Girlfriend has low libido, only thinks I want her/like her because of sex. [19F,24M]
So yeah. Title pretty much says it all.
I'm her first real lover, as in, first where sex has been a steady thing. I only get to see her for a few hours at a time, she's living with her parents and has a curfew. (Ridiculous, I know), so big trips and most night-time club events (I live in an apartment in the college town) are out of reach for her time schedule.
I thought that Valentine's would make pretty clear that I care a lot for her, and I do a lot of things for her (I drive her home on some days, I drive her to and from events, I offer to cook for her, I pay for her dinners, I take her on fancy dates and around the town whenever she's free to go). I've told her and offered examples of me showing her that I care, that she means a lot to me, and that I care about her deeply, but it feels like nothing is getting through to her or that the fear persists.
Certainly, we don't share many hobbies- I like bicycles and see zero appeal in consumerism or pop/brand culture, she sees bicycles and motorcycles as hazardous deathtraps. I accept that these are examples of differences in our opinions, but am willing to work around them because I care, and again, have told her as such. Not sure if she's getting the message, despite repeatedly stating it (in varying ways, no less).
How do I put her mind at ease?
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