Men get off on their own lies…
I have been hanging out with this guy for the past 3 months. Now when I first met him, I knew instantly that he wasn’t interested in a relationship, and at that time, I was, so I didn’t try to take things so serious with him, as the next few months past, I began to realize I did not want a relationship with anyone either, I have more important things to focus on in my life then having a boyfriend. So I basically saw this as a purely sexual “relationship”, which you’d think any guy would love, right? Well not as he stated, he insisted that he was hanging out with me on a friendship level, rather then just a “fuck buddy” level. Now, that’s all well and good, but the only thing he seems capable of talking to me about is sex and his work, I’ve tried bringing up other topics of similar interest, but he more or less just brushes it off and reverts back to his usual ramblings without a second thought. The only thing that bothers me with this is, it’s not exactly a friendship, it is specifically sexual, on both ends… and again, all well and good, seeing as how that’s all I want from him as well. But his insistence on this having more depth then that, is what gets me. Either he is entirely self absorbed, or he just doesn’t want to admit to the fact that this is a sex-driven “friendship”, in which I had already admitted to, and he did not protest the situation. But why does he not just tell the truth? Why does he seem to be trying so hard to make it seem like it’s something more when in clearly isn’t and I am perfectly ok with those terms? The only thing that I can conclude from these findings, is that he gets off on deceiving and lying to women and making them do certain things under the pretense of a deeper meaning, like he just doesn’t want a chick that’s cool with being a fuck buddy and not expecting nor wanting anything more.
I’m not here to bash men, in any way shape or form. Men are who they are, some are nice, some are mean, some just don’t give a damn but they all get off on their own lies.
This post was submitted by jadedbymen.