month. The probationary month that I said he could stay that turned into Let me get my check and we’ll have a good Christmas, which I admit it was decent. BUT, there’s always the but. He stayed out later and later and then eventually did not come home. I went looking for his vehicle and found it outside a motel. Went to the front desk and found out that the room was in HER name. They were up there screwing and doing drugs on my $100 bill. MF’ers. I wanted to beat the door down and kick their asses but I knew I would be outnumbered. So I let the air out of his back tires. I came home and packed his bags and waited. He finally called and said he had gotten drunk and crashed at a buddy’s house but his tires were flat and he just replaced some. Anyway, it was a small token of my appreciation for lying to me and for cheating on me. I truly don’t hate MEN. I HATE him. Maybe I can get on with my life now. People think that it has been so open and the writing was on the wall in big fat letters. BUT ladies and gentlemen, he is so convincing when he says that he loves me, loves my daughter and wants to do right by us. HE is sick drug addict, sex addict and a liar.

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]]> http://www.ihatemen.org/2010/01/11/out-with-the-old-in-with-the-new/feed/ 3 End of the Year http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/30/end-of-the-year/ http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/30/end-of-the-year/#comments Wed, 30 Dec 2009 14:03:44 +0000 stupidlady http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=677 Continue reading →]]> This year is coming to a close. After 17 years, I find myself back in counseling. I really thought I knew myself, people and life better. It’s time for a reality check. I don’t think much of the psycho babble has changed from buzz words like codependent, boundaries and the likes. I guess the worse part of this circle is that I hope that my daughter doesn’t get the “disease.” I thought I understood life by living my life just the opposite as I was taught. My sister is learning that by letting her son have his way, letting him be a kid as long as possible, has not turned out the completely sane and happy young adult she expected. It’s really ironic. I am thinking that this bad economy has made us all a little more tilted to one side.

I am wishing each and every one of you a Happy New Year filled with love, hope, prosperity and peace.

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]]> http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/30/end-of-the-year/feed/ 2 To Concerned Man and all other http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/28/to-concerned-man-and-all-other/ http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/28/to-concerned-man-and-all-other/#comments Mon, 28 Dec 2009 16:56:29 +0000 stupidlady http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=663 Continue reading →]]> Thank you for your sentiment and insight. I was very very angry at my first post. My counselor says that I have a hard time setting boundaries with people and then when I’ve had it, I blow. I went to a lot of counseling about 16 years ago after being in a mentally abusive relationship with someone.  Sometime I think it’s chemistry that make 2 people clash. The man I was involved with at the time has moved on with his life, been married for about 11 years and has a 10 year old. We are 2 thousand miles apart so I don’t know 100% he has changed but I think he’s on higher ground then when we were together. He refused to work full-time, pay taxes and be a good citizen at the time. Now, I think he met someone who made he want to step up to the plate in life. I have moved on too but have not had a very successful relationship since then. I have kept my relations casual. I never have wanted to have a husband but I would love to have a loving caring partner. It’s weird that all these guys on dating sites say “friends first” but they really don’t mean it because they view your picture and say “would I have sex with her?”. If the answer is no then they don’t want friendships.

I don’t know where I am going with this but Merry Christmas to all and may everyone’s New Year bring Peace, Love and Prosperity.

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]]> http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/28/to-concerned-man-and-all-other/feed/ 0 A week or more later, it’s all over? http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/a-week-or-more-later-its-all-over/ http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/a-week-or-more-later-its-all-over/#comments Tue, 15 Dec 2009 12:12:43 +0000 stupidlady http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=621 Continue reading →]]> When the storm is over and the sea is calm, it’s like there was never a storm. You forget how much the lightning scared you or how the thunder made you cower in the corner. It’s the same with an argument with “the man.” It’s like it happened years ago and not last week. It’s your minds way of shutting down and saving yourself from insanity.

Do you accept the apology and wait for another storm or do you quit and worry that the next one that comes along is even worse? It’s so scarey either way. Fear can ruin your life just as bad as a man can.

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]]> http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/a-week-or-more-later-its-all-over/feed/ 1 I am so thankful for this outlet http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/07/i-am-so-thankful-for-this-outlet/ http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/07/i-am-so-thankful-for-this-outlet/#comments Mon, 07 Dec 2009 13:39:24 +0000 stupidlady http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=614 Continue reading →]]> I am the lady that is so angry that a tear can’t even pop out of my eye right now. I am the most stupid person on the face of the earth right now. I am also the angriest. I let J come back and live with me. He wants to rule the roost, no work, take money from me, doesn’t replay it, borrows more, comes home beat up, lays on his ass, lies to my face and lies about feeling bad about lying to my face. Leaves, lies about where he is going, lies about the money he owes, says he has no gas, then didn’t buy gas.

I just hate him. I just hate him, I just hate him. I just want to peel the skin off my face I am so angry. I want to ram my head into a wall I am so angry. I hate him I hate him I hate him. I hate myself I hate myself I hate myself. I feel like I am going to blow up. My head is just going to explode. The next time he gets beat up I hope he gets more than one black eye. Somebody else is tired of his shit too. I am sure he lied about how and why he got his ribs kicked in and his eye blackened. OMG! What a fricken nightmare. I am going to walk this off so I don’t have a stroke. Another year ruined by lies. Another holiday in the toilet.

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