I HATE MEN

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1. PLEASE WAKE UP ALL WOMEN!! ONCE ITS OVER ITS OVER!!!! IF U BEING WITH A NEW GUY MAKES YOUR EX THINK 2X THEN GOOD ON YA AND ENJOY THE FEELING OF POWER/SATISFACTION AT URE EXE’S REGRET BUT DO NOT EVER GO BACK TO HIM AND I GUARANTEE ULL HAVE A HAPPIER/STRESSFREE LIFE. THIS KIND OF THING IS NOT NEW! AND EVERYTIME I HEAR OF THE SAME/SIMILAR THING I FEEL ANGRY AT WOMEN WHO STANDS BY THIS KIND OF TREATMENT. IT’S NOT ACCEPTABLE! WE’RE ALL BETTER THAN THAT!! BEST OF LUCK TO YOU.

   1. PetulantPoetess on November 16th, 2008 at 3:55 am

2. He’s an IDIOT. STAY AWAY. He is toying with your emotions. They are all the same.

   2. Layma on October 29th, 2008 at 4:52 pm

3. You are wasting your time. Anyone with such indifference one day, commitment the next, then indifference again is not worth the effort when there are plenty of guys that don’t believe in indifference or disrespect.

   3. DaveA on September 28th, 2008 at 9:51 am

4. Hi Kassandra…I read your post then the girls comments and I would have to agree with the majority and say get out now. If he cared about you at all he would let you be happy…with someone else. Don’t let your past emotional tie with this man hold you down. How do you know in a few months he won’t just walk away and do this over and over again because he knows he can?

   You deserve better, someone who will care for you as much as you do them.

   4. Amanda on September 26th, 2008 at 7:40 pm

5. He obviously does not appreciate you and not happy or atleast content with you. He is also obviously not done hunting for women for fun and games. If you keep taking him back he will lose respect for you and think that he can just break up with you when he wants to fuck other women and that you’ll be there to take him back whenever he decides that he misses you. I think it’s pathetic and speaks volumes about your self confidence. You need to forget about this dick and wait for a guy who will enhance your life, not depress it.

   5. Elizabeth on September 25th, 2008 at 7:46 am

6. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you are being used. I had a room mate that was in 82nd Airborne and he used his rank to get over on girls all the time. He played that whole “uncertainty” card whenever he was trying to back out of a commitment he made to them while drunk.

   If you guys had been seeing each other for a while, he is probably certain of your feelings for him and he knows that he can have you at anytime. No matter who you are with, and every so often he will test that theory to increase his ego.

   If you can be satisfied with only being in his life part time, then go for it, but if you are expecting more, tell him to kick rocks. You deserve someone who will be just as committed to you as you are to them.

   6. loveshangover on September 24th, 2008 at 11:41 pm

7. OMG Kassandra, I know exactly where you are coming from…I have been seeing this guy (Army Reserves) on and off for the last 9 months after he returned from Iraq. (His girlfriend at the time he was over there cheated on him) We were good for a while, then he just backed off a whole lot, so I tried talking to him about it, but never get a lot from him…just that he doesn’t want to hurt me. Then I saw him out one night about a month after we stopped seeing each other and he came to my house, and we started to get back in the swing of things, but it was still weird, then he went to California in June for training and while he was out (2 weeks) there he read my blog, and told me how he learned so much about himself, and he told me how happy I make him, and how great I am…so everything was going good.

   So summer was fun, we even went on vacation together and had such a blast. Recently he heard rumors that his unit might get mobilized again in the next year…so after hearing this he goes away for work (in another state) last week, and when he came back he said he thought a lot when he was out there, and he doesn’t feel anything, any emotions (like he wasn’t missing me, yet he called me everyday). I think he is running away from his emotions instead of trying to feel and experience them, and then work through them…your guy might be doing the same thing. I was reading notes from this book called “The Language of Emotional Intelligence” and I think when guys are in Iraq they are taught to downplay their emotions, and encouraged to think rather than feel. On top of everything, my best friend’s husband (Marine) was in Iraq over a year ago, and he told her that they drill it into their heads that their wives and girlfriends are at home cheating on them, so that the only emotion they feel is anger so that they can fight.

   If you really do love him I would suggest being patient with him, just don’t let him disrespect you. You need to build him up by telling him how much he means to you, and how great of a guy he is…do your best to make sure he is happy, but never forget about yourself. If you are going through some hard times is might be good to focus on you and your problems, so you can be there for him, as he has been through a lot…some things that we might never fully understand. I have learned that to have a healthy relationship you need to communicate (verbal & non-verbal) so don’t give up on him..try to share all the love you have to give, if he really loves you he will find it in his heart to return all the love you gave.

   7. a better woman on September 23rd, 2008 at 2:46 pm