Why taking photos without consent should be a crime
I’m sick of creeps taking pictures of me with their cell phones. In high school some boys photoshopped pictures of me to look like I was naked and posted them on a revenge porn site with my name, address, and a fake social security number. I was underage at the time.
When I was 17, a boy approached me in the hallway and shouted, “Do you EVER smile!?” So I did smile, and he snapped a picture of me and later edited it into porn. My yearbook picture was also used in photoshopped explicit images, making me wonder if one of the boys involved was on the school yearbook team. Photoshop was available on school computers to all students enrolled in art classes. However, GIMP was a well known free art program that could be used like photoshop.
I found the pictures by googling my name. I have a mole on my chest and armpit that of course weren’t in any of the pictures, so the boys who made them DIDN’T EVEN KNOW WHAT I LOOKED LIKE. I never did anything to them to provoke such a nasty prank. I’m not even sure what their names were or how many people were involved.
One guy in my class spread the rumor that I used to be his girlfriend and claimed that’s how he got naked pictures of me. (I’ve never dated. I’ve never even kissed before.). He was in the same senior art class as me and literally lied about how I had sent him pictures right in front of my face. Why would he do something that mean even though I didn’t know him? He never even made an effort to get to know me. He never even greeted me one time (before he made the pictures).
The website my pictures were posted on got shut down, probably because it was full of child porn. I was also not the only victim in my school. Several underage girls ended up having naked pictures of themselves spread around. One of them was my friend, and I know she would NEVER give random guys pictures of herself like that. Her boyfriend at the time didn’t even go to our school. Both her parents were lawyers, so her mom went to the school principal and threatened to file a lawsuit. At first he actually tried to talk her out of it, saying, “You don’t know those pictures are really fake.”, “You wouldn’t want your daughter to fall into the public spotlight.”, and even “You could ruin these young men’s lives by doing this!” He ended up saying that he would track the IP addresses of the people who posted the images on a school sponsored website, but when she called a few days later he said that THE PICTURES HAD BEEN DELETED AND HE COULD NOT TRACK THE POSTERS. This is a pretty good indication that some of the boys who participated in this sick game were the sons of staff members or other important people in my small town.
At my high school, I once saw a boy take a picture up a girl’s skirt while she was walking down the hallway holding her boyfriend’s hand. He turned and glared at me. I was so scared I froze up. He smirked and turned his phone my way, so I turned around and started walking the other way with tears in my eyes. I was so afraid to even stand up for another victim after what had happened to me. Someone who sat behind me took pictures of my butt crack, spread the pictures around, and made disgusting comments about it on myspace (calling me fat). I’ve also seen boys take pictures of a substitute teacher’s legs with dumb grins on their faces.
And the final nail in the coffin was this. A guy who I had politely refused for a homecoming date gathered a group of people on myspace who all went to my school and sent them more photoshopped pictures of me. He claimed that he had hacked my computer and that was how he had gotten the pictures. But I have never put naked pictures of myself on my computer or anywhere else. He also spread rumors about me, telling everyone who asked that I was a slut and that I had been mean to him and called him names. I HADN’T called him anything. The reason I had rejected him was because I didn’t know him very well, and he seemed bossy.
I went to college bitter and angry but held onto the thoughts that boys are just immature, and things will get better. I was wrong. I have the same problems to this day. Men are worse than boys. A man who sat next to me in chemistry asked me for my phone number one day, claiming he wanted it so he could organize a study session. I refused to give it to him, saying that I only use my phone for emergencies due to how expensive minutes are. It seemed to tick him off, but he kept asking more and more personal questions that he didn’t need to know. He asked when and where my other classes were, where I worked, where I lived, if I had a car, what my address was, and for my social security number. He asked if I had a boyfriend, he asked if he could take a picture of me, and he wouldn’t shut up about why I wouldn’t give him my phone number.
In the chemistry lab, I caught a guy taking pictures of me and my butt. He was just standing there grinning. He didn’t even try to cover up what he was doing. I later found out that he went to the same high school as me. It figures he thought he could do anything he wanted to the loser girl who no one liked in high school. I ended up dropping my chemistry class because of the harassment. I feared for my safety, and I wasn’t doing well in there grade wise either.
At my college, I have detected RS signals (potential hidden cameras) in bathrooms twice now with an RS detector, and on one of the incidents I stuffed what must have been two inches of lead from a mechanical pencil into what looked like a peep hole in the wall. I haven’t found any pinhole cameras yet, but I will call the police if I ever do.
My experiences have traumatized me in many ways. I am afraid to go out anywhere other than to classes. I don’t like to be included in family pictures. I don’t feel like I can trust all the men in my family. I feel dirty and unlovable, and I no longer love anyone or anything. So my heart has been rid of love itself. Now all that’s left is hate and suspicion. I was never raped, but I feel like I have been. For everyone who has called me a “slut” and said that I was “easy” after they saw the fake pictures it felt like I really was. I actually started to believe that I wasn’t a virgin. After I went to see a gynecologist for the first time, I found out my hymen was intact at 21. Don’t get me wrong, I know girls take pictures of other girls they don’t like too (in locker rooms), but I was bullied by BOYS. These are my experiences. I’m not saying that all men are perverts, just mostly all of them. Most men. Men don’t have hearts to begin with.
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