Single Dad’s and Dating

Ok I am an oddball here.    I am a single dad.   I have primary custody of my 5 year old. I was reading though the articles here and I have to say I do feel they are misguided.

It’s not a “man vs women” issue, it’s how each individual was raised. Granted I am part of the extreme minority as custody is generally automatically awarded to the women, but in my case I am part of the single digits (IE: about 4%) where it’s awarded to the father.

But I can say with extreme authority that not all women have halo’s around their head.

So to say “all men are jerks” is misleading at best, and childlike at worst because it comes down to the individual themselves.

I love my son with all my heart, and I am successfully raising him without any help from a women… I almost believe that having a women around would slow his progress… as I do believe I have the only 5 year old that has no problem multiplying / dividing / adding / subtracting / reading / writing / typing / formatting his computer to remove Windows on it because “linux doesn’t give me those error messages daddy” and wiring up a home network so he can play video games head to head with his friends and riding around on his scooter and bike….

Maybe there are kids that can do that as well… but it’s what I taught him and I am proud of it.

Geeky…. maybe… but the fact is that in order for him to learn all that stuff.. someone had to spend extreme time with him… and in my case there is no women around… so that had to be dad.

Maybe his clothes don’t match all the time, maybe someone would yell at me because I take him out to eat too much because I am just not a great cook… maybe someone would state ” Single Dads are terrible” .. who knows.. and honestly who cares. I do the best I can… and I think I am raising a wonderful kid.

Go ahead and flame me for being a good parent….

What are your thoughts on this???!

This guy wrote the following article and as I read it, my mouth was hanging open! I realize how freaking unfair this may seem but I truly don’t know if I completely disagree…

The big problem is where to draw the line between safety and rights. How do you define where one persons rights end and another’s safety begins? For once, I think I might agree with a male journalist…

Just read it and let me know your thoughts!

This guy wrote the following article and as I read it, my mouth was hanging open! I realize how freaking unfair this may seem but I truly don’t know if I completely disagree…

The big problem is where to draw the line between safety and rights. How do you define where one persons rights end and another’s safety begins? For once, I think I might agree with a male journalist…

Just read it and let me know your thoughts!

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Friday, May 18, 2007



TROUBLESPEAK
Radio host suggests putting GPS on Muslim immigrants
U.S. should consider bugging homes, monitoring calls, e-mails


Posted: May 18, 2007
1:00 a.m. Eastern


© 2007 WorldNetDaily.com


‘Gunny Bob’ Newman

A radio talk show host in Denver asked his audience to consider whether or not it would be right for all Muslim immigrants admitted to the U.S. to wear GPS units and have the FBI bug their homes and monitor their telephone calls and e-mails.

The comments from “Gunny Bob” Newman on 850 AM KOA radio were reported by the Denver Post. He was reacting to the recent arrests of six men charged in an alleged plot to attack and kill as many soldiers as they could at Fort Dix, N.J.

The suspects, Muslims, have been ordered held without bond, and court documents now reveal one of the men told the others how to make bombs and gave them weapons for the planned attack.

Newman, on his talk show on a station that also carries Rush Limbaugh, the nation’s most-listened-to radio talk show host, said he was fed up with attacks by Muslims on the U.S. and its interests.

“I want – tell me if I’m wrong or tell me if I’m right. I want every Muslim immigrant in America who holds a green card, a visa, or who is a naturalized citizen to be required by law to wear a GPS tracking bracelet at all times,” Newman said in a recent diatribe against such unprovoked attacks on the U.S.

“And the FBI and the NSA should monitor their phones and their e-mails, all communications – electronic – at all times, as well as bug their places of work and their residences. If they don’t like the idea, or if they refuse, throw their a—- out of this country,” he said.

“All mosques and community centers as well as Muslim organizations must be monitored. We know with the arrests … that the Muslim terrorists are absolutely, positively here – and we invited them to our country! And I think maybe it’s time that we should stop doing that,” he said.

The words immediately unleashed a firestorm of criticism from organizations such as the American Civil Liberties Union, and a lobbying campaign convinced three companies to withdraw their advertising from the show.

“We sent numerous e-mails,” said a spokeswoman for Colorado Media Matters, which bills itself as a resource that monitors and corrects conservative broadcast statements.

His boss at the Clear Channel station, Kris Olinger, reported “Gunny Bob” was expressing an opinion, “an extreme one, but his opinion. [Hosts] are paid to express opinions. That’s the nature of what we do.”

“Newsradio 850 KOA understands that some of you may have been offended by remarks Gunny Bob made regarding Muslim immigrants to the United States. That was not the intention. 850 KOA believes in being fair and respectful while encouraging discussion and debate of complex issues,” the station said in a website statement.

“Call me kooky, but I think maybe it’s time for a little moratorium on Muslim visas, period. Hey, I’m sorry guys – I know that a lot of you are great people. I know you just like to do business here or become a U.S. citizens (sic) and be a peaceful person. I know that. But you know what? You better get control of your own people. Once you get control of them, then come see us again and we’ll think about – however many decades down the road it is – we’ll think about maybe opening our doors to you again.

“But you are doing absolutely freaking nothing to help, to, to help this nation. And that’s that,” Newman said.

Newman had been honored in 2006 with a “Gunny Bob Day” declaration by Colorado’s governor, who wrote the three-hour daily program is responsible for “educating and enlightening Colorado citizens on a variety of topics from counter-terrorism to survival tactics” and “the State of Colorado recognizes Gunny Bob for his ability to keep citizens informed about war tactics and strategies, as well as the current situation in the Global War on Terror.”

In a Denver Post column, Dick Kreck noted that Newman is a “conservative talk show” host for whom “rash, rude and inflammatory statements are common.”

Bill Menezes, chief of the Colorado Media Matters, said Newman is seeking to “deny to members of a specific religion the same rights that his employer states are integral in the treatment of its own employees.”

“In dealing with the recent Don Imus controversy, NBC News President Steve Capus emphasized that it was important for NBC’s employees to have confidence in the company’s values. It’s time for Ms. Olinger and Clear Channel to step up and have a public conversation about why one employee is allowed to broadcast values that it won’t stand for elsewhere within its own organization,” Menezes wrote.

After making his comments, and seeing some of the reaction, Newman acknowledged that visitors to what he described as “liberal hate blogs” were suggesting “liberals should protest me and my right to freedom of speech” at signings of his new book, “The War for America.”

He then said those who might protest are “holier-than-thou, politically correct, anti-First Amendment, namby-pamby fools.”

“Who the heck do you think you are to say an American citizen doesn’t have the right to state his or her opinion?” wrote blogger “DB” about the situation. “Here I am to state my opinion! Get out of it! If you don’t like it turn the d— channel! We love Gunny Bob! He says it like it is.”

Newman noted the “irony and hypocrisy” of those activists who protest against his First Amendment rights using their own First Amendment rights.”

Newman “is one of the very few that live in the land of reality. He is one of the few that recognizes the Islamic faith as a terrorist faith. I certainly see it and once these people kill 100,000 Americans or so, others will recognize it,” wrote “swatson839″ on an online comment page.



This guy wrote the following article and as I read it, my mouth was hanging open! I realize how freaking unfair this may seem but I truly don’t know if I completely disagree…

The big problem is where to draw the line between safety and rights. How do you define where one persons rights end and another’s safety begins? For once, I think I might agree with a male journalist…

Just read it and let me know your thoughts!

My First Time…

It’s very hard to say. I’m almost…. in shock. I went out tonight and no married guys tried to pick me up…. just a few girls. So, ok. Here’s a little survey that I would LOVE to hear some responses on… PLEASE!!! If you go to a bar, one that you’d go to with the intentions of possibly picking somebody up, not just the hang with your friends, hole in the wall type place. So let’s say you’re in this bar and you see a chick wearing a long sleeved t-shirt under a short sleeved t-shirt, does this ring any bells? Does it make you think anything is up with this chick? Little by little I have been noticing that every once in a while I’ll see this at some bar or another and something just doesn’t seem right. In all honesty, I get the impression that she’s gay. No harm. I am by no means degrading anyone! I have both male and female friends that are gay or bi. No harm. I am just making an observation. So anyhow, I’ve been hurt way to many times, this last one was the worst and it’s not that I don’t want a relationship, I just am tired of chasing or doing all the work. I have come to realize that if somebody is interested, they’ll make some sort of effort to get my attention. Otherwise, eh, life goes on. Right now, being single is really not that bad, and I have to admit this is a first for me to say that. But I digress… So I go out tonight with about 6 friends or so, some guys, some girls. The place we go to is PACKED! Of course, it’s wet t-shirt night for the ladies and wet boxer night for the guys. But in total, I can’t tell you how many girls were dancing with me throughtout the entire night. Now I’m not gay, bi or whatever you may want to imagine. But I have to tell you that what I was wearing tonight was a long sleeved shirt under a short sleeved one… Go figure. Am I the only one who sees a pattern? Start watching over the next few times you go out to different bars. Just watch and then let me know…

And The Beat Goes On… and on… and on….

Yeh, so what’s the deal?! I seem to keep having repeat weekends here. A different night, new bar, many many miles away from my normal bars, and yet the inevitable truth follows me. I must have a neon sign that only ‘taken’ guys can see. Even the friend I’m with is different! But, ok, I’ll tell my story, although it doesn’t seem to ever change. I go out with a friend of mine, Paul, to here a band (I love going out to dance). So we’re there for a little while, just kind of hanging out, scoping the crowd. There’s this guy standing near me that decides to introduce himself. We’ll call him ‘Steve’. So Steve is kind of on the quiet side but we seem to hit it off little. I hang out with him for the next hour or so at the bar, just hanging out, enjoying the music. (No dancing. He doesn’t dance. :( …. ) The end of the night approaches, Paul is drunk off his ass. He totally blew his chances of getting the bartenders number when he yelled at her because the keg was kicked and she wouldn’t sell the bottles for the same price. To get him back (hell hath no furry like a woman scorned, you know) she cuts him off. I had to laugh! I’ve seen Paul drink before. He has NEVER raised his voice to anyone! But then again, he’s never been cut off…

But on with my story, Steve and I are hanging out talking all night, laughing. We even exchanged numbers and I invited him to hang out with a bunch of us the following night. It’s the end of the night, Paul just got finished arguing with the bartender and Steve decides to tell me about his girlfriend… um…. Yeh, that’s right. He just spent the night trying to impress and pick me up and then tells me about the girl he’s living with… and their 2 kids! I decide to be polite but change my body language and it’s soon time to leave.

Fast forward to the following night. We are all at our destination for the night. I go to the counter to order some water (I’m the DD for the night) and who walks up to me but Steve. He still wanted to hang out with my friends and I. He wants to get to know me better…. lol… ok, so I play polite, introduce him to all the friends I was with, etc. but then he just sits there quiet all night. Whatever…

After the bar, we all go for breakfast. He wasn’t invited but Steve is following us out the door. But by the time we all got outside, he was no longer with us. We go for breakfast and are now on our way back to my place to crash for the night. It is now almost 3:30 am. My phone rings… guess who…. I don’t answer. He hangs up and calls back, this time leaving a message. About 2 minutes pass and he calls yet a 3rd time. Talk about desperate! We get to my house and pass out. When we get up around noon, I listen to his message from the night before. “I’m in kind of a tight spot here. If you get this before you go to bed, PLEASE call me back. I have nowhere to sleep tonight.” Yeh right! He thought that’d work? What the hell is wrong with men?! Do I LOOK that stupid? Was I born yesterday? Hell no! Anyhow, he decides to call me again in the afternoon but leaves no message.

So I’m in class today, telling one of my girlfriends about ‘Steve’. She has a good laugh because she has seen the pattern of guys that approach me. After a few questions, we come to realize that she knows him! The situation with Steve and his girlfriend is that they have been together for years, unhappily but still…. She says if he was telling the truth about having nowhere to stay, it was probably because his gf had her other bf over at the house. To give a summary of their relationship for the past I don’t know how long… They are together but not really. They live together, even sleep in the same bed but they’re not totally together. They each are dating others as they please and their 2 kids have ‘happened’ since their new lifestyle situation has taken root. So God even knows who’s kids they are! Holy Shit!

So anyhow, I am left with 2 questions… Is there anyone that still places any value on a faithful, honest, long lasting relationship? And … Are there any COMPLETELY SINGLE good guys left or have they all past away 100 years ago? I don’t require much, honesty, integrity, respect, open communication, affection, commitment. Open doors, give a compliment, take me camping, humor me with my truck fetish, give me a run for my money when it comes to struggles. I don’t want someone to LET me win at anything. I’m seriously considering moving to a convent or becoming a lesbian! Holy Shit!

Who’s Line Is It?

So I go out with a friend of mine this past weekend to a local country bar. Neither of us have ever been there and we thought it’d be a change from the norm and possibly even fun. Regardless, it had to be something worth talking about. Well! How right I was! But before I start, I have to tell you about how my day started…

I’m friends with this guy, we went on one date but soon realized friends is where it stays. So anyhow, I talk to him on Friday night and he says he’d like to come down Saturday morning to hang out. I get a call around 11:30 to say he got called to work, he’d be down around 1 or 2 and we will go for lunch. I get another call around 1:30, he’s running late, just got off work, going home to get showered then will be down around 3 – 3:30. I sit and wait…. around 4 I call but there’s no answer. And I wait…. It’s now quarter to 5 and I’m pissed. I decide to take myself out for a while and leave. I come home a few hours later and there’s a note on my door. He was there to pick me up and 2 messages both around 6:00. But, ok, he’s a “friend” so I call his cell instead of blowing him off… no answer. I make plans with this friend of mine to go to the country bar for the night. So as we’re driving down, I’m telling my friend about my ‘lunch date’ to which laughter was the only response. At just that moment, my phone rings, it’s him, wanting me to come out to the bar he is currently at. I declined saying I already made plans with another friend. His response? He tried to make ME feel guilty! We all know what it means when a female says ‘fine’. He tried that on me! It took all I had not to laugh! I’m sorry!

So fast forward to the country bar. It’s several hours later and I have been playing eye tag with this really cute guy for the last half hour. My friend and I need drinks so I go to the bar, next to the tag guy, to order the drinks, but act like I don’t see him sitting there. He starts talking to me about the cops sitting outside. And the conversation continues from there. Since I can’t seem to get my friend to slow dance with me, I ask him if he’d like to dance the next slow one with me. With a big smile he says yes. So at the start of the next slow song we find eachother and head for the dance floor. As I’m turning away from him, I notice his wedding ring! So we get out there and I ask ‘You’re married?’ ‘Yes’ he answers as if it’s nothing. No big deal. Like he has a hang nail or something. Upon an answer/ question but mostly just confession period, I come to learn that he’s not happily married. Has never been. They’ve been married for several years now and have a little boy but he’s never really been happy with her. I ask why he’d marry someone he’s not inlove with, happy with. Marriage should be taken more seriously! His response? He liked the challenge. When he met her, she was so innocent, pure and good. He loves challenges and wanted to see if he could change her. The thrill excited him. But now, after years of being together and no changes happening, he decides to just live like this because of their son. Ok, that my not seem so un-real but the ‘way’ he chooses to live is as follows: He switched jobs so he could work MORE hours in a job that is dirty so it covers the smell of cigarette smoke (she doesn’t approve and thought he quit years ago). He says she’s a ‘Bible Beater’ and so is her family. He tells me how if they are in a heavy discussion that needs to end, he says ‘This is pissing me off. Let’s change the subject.’ In her family, ‘piss’ is not acceptable and she gets mad. So all day while he’s with her, he has to play innocent and pure so as not to upset her and her family. But as soon as he walks out the door, until he walks back in, every other word from his mouth is a curse or profane in one way or another. Then every few weeks, she and their son go out of town to visit her family. He can’t stand them so, of course, he stays behind. Well as soon as she’s out of site, evidently, she’s out of mind and he’s racing off to the bar to pick up some chick.

Let me just end by saying that NO nothing happened between and this guy but HS!

The thing that makes this so funny to me is that we, my friend and I, just had this conversation on the way to the bar that night…’Is it worse to find out there is another woman or to to find out YOU are the other woman?’ Both of which I have experienced, obviously unknowingly… But Ugh! MEN!!!

Help Wanted : Seeking Bitter Women to be Editor

Help Wanted:  Seeking Bitter Women to post about her relationship.

This is not a paid position, however it’s a fun one… this site ranks well on all the search engines and is getting alot of traffic… the women that ran that prior isn’t upset anymore and hence isn’t as motivated.  I use bitter loosely because of course it’s the guys fault right?

Please post below on why you feel you fit the job.

Of Course! It’s a Holiday!

Sometimes I wonder why I even try. After a while you have been hurt so many times that you find it harder and harder to convince yourself to try again. But then, unless you want to spend the rest of your life miserable and alone, you have to have at least a small amount of hope that somewhere, perhaps, there really is just one good guy left just for you. Well f’ that theory out the window. Time and time again, I am faced with this decision. This past time was no different. I had plenty of arguements of ‘why should i not let myself fall again’ but this last one had a good sales pitch. Truth or not, his speech was exactly what I’ve been looking for inside but thought perhaps my standards were to high… until he kept preaching it over and over, making me think he really meant it. So I finally give in, go tto know him and fall for him. Great! Wonderful! Yeh! Sure, there were problems but nothing worth having comes that easily… so I hear. But last night, 2 days before Valentine’s Day, he shows up at my door, dressed up and smelling good to break up with me.? 2 days before Valentine’s Day! My ‘stuff’ I left at his house is in his truck in a grocery bag. Would I rather him lie or drag it on? NO! NO! NO! But please! Someone explain to me how it is I am not supposed to feel bitter, hurt, insulted… I’m tired of hearing how wonderful I am. I’d be a great ‘catch’ for any guy. I’m the perfect female in so many ways. But all of these statements lead to my utter disappointment in the end. And to make it worse, when I think the relationship has potential, I have them meet and get to know my daughter…. What the hell is she going threw as time and time again, she has to loose the man in her life? How do I explain why mom is crying in the middle of the night while she sleeps? Why I can’t give her the family she and I both want. Give me one reason I should keep trying, when the compliments come as they are walking out the door. But let’s be friends…. lol

Demographics of a Man’s Brain

We all know the #1 thing men think about… SEX, SEX and more SEX… But is there any room left for other things? Well, here is a ‘Map to Understanding Men’ to use for your reference. I understand how frustrating you may find this image so, to all those hoping for the ‘domestic type’, please prepare yourself to be disappointed….

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Enough is Enough!

Ok, I like to think I’m fairly level headed, keep my cool under (most) pressure. (Ya’ know. I only flip out about the important things, like a broken nail, the toilet seat being left up or when I catch my boyfreind with his tounge down some other chicks throat… you know, the important things.)

Recently, however, I have been noticing my anger level getting the best of me… Just the other day, I noticed someone parked in my spot in the local parking building. My first reaction was fairly level headed, I think. You know the traditional curse word or 5 while death-gripping, then hitting the steering wheel, meanwhile assesing the most interesting way to ram their Yukon off the second floor. (I tend to forget I don’t drive a truck :) Instead, I pull over, call my boss to say I’ll be late and report to the most unfortunate receptionist currently assigned to The Parking Nazi. (If only you knew how true this term is!) Anyhow, I report to the poor receptionist that someone is in my spot and I’d like to get the %&#$er towed. “Unfortunately,” she says, they do not tow anyone. WTF! I want revenge, I don’t drive a truck nor a bumper car (which by the way would be funny as all hell) and my co-workers say keying it would be illeagal. So, I have to go out and move my car to a meter. (I will not get towed however as long as my reservation ticket is hanging on my mirror she tells me.)

So because my day thus far has been a total freaking mess because not only can I not park in a spot I pay for, but I am also reminded once again, that I don’t yet own a diesel, I decide to let the nice young lady who stole my f’n spot a note on her window. (OK, at this point I want to point out that she too has a reservation ticket in her window but, for some unknown reason felt like my more expensive spot – which I personally pay for – is now at her disposal!) So, I leave her this nice little note I printed from www.youparklikeanasshole.com . From my standpoint, I had every right, it seemed like a more legally acceptable thing to do than some of the alternatives and, in addition, I found it slightly funny…

Midway through my day, however, I get a visit from one of the other workers in the Nazi’s office. She walks towards me, my note in hand, with that same look your mother might have given you when she found her best sheet set tied up in the woods next to the house because you wanted to “go camping” and the old ones had holes from last time. She hands my note back and just stands there. “Did you do this?…. You realize this is our department?…. Don’t do it again….” “Yes” and “Ok” was all I could say.

So moving onto The Parking Nazi… I leave work at the end of the day. Walk to my car, which I was instructed to park at a meter. And what do I find? A FREAKIN’ TICKET!!! $10!!! What a f’n a$$!

SIDEBAR: You have to realize what makes this scene funny though. The Parking Nazi, while he seems to be invisible, like Batman at night, and there is no telling where he is or when, he can detect an expired meter like your barefeet and your cat’s most recent hairball during the night…. The Man DRIVES to each and every car to post the ticket! He walks no where! What a lazy POS! So, anyhow. There’s a ticket on my window. I removed the ticket, calmly express my rage to my boss, who was walking with me, and then went on my way for the weekend.

So after brooding over this ALL WEEKEND!!!, I have come to a conclusion. I think we have to focus on the main issues, Ladies. It’s about time that instead of being so crazed and bitter at men, we just deal with the fact that we are God’s ultimate plan. That is why we came second, he realized what a screw up the first product was and knew he could do better. “Men are forever going to sound like freakin’ gorillas when they talk.” (a quote from my boss…. a man :) But why beat a dead horse…

But let’s not dwell on the little facts. Let’s just make fun of them and amuse ourselves. They’ll be confused, yes, but at some point, maybe they will just surrender.

Here’s a funny I saw recently… “If a man speaks in the woods, and no woman is around to hear him, is he still wrong?”

CHEAP MEN

Why are men so cheap?? Maybe its just me but every guy I have EVER dated or known has been one cheap a** mofo. Whatever happened to chivilry? They will spend hundreds, even thousands of dollars on stupid shit but when it comes time to treat their girlfriend or wife to something, suddenly she’s the high maintenance bitch. I consider myself as low maintenance as they come…..here’s a thought, maybe if I acted like a high maintenance bitch, I’d be treated better. I don’t know….men, can’t live with em, can’t kill em.

To Be a Man With No Worries

This being six days prior to Christmas, I actually had a guy ask me today “when is Christmas anyway?” At this time of year, I don’t know about anyone else but every other thought is about Christmas. Cards not written, cookies not baked, presents not wrapped, presents not BOUGHT, dinner plans not made, the eternal “who am I forgetting”….It doesn’t end for women. So why do men get off so scott free during the holiday season? Any enlightening suggestions??