So, as soon as I was single there was the usual “rebound.” I think it was more that I was afraid of being alone than anything. Then I realized that I would be fine living the single life until I found someone. Weeks went by and I met a guy.

Now, this guy was five years older, which isn’t a big deal, technically married, and had a girlfriend. Yes, ladies and gentlemen what in the world was I thinking?? We ended up hooking up while he was still with his girlfriend. And he made it clear that all he wanted was to “hook-up,” even though he kept telling me how much he liked me, better than his girlfriend, which I am NOT ok with.

While we “hooked-up” all I could think about was, “is this gonna go anywhere?” Then of course the thought of his poor girlfriend did cross my mind. That too was another reason why I wouldn’t want to see myself with him – once a cheater always a cheater. Who’s to say he would not cheat again? Most likely he would.

So I got over it and decided to move on and forget guys for awhile. Too much of this drama was driving my crazy. I went to a party with my friend and very unexpectantly met a great guy!

We ended up talking for hours and hit things off right away. Later I had found out that the other guy (the one with the gf) dumped his girlfriend for me.

He was telling me over the phone how he could now give me 100% and see where things could go and that he really cared about me. I was so confused because this guy is completely opposite from me. I’m 21 he’s 26. I’m more conservative and laid back he’s the bad boy type.

I couldn’t truly understand what he was doing? He was saying all the right things to try and trick me into thinking he was some awesome guy. And don’t get me wrong he is a nice guy and good friend, but not my type of guy to be in a long-term relationship with.

At that point I was very confused; I was confused about how I was going to turn that guy down without hurting his feelings. It was obvious that he was playing the field and didn’t care about me. He was trying as hard as he could to get me because he now found himself solo and no girlfriend to sleep with.

The first thing I told him was besides not having the same feelings about him as he did for me, that I couldn’t be with a “cheater.” His response was comical, “ohh I would never cheat on…we would be so close in that I would not have the temptation.” Right after that I got sick to my stomach thinking, “I hooked up with a slime ball.”

Personally, I think that getting to know someone before you get intimate with them shows a lot about the person. It shows that they care about YOU and not only what you look like.

So as you can guess I’m dating the guy I met at my friend’s birthday party and I’m so happy! This guy is completely perfect – great sense of humor, personality, intelligent, and not too mention not bad on the eyes.

Last weekend, he took me to see a movie it was the cutest thing, he did the arm-stretch and put his arm around me. He gives me little butterflies in my stomach when he kisses me – having that feeling makes me realize that I would risk anything right now to make it work between the two of us. And I believe that he is the same way.

I’m excited to see what happens between the two of us and will keep you posted. If I can give any advice I would say, “Take a risk on the unexpected it might just be what you’re looking for…”

This post was submitted by Erin.