I HATE MEN

I’ve been friends with this guy for 4.5 years. For the past 1.5 years we have been BEST friends. We became super close best friends, then went through a very short time of dating (like 2 months or less). I realized I wasn’t attracted to him in that way at all, but we remained best friends. We have talked every single day, throughout the day, for 1.5 straight years. We have been there for eachother for everything. We tell each other everything. I was hospitalized for a little while because of something very traumatic, and he was there for me every moment.

Well, since he’s shy and not very good looking, he hasn’t had a girlfriend in a very long time. I haven’t had a boyfriend in a very long time either, but more because I have a daughter and am in school. Well, he got a girlfriend, and it’s as if I no longer exist. We talked a lot about what would happen to our friendship if one of us started dating, and we both said we’d remain really good friends. Yes, we knew we wouldn’t be able to talk AS much, but both said we’d never just leave the other one. Well, he left me. He’s been dating her for about 3 months now, and the longer it goes on for, the more he wants nothing to do with me. He won’t respond to my calls, emails, text messages, nothing.

It’s like he went from caring about me more than anyone ever has, and always being there for me, to suddenly not caring in any way at all and wanting not to be bothered by me. I have told him how it makes me feel on the rare occasion I get to talk to him for 30 seconds, but he always just wants to get off and not talk about it. I am so hurt. I’ve been crying for a week straight about this. I feel like I lost the most important person in my life. I understood when he started dating that he’d have less time for me, I get that, I’m not THAT naive, but I never saw this coming. I never thought he’d just start ignoring me and not want to talk to me anymore.

How could HE of all people treat me like this? He always used to tell me how upset it made him when people ignored me or treated me with anything other than lots of respect, and now he couldn’t be more of one of those people he once claimed to hate. I am so hurt, and I almost feel like I hate him at this point. How could he be like this to me? He was also so close to my daughter, and now she wonders why he’s just gone.

I’m so hurt. What should I do?