I just don’t get it!
So I guess I’m here for the same reason anyone else here is ; we have some sort of problem with a guy or guys in general.
Man, it’s so hard to deal with them! They always act so pervy and I HATE HOW THEY HYPERSEXUALIZE EVERYTHING. Like, I am a total advocate of everyone, women and men alike, looking and feeling their best. I am not a jealous person, I want everyone to look as gorgeous as possible. But what I don’t like is this constant horndog shit. It makes me so uncomfortable! Not only that, but so many guys associate beauty with how available/ready someone looks for sex. I think that has very little to do with how hot someone is, but that’s just my humble opinion I guess.
Men make it so images of women are so hypersexualized it’s ridiculous. You can’t look anywhere without having breasts or ass shoved in your face. And the thing is, it’s not like I hate breasts and ass. I love the human body, and the female form is totally beautiful. What sicks me out is how a lot of these images are kinda laid out like meat, or a circus act, or a freakshow curiosity. It’s so like OBJECTIFIED, ya know?
I want sex to be all sacred and special and beautiful and stuff and guys just totally wipe their butts with it!! And SO MANY GUYS think women owe them something! Like, an example I can use is that show King of Queens. Yeah, it’s just a show, but people are influenced, at least a little bit, by everything they watch, even if it’s fantasy. This show is clearly a fantasy, because the husband is fat, ugly, unintelligent and not funny. The wife is pretty attractive and she seems like she works hard. Still, he’s always acting like a pig and she needs to find new ways to “please” him, to be “sexy” for him. Dude, she’s already pretty and works hard, what more do you want, fatty?! There’s a lot of shows and citcoms like that, where there’s a husband who’s totally ick who has a hot wife and that’s “still not enough”. What the hell ever, that’s ridiculous. I wouldn’t touch those guys with a ten foot pole.
But then, when you DO meet a guy who is : gorgeous, funny, smart, likes videogames and the same nerdy stuff you do… HE’S NOT THE “DATING TYPE”. He doesn’t want a girlfriend, he just wants to be a child and live with his parents forever. :/ Dude, nothing wrong with living with your parents. But, I’m sorry if this sounds horribly arrogant, I am one of the hottest girls I know, plus, I love videogames, movies, hanging out, eating food, and I love sex. Why don’t you want to date me? Or anyone, for that matter? :////
THEN, WHEN THE GUY YOU ADORE FINALLY DOES WANT TO DATE SOMEONE, it’s a girl who is more “girly” has less in common with him, and is the kind that once she’s “got” him, suddenly acts mean and he’s like “how did I end up with a bitch?” and you’re all, “GEE I DUNNO because you don’t want to date ME, because I’m ‘too much like a sister, or one of the guys’?” GOD, I HATE IT. Also, I’ve noticed a lot of women, as they age, have the capacity to keep looking hot, or at least nice and put together. GUYS AS THEY AGE get all fat and hairy (everywhere except on their head, that falls right out) and unkept and stuff. And as they get older, and their wife takes care of herself, they get pervier and pervier.
I work in a strip club (I live alone and am trying to get training so I can get a job and never look back at a place like that again, god I hate them) and like all the guys there are old, ugly, and have cute wives. But they come in and objectify young girls. They don’t respect any of us who work there, and if they say they do, they’re lying. There is no way you can respect someone and then pay them ten bucks to grind in your lap. Money combined with sex always leads to a lack of respect and dehumanization.
These guys come in, grabbing at us, saying disgusting things to us, and putting us down. Almost all my coworkers are absolutely beautiful (at least on the exterior) but these guys can manage to find something wrong with ANYONE. “You have tiny tits” a guy will say to a girl with normal sized boobs. “You’re fat” a guy will say to a girl who is curvy but DEFINITELY NOT FAT. Also, take note that he is not turned off enough by her flaws not to buy lapdances and try to stick his hands down her thong -_-. I just hate it so much, man. And I hate the idea of one day being married to a guy who goes into a strip club and makes young girls feel as depressed and scared of marriage as I do now. I hate that lack of respect so much. I hate how unimportant it makes sex appear, how casual it makes this stuff seem.
I just hate men, and I am becoming so conflicted about sex. I used to love it so much, I used to be so uninhibited and feel so sexy when I was with a guy I loved. But now I feel like all sex is a lie. That all men are perverts. That it will never be special, and that was only an illusion on my end. Sex feels good, but now it makes me feel dirty and it makes me cry. Does anybody know what I’m talking about? And it’s hard to just write off men and be like “I HATE THEM I’LL DATE GIRLS”. I dated a girl before, and she was wonderful and beautiful, but it just wasn’t fair to either of us. Anyone would be lucky to have her, but just like how people who are homosexual can’t force themselves to be hetero, vice versa.
And it really sucks feeling so creeped out and grossed about by the majority of men (I have a few guy friends I get along with, who don’t give me the willies, but these are the ones I was talking about that I end up falling for and they’re all “WE DON’T DATE” or “I could never date you, you’re my friend”). Half the population is male, and it sucks feeling so hateful towards half the people you meet/know! How do you guys deal with all these kinds of negative feelings? And how do you guys get past that “you’re my friend” thing with guys? Seriously, I have these guy friends, if I make my feelings known, they’ll be all “no you’re really hot, you’re awesome, you’re like a guy (interests wise) but I could never date you, you’re my friend, and I want to date someone more feminine who will balance me”. WTFFFF GIVE ME A CHANCE PLZ
This post was submitted by PearlEWhites.