What do you want from ME????
Ok, Im 3 months into whatever the hell this is, and he still hasn’t had the decency to ask me out.
Let me explain, I have been chatting with this guy for the past 3 months, we have spoken on the phone about 3 times, and have met just once. Theres just sooo much flirting that goes on between the two of us, but when it comes to turning it into something real… he just wimps out. I dont know what to do with this guy. And because of this Im unsure about the way he feels about me. There are times when we are so alive, you know, chatting all day, flirting, teasing each other… and then there are these spells of silence, wherein I have no idea what hes doing. And that’s like hitting rock bottom. I feel so low, its hard to explain. I feel like maybe hes found some dirt on me and doesn’t want me anymore, or then hes got someone else now. Its not like hes made any commitment towards me, for him to explain his every move to me, but still it just keeps messing with my head. I just keep dropping hints for him to ask me out, but he seems to miss every single one of them. Or then its just intentional because hes just not that into me at all. All he sees in me is a friend with whom he can engage in some healthy flirting and that’s that. Maybe he just does not see me as girlfriend material.
Its just so complicated, but I want clarity. Sometimes I contemplate directly asking him whether hes into me or not, but I don’t wanna ask him over the phone, its just not the right way to do it. But the problem is that he doesn’t seem to wanna meet me in person, so how the hell am I gonna ask him? It’s a vicious circle. And im stuck in it. Ok, what signals that hes giving out am I interpreting wrong. Is it normal for a guy to chat with a girl every minute that hes free, telling her about every thing hes doing and wanting to know about everything shes doing? Is it ok for him to stand by his window say good bye to her every morning when she is leaving for work? Is it even remotely acceptable for him to send pictures of his sister and his childhood home to a girl hes never actually met in person? Its all messed up. Do guys generally keep a girl, whom he just considers to be his friend, up till late in the night just chatting her up? Is it ok for guys who are just friends to complement a girl on and off? Ya, I guess ive got it ALL wrong.
Its like I wear the pants in all this. It was I who actually had the nerve to ask him out before he agreed at first but called it off saying he was busy. But he made no attempts to pre or postpone it. Im just so mad at him now. He just doesn’t seem to pick up on any hints that I throw at him about asking me out. Why am I acting so desperate about it today? Because apparently today is the only day hes gonna be free. After that he’ll be occupied most evenings. And since ive already done the asking out one time before and fallen down on my face I don’t wanna face that humiliation again. All I want is for him to quit playing around. If you have serious feelings for me just tell me. On paper hes perfect, so I don’t wanna waste any more time playing cat and mouse. And besides, how long can I wait?
Like stifler said in one of the American pie movies…. You snooze, you lose. That’s right, one day another guy will just flick me out from under his nose and he will just sit there gaping at us. And there will be nothing he can do about it. That’s when he will wish he would have made a move, just done something to let me know how he feels.
Right now all im feeling is unappreciated. I feel like a play thing that you will use when you are free, and at other times, you have something else to fill your time. If u don’t have feelings for me, quit flirting and wasting my time.
But if you really do like me just man up, and tell me how you feel, or then give me a chance to tell you how I feel. And if there is some higher power up there looking down at me fuming right now, please try and understand my position. Please give that jerk some sense as to how to treat a lady. Give him some realization about what hes doing wrong and how he can make this right.
This post was submitted by Sileefern.