No hope left for men
I feel that dating men is just pointless. Either I’ll become asexual one day or I’ll force myself to only date women, because my expectations for men are just way too high. I have this fantasy guy dreamed up who is completely satisfied with just me, doesn’t wack off to porn, doesn’t somehow manage to twist his head around 180 degrees when some slutty blonde wearing a skirt and heels walks by, and doesn’t secretly wish I was skinnier with bigger tits. But as any man will tell me, that’s way too much to ask for, and I’m a bitch for wanting it. It’s almost like I have to chop a chunk of my soul out and be an unfeeling robot who doesn’t mind emotional disappointment to be able to date men. Sometimes I feel that men and women were never truly meant to have real relationships with one another. Women want it but men just can’t do it because they’re hardwired with the need to stick their dick in as many women as possible. And even if they don’t, I feel like as soon as guys get together in a group they completely disregard the fact that their friends might be in a relationship and encourage them to cheat and go to strip clubs/brothels. Whenever my boyfriend tells me he’s hanging out with his friends I get this irrational fear that they’ll pressure him into cheating on me. It’s happened before. They’ll call him a pussy and a fag for not wanting to fuck other women. I can’t deal with the way that men have been shaped by society to act and behave, the way they’ve been allowed to behave since forever, like dogs with no other force driving their decisions than their dicks. I feel like men are more in LOVE with their own dicks than they’ll ever be with a woman. I am in a relationship now but if it ends I feel that I’ll just be done with men as a whole. I’ll just buy a really good vibrator and be alone forever.
This post was submitted by tfluffny.
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All men and most women look at porn. “my expectations for men are just way too high.” You think??? You need to be realistic. I am sure there are 1000 things men would like to change about you. But you can’t, so you accept it. I don’t blame women. Their friends, family and society tells them they are princesses. That they deserve the best. That they should never accept something other women wouldn’t. Handsome men sleep wih them, making women think they are more attractive than they are. Did you know that only 10% of the male population is above 6 feet tall? Yet that is the minimum height of the men you date. Isn’t that strange? Ever thought about it? And why do you complain about men that cheat? Women cheat more than men do! Proof here:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1211104/Think-men-unfaithful-sex-A-study-shows-WOMEN-biggest-cheats–theyre-just-better-lying-it.html
I think you should be happy things are as they are. Imagine if men didn’t want to stick their junk in to anything. Imagine if men used make up to go from ugly to attractive. Imagine all that. Chances are you’d die a virgin without wanting to.
>>All men and most women look at porn.
BS. I again have to ask your age.. because most adults would know that statement is just not true.
You are fixated on your height, and thats whats going to stop you from finding a meaningful relationship.
Look at Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise… she is way taller that he is. It didnt stop him did it? Before you jump in and say they are divorced.. sure they are, because she felt he was a danger (through his religion) to Suri. NOT because of his height.
Look at Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise
Celebrities do not count. Neither do rich men. They play by different rules. Most celebrity men are short. Even Brad Pitt and Johnny Depp. IF they wheren’t famous or in a movie no one would want to date them.
You are kidding me….. you really must have a complex. Women go for personality.. so if you have a bad one.. it dosent matter WHAT you look like. This is a lesson you have to learn in order to be a successful ‘anything’ in the world.
Be the best you can… thats all anyone will ask of you.
You should watch the movie “the ugly truth”. Its a comedy that touches on the truths about men. Just disregard the BS happy ending, lol. That’s the problem, society lies to girls and women via double standards and movies. The reality is that the vast majority of men do not fall in love, do not want love, and never will unless they feel pressured by family or religion to marry and have children. Even then its not real love from them, just an obligation to move on to the “next step” in life, or to rid them of guilt. Making women live to these ridiculous “love” standards leaves us vulnerable to being scammed. You said u like women, so lucky you. Have fun with the ladies!
:)
“All men and most women look at porn. “my expectations for men are just way too high.” You think??? You need to be realistic. I am sure there are 1000 things men would like to change about you.”
Yeah like my weight and tit size because most of them are shallow and couldn’t care less about my personality.
“But you can’t, so you accept it. I don’t blame women. Their friends, family and society tells them they are princesses. That they deserve the best. That they should never accept something other women wouldn’t. Handsome men sleep wih them, making women think they are more attractive than they are. Did you know that only 10% of the male population is above 6 feet tall? Yet that is the minimum height of the men you date. Isn’t that strange? Ever thought about it?”
I’ve dated a guy who was 5 inches shorter than me. I don’t know why you think you know me.
“And why do you complain about men that cheat?”
Because I’m a straight female who doesn’t want to date men who cheat…?
“Women cheat more than men do! Proof here:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1211104/Think-men-unfaithful-sex-A-study-shows-WOMEN-biggest-cheats–theyre-just-better-lying-it.html”
Lol. No, men cheat more than women. I’m not even going to bother reading some stupid article that says otherwise. There are a million articles on the internet. Besides, what does it even matter who cheats more? I don’t date women, why would I complain about them? Why would I care?
“I think you should be happy things are as they are. Imagine if men didn’t want to stick their junk in to anything. Imagine if men used make up to go from ugly to attractive. Imagine all that. Chances are you’d die a virgin without wanting to.”
I think you should stop trying to make me accept disappointment and just.. remove yourself.
@agirl
Oh! God! You’ve summed it all up so perfectly!
Men do not want love and do not love. When they are in a relationship it’s just to conform to standards. If they could f*ck one different wh*re every day instead, they would do it willingly!
Society has been lying to women from the start – and poor women still believe that men are able to love, convincing themselves that if it never works it is their own fault, it’s because of their insecurities, their lack of beauty, lack of confidence or whatever else psychologists will tell you to make you feel responsible for your man’s indifference, cruelty, selfishness and utter incapacity to have feelings for you.
Men do not love women, they are not interested in them at all. What they love is their own d*cks. That’s it – I think you’re perfectly totally right.
I wish I had female friends who know about the truth like you, because in France, all the women believe men are normal and able to love, and blame themselves for men’s horrible behaviours. American women are far more clever and realistic! Europe lags behind as always!
Hugs,
Frenchy-Froggy
tfluffny – I hear you. I agree with pretty much most of what you said. EXCEPT for you saying “some slutty blonde wearing a skirt and heels.” I am blonde. I can wear a skirt and heels anytime I freaking want to. But that DEFINITELY DOESN’T make me a slut. It was an ignorant statement and I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt that you probably said it without thinking. But you should never blindly judge a woman by her hair color – in fact it’s irrelevant to this site anyway.
agirl – I agree.
“I feel that dating men is just pointless. Either I’ll become asexual one day or I’ll force myself to only date women, because my expectations for men are just way too high.”
Well, at least you recognise the problem.
Okay, that was not fair, since most of your expectations are even reasonable, and thats a welcome break from what i can usually read here.
The porn might be debatable, but without the details, it would only be a “wich came first, the chicken or the egg” debate.
“doesn’t secretly wish I was skinnier with bigger tits”
I have to ask how you come to this conclusion. After all, if it is a secret wish.
But again, your expectations seem reasonable, allmost too low. And so far, it seems an asexual man, or an eunuch would be perfect for you.
I’m in a long distance relationship now and the only time he watches porn is when I don’t feel like helping him get off. I think that’s reasonable.. I accept the fact that masturbation is his alone time. But it would upset me if we were married and had sex every day and he still watched it, living under the same roof as me. To you and most guys that would probably seem like too high of an expectation or too controlling, but to me it’s perfectly reasonable. By “my expectations are too high” I didn’t really mean I think they’re too high, I meant to most guys they’re too high. That’s why it’s hard to date men, you either have to search forever to find someone decent or you have to learn to live feeling emotionally unsatisfied.
CoyFemme – I’m sorry if I offended you, but it’s just my opinion that if someone has their hair bleached almost white, wears a ton of makeup, hooker heels and a skirt that barely covers their butt.. they look like a slut. Especially in the middle of December like the ones I saw on New Years Eve a while ago. You don’t have to agree.
There are good men out there, just lower you expectations toward their looks and their spot in the social hierarchy.
I usually find women dumb, over sensitive and vapid, I can never have a intellectual conversation with them, that’s why I only speak to my male friends about philosophy etc, and keep the girl around for sex. That is why in many cases the man looks just like a sex driven pig when in actually he can have a intellectually rich life.
You women do not know much about the male psychology, the human sexes are equally smart (Men actually lead women by 3 IQ points in the US), being sexual does not mean someone is dumb.
You know nothing about my standards. I have almost none as long as it’s someone who treats me okay and can carry on a conversation. I dated a guy who was jobless, homeless and less attractive than me (according to most people), and he still managed to cheat.
I don’t really care what your opinion on women is. I don’t date women. I don’t care if you think women are useless and only good for their bodies. I assume you’ve never dated a man so you can’t accurately compare the two and expect me to listen.
And I never said being sexual means someone is dumb, I like sex as much as anybody else. But if sex is the main thing you focus on and keep someone around for it really makes you look like you lack morals and standards.
Err, tfluffny you did not adress me, but i think the part under mast post was adresset at mine?
“To you and most guys that would probably seem like too high of an expectation or too controlling, but to me it’s perfectly reasonable.”
Compromise perhaps?
I really cannot say it would be too much for me i must say. Because the total two relationships i had… lets just say in one case it was long distance, one cannot fault me for still seeking release if you only see eachother once a month. The other one, didnt last long enough for me to know if i had needed porn later or not. For the time it lasted, i did not.
(Ad come to think of it, i never really “needed it”. )
Soo, i have really no clue if it would really be needed, and yes, i have a hard time understanding why it is such a big deal. Does it makes you feel inadequate, not good enough to fulfill his needs? Or why?