My magical online “dating” experiences
I was admittedly so lonely and needy that I signed up for okcupid the week after my 18th birthday. My pillow was always very accepting of my needs, but I wanted a real boyfriend and knew it wouldn’t mind. Paranoid about my pictures being stolen for evil purposes (see my other post), I used an extreme close up of one of my eyes as a profile image and put up one other picture where half my face was hidden behind my dog. I decided that I would fill out my profile later and went to bed. The next night when I logged on, I already had a few messages even though my profile was pretty much vacant. One was from a 50 year old man, and while I don’t remember what it said verbatim, it was something like, “I know you’re having difficulty filling out your profile, but if you need help you can message me.” I thought it was a fluke. I wanted to be accepting of people, so I didn‘t use the age restriction settings at first. I don’t even remember what I put for my age preferences. I just wanted to meet a nice guy. I was still a naïve fool even after all the bullying I had experienced at school.
So I kept getting messages from men ages 40+. I also got messaged from men who looked a lot older than what they claimed to be. I don’t think I got a single freaking message from a guy in his 20’s (one person 28 I think) until after I changed my age restriction settings. I got one message from a 45 year old man who actually mentioned his wife. I blocked him. Another man who was 38 years old wanted my email address even though there was free mail and chat on the website. Stupidly, I gave it to him, and then all he did was email me CONSTANTLY, like every single day. He said very creepy things and would continue to email me via text message even though I was not replying to any of his other emails. He mailed me one time saying that I should become a female truck driver and another time saying that he had my picture in his wallet. It got so bad that I had to delete that email account. Two other guys (maybe more, I can’t remember very well) instantly attempted to start cybersex with me as soon as I responded to their chat messages. “hey there you must be the hottest girl on here.” I should have said not to die of cardiac arrest thinking about it. I also got a chat message from someone asking for my IP address and what browser I was using. I must LOOK stupid.
Once, I didn’t log on for a week due to a heavy load of schoolwork. When I checked my messages that weekend, I found hatemail from someone who literally went on for a five page rant about how I had not responded to a message he had sent me on Tuesday. He sounded like a murderous psychopath, but when I read his first message, he sounded completely normal and even nice! I blocked him, and the next day I got a chat message from someone without a profile picture. “So why was I blocked?” Before I could respond to the message, this “new” user blocked me. I got blocked from someone else after he called me a bitch for not wanting to meet up with him. I also got blocked from one of the only guys I messaged myself. He was my age and also in high school. I guess he wasn’t into brunettes, but maybe I’m creepy myself?
People would chat with me for hours if I allowed them too. I would say that I needed to go to bed, but they wouldn’t stop chatting. One guy told me that I owed him a date because he had missed work after I chatted with him too late into night. There is more than one kind of stupid I guess. I got so sick of people messaging me asking questions that I had answered in my profile, such as “What movies do you like?”. It was as if they didn’t even bother to read what I wrote. They just messaged me because they liked girls my AGE or something. And even more annoying were those asking me to meet them. I didn’t want to actually meet anyone. I was too afraid at that point. Every single time I had to decline a real life meeting, it would piss them off to the point of madness. I ended up deleting my account, sorry I had ever even made one. Not only could I not shake off the creeps, I couldn’t get the attention of anyone I liked the profile of.
You know what, maybe I’m just from a scummy area or something?
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