I HATE MEN

Now, before I get any men who don’t read this post in its entirety, I AM NOT SAYING ALL MEN ARE CREEPY…just a FEW.  Here’s what happened:

Today, my co-worker and I went across the street to an italian restaurant that we go to a couple times a month.  Lately, the last two times we’ve noticed that one pizza man in particular constantly staring when we are dining.  Let me tell you, it make eating lunch extremely uncomfortable.  At this italian restaurant you pay your bill up at the register, and there is where the creepy pizza man stands.  EXCEPT this time we didn’t see him, thank GOD!!  So we are walking out and from the corner of our eyes we hear a nervous cracked voice saying, “Byeeeeee.”  Her and I both looked at eachother and said, “Did he just say bye???”

To Creepy Pizza Man, from now on you can’t say bye when you aren’t even IN THE RESTAURANT.  I’m definitely taking a break from italian food for awhile.  Like I said, “some men are sooo creepy!”..

I was reading an interesting article about “Excessive Chatting on Facebook…” Any form of compulsive communication regarding past romantic disappointments can lead to depression and anxiety.  A study was taken of 83 girls aged around 13, interviewed a variety of questions then contacted a year later determining if they had signs of depression.  Obsessing about problems can lead to high anxiety, especially at such a young age.

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Two weeks after she had delivered her second child, Emma Ray’s heart attack resulted in a coma.  Her husband, Andrew was told that there was a chance she would be a real life sleeping beauty FOREVER.  Andrew tried everything he could to wake her up, by playing background noise of their children talking, crying, saying “Wake up Mummy.”  He even played music from their wedding.

Then with doctors present Andrew pleaded to Emma saying, ‘Emma, if you can hear me, please just give me a kiss.’  With amazement she turned her head, puckered her lips and kissed her husband.

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Last night, like any other night I got on my elliptical trainer and listened to music.  I got to thinking about all the different kinds of people that go on sites, such as I Hate Men and was thinking “do looks have a huge impact on relationships?”    Initially looks and personality are what trigger a connection/spark.

Over the past few years I went from a size 8 to a size 4, all by using various fitness equipment.  I’m now in my 20s and if I ever run into people from high school they act like I have changed to a different person.  Guys take more interest, guys who would have never in high school.   What bothers me is that, my personality has never changed over the past 8 years, but all of a sudden because I dropped a couple pounds more attention is brought my way?

When people say, “Looks don’t matter” apparently that’s not the case.

Love can be embraced, dull, blind, beautiful, scary…etc

…love can also make miracles happen

I was reading a story about a man and woman preparing for their wedding.  As the woman was 4-months away from her wedding frantically making all preparations she passed a store window that had Christian Dior glasses on display.  She had to have them.  As time got closer to the wedding  she noticed the glasses fitting closer to her right eye, in fact her eyelashes were hitting.  Both her and her husband were so wrapped up in wedding plans that she held off going to the eye doctor, until her right eye became excruciatingly itchy and bothersome.

Diane went to the ophthalmologist and within minutes of the visit it was obvious there was growing concern regarding her health.  She was told an MRI was needed and that a tumor could possibly be pushing her eye forward. Later Peter (husband-to-be) and Diane found out that it was a benign tumor that needed to be removed ASAP. Diane’s eye was protruding further out and that explained why her Dior glasses were not fitting correctly.  Peter and Diane are and were so in love that it was never evident that anything was physically changing.

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Did Diane’s wedding distraction pull her through this horrific experience?  Was it Peter? Was it a miracle?  Whatever it was, I wish everyone is as lucky as she was and pulls through all of the hardships that people face everyday.

So, it’s the new year and I hear everyone talking about their New Year’s resolution…

What’s yours gonna be?

I was searching around on the computer and came across a site that listed the top 10 resolutions for 2009 and the number 1 is Quit Smoking following closely behind Lose Weight.  Like many people I struggle to find time during the work week to get to the gym.  I had a membership last year and towards the end of my membership I barely got a chance to go.  For me I think working out is important.  It is a great stress reliever and if you feel about your body it shows in your attitude and how you present yourself.

So for my New Year’s resolution I’m determined to find the perfect treadmill that meets my needs and work out on it at least 5 times a week.  When I got down to researching about treadmills I realized that after reading reviews and average joe’s opinions about buying a treadmill is: YOU GET WHAT YOU PAY FOR!

I’ve narrowed down the list of treadmills I’m considering to purchase they are: TR500 Folding Treadmill or TR1000 Folding Treadmill.  Has one purchased either one of these treadmills??

Thanks!!

As a woman I reflect back onto all the relationships I have had, which is common for many women and men to do. Why did we get into those relationships? Why did we get out? and What did we learn from all of them? Not only were the intimate and personal relationships informative, but so were the friendships gained and lost throughout the years.

The I Hate Men site is intriguing to see how many men and women seek advice and sympathy for problems that we have all been faced with. When in reality no one openly admits to having any questions about relationships and the uncertainties that come along with life. I’ve noticed that there are frequent subscribers who post and frequent users who comment.

With the New Year less than 48 hours away does everyone have that special someone to kiss when the clock strikes midnight? I want to wish everyone a Happy New Year and to remember that I too came to this site originally over a year ago because I had confusion in the relationship department, but I can assure you that there is that special someone out there for EVERYONE. “It just takes time…”

Don’t you just love when genders can be differentiated past female and male. Males are either boys or men and Females are either girls or women.  Who determines these classifications other than on the basis of age.  Have you ever heard a story told by a revengeful ex where they say, “Oh he was such a childish boy we just couldn’t relate…”  but in reality he could have been in his late 20′s, so technically not a “boy.”  Why do you we say things such as this?

Do you ever feel that life has so many unanswered questions?

How do you find love?  Now, I don’t mean searching for love like you would a lost sock, but stumble across someone you are meant to be with or befriend for a long time?  And what happens after you’ve found love?  Do you just live your life happily ever after?  Go with the flow?  I’m not expecting someone to have all the answers, I imagine that is why life is so interesting.  I always wonder “do others feel similar to me?”

Dear Readers,

Have you ever noticed the difficulty in reading the tone of a blog post?  Personally, I love when I read comments where people have the nerve to be ignorant, disrepectful, and down right rude.  When the truth is those people writing comments are individuals who have no back bone and would never speak like that face-to-face.  Online identities gives people freedom to be another person, someone who they aspire to be, maybe?  Or if they are lacking assertiveness in their own life, lay out their “personality” through blogs posts/comments.

Why do we feel we can be who we want online? Is it because we won’t see the authors of blogs?  Whatever the reason is remember when you read a post that someone took the time to write it and express themselves to the public.  Plus you don’t want to come off as a total jackass when you leave a comment that you might find funny, but no one else does.  Keep in mind, “would you say this to their face?” If not, don’t write it…I know I read all the comments that are left on my posts.

Thanks.

Do you ever lay in bed at night and wonder what the future will be like? Who you will be with? kids? job? family? friends?

Life seems to be going by so fast these days, in the present I think to myself “Why isn’t it the weekend yet?” but then when the weekend is here it passes in an instant. “I wish there was a whole month of weekends.” Too much to ask? Probably. The saying, “time flies when you’re having fun” is definitely the case, but why does time have to go so fast. Time is funny. We save time, spend time, waste time, watch time, etc. Time is not just a figure it’s an object that we use and take for granted.

“If only we could bottle the moments that we cherish and relive them as we please.” 11 weeks until graduation…where did the time go? I’ve heard people tell me that there is nothing to look forward about when you get older, past 21 nothing is exciting. Did you ever notice that when you ask someone how old they are they dramatically answer, “Too old.” People worry too much about their age. Aging is a part of life and goes along with time. Personally I think when younger people respond with, “too old” it’s because they want to feel authority and less like a young adult, possibly seeking more responsibility?…Who knows?

Say I live to 100. I’ve already lived 21% of my life, most of which was spent in school. Now what to do with the 79 yrs left?

“We all have a destiny and things happen for a reason the question is, When will we know when we get there?“

After reading the many comments from my past posts I have come to a realization it’s not that I’m writing on this blog because I hate men, but out of sheer frustration. Getting attention from guys isn’t the problem, but am I attracting the “right” ones?

A source said in 2000 the United States had a total of 281.4 million people, 143.4 million which were female. Now, do we hate men because we outrank them by 5.4 million? Probably not. When growing up there is no worrying about gender, in fact there is practically no difference. Boys will be boys and girls will be girls. As we get older the gap changes and shifts. “Am I over thinking this too much?”

Did you ever wonder how you found this site? You must have been thinking about the opposite sex…

I have a friend who likes this guy, but says she has no chance with him. I don’t understand? If you didn’t flat out ask the guy or talk to him enough for him to ask you out then how do you know there is no chance? I’m very open, if I like someone or am attracted to them I will start a conversation. “The risks may be worth all the butterflies in the stomach.”

I told her not to just give up like that if she has attraction towards him. I guess we will see what happens if she decides to take the risk.

I always wonder to myself, “Is there someone out there for everyone? and if so when will they show up?” So many questions left unanswered. Life truly is what you make of it. The other day I was on my way to work and I was sitting at a red light thinking…thinking about my day ahead and so forth, until I heard honking. I look to my right and it was my ex who was also going to work. At that point I was about 10 miles from work and sat in the driver’s seat wondering, “did he ever find happiness?”

Life is strange how it works. One minute you think that everything is going the way you expect it to and then you wake up and not everything is perfect. Ever since I entered the “dating” pool for the first time since I was 17 things are definitely different. For 3 1/2 years I never had to “worry” about being single or ever wonder who I would be with, because at the time I thought my ex was everything I needed and more.

I was “off the market” for so long and now all of sudden I get so much attention. At first it was a nice transition from being with someone to becoming single, but now it’s overwhelming. “When will I know when the right person comes along?” What if I think he’s the right guy, but isn’t? and he just didn’t come along yet?

I realize that there are many people out there with similar thoughts and just take the risk with who they “think” is right for them. I look at my parents who will be married 24 years next month and think how did they know? I ask them and they always say, “love.” After 24 years they have their ups and downs like any normal couple, but how come my high school “sweetheart” and I fell out of love, when my parents were high school sweethearts and stayed in love?

People say that when you are least expect someone to come along they will. It’s hard to believe that, because everyday you see couples together, hear stories about relationships, etc. It’s hard to ignore the fact that you don’t have a “true” love in your life.

How can I determine what feelings are real?