Hmmm
Ok so I made a post maybe 2 weeks ago as ‘mendontgetit’ about my ex “friend with benefits”. Here’s a recap/update.
12/25/12: him: damn you’re being a bitch. If you don’t wanna fuck what’s the point in texting…lose the number
12/26/12 him: so that’s it then huh
him: I don’t get why you hate me
me: ive done nothing but be nice to you *etc
him: *no reply
1/9/13 him: how’s the new year treating you?
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So I guess I’m supposed to have forgotten what happened and continue as normal? lol
This post was submitted by cutiepie.
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The guy is a schizopheric, or at least it sound like he is one.
Or he might have a multiple personality disorder, the two are often confused, since the behavior is similar.
Or he is just an idiot, plain and simple.
Let me guess. He is tall and handsome. You wanted more, he didn’t. So all men are pigs? Maybe you shouldn’t date the top 20% of men? MAybe you should give the other 80% of men a chance?
R2D2,
“If you don’t wanna fuck what’s the point in texting…lose the number.”
If the “top 20%” of men say things like that, I’d hate to see what kind of things the bottom 80% say.
I mean, I’d treat a stranger better than that. Jeez.
Mirandalady
Most men are below 6 feet. They are less likley to be spoiled by having women flock to them due to their “confidence” (Attractive face). It’s like how a poor person might appreciate a good meal from a restaurant than a rich person would.
By the bottom 80% I don’t mean the ones with bad personality. But the average looking men. But women are only attracted to looks, money and status.
R2D2
First of all, stop putting words in my mouth. You don’t know me nor do you know my situation. Yes, he is handsome, but he’s definitely not 6 feet, so there’s one thing right there you’re wrong about.
You seem to have the idea that I chased him, which couldn’t be further from the truth. He pursued me. Also, it is not my problem you’re “average-looking” and women don’t flock to you. If you were really “average-looking”, you wouldn’t have a problem attracting someone. Maybe it’s you as a person that’s a turn off.
Another thing, I’m not shallow, and looks aren’t all I look for. But, why is it that because someone is attractive that means they’ve had it SO easy? I’m beautiful myself, but I’ve had a lot of hard times. Because of my looks, I’ve been both sexually harassed and accused of being dumb and promiscuous, though I’m neither of those things.
You think a man is a better person/mate because he’s “average-looking” or less attractive? Absolutely not. Men like you try to make a woman feel bad for rejecting you because since you’re interested in her, you deserve a chance, and her rejection simply means she hasn’t looked past your looks, and if she’d just give you a chance, she’d see hoe awesome you are.
You think I haven’t turned down nice-looking men? Maybe it’s the entitled personalities of both I can’t stand. Try building some damn character.
If you don’t wanna fuck what’s the point in texting…lose the number”
I hate to be rough on you, but this is the truth. You two are friends with benefits, and he’s more into the benefits than the friendship. If you dont want to have sex with him, maybe its better that you dont contact him.
Also R2D2,
If you actually read any of my past responses in the previous post on this page, you’d know that I don’t care about money and status. You do need to be attracted to the person you’re dating though. I’m sure you’ve seen women you wouldn’t date because you’re just not attracted to them.
The problem is having so many qualifications that no one will ever be good enough.
R2D2
“Most men are below 6 feet.”
Most women aren’t a size 2 with natural DD cup breasts. That doesn’t stop men front wanting and chasing them. Whats your point?
“By the bottom 80% I don’t mean the ones with bad personality. But the average looking men. But women are only attracted to looks, money and status.”
Men are only attracted to looks, p*ssy, and azz. Whats your point?
@honey- If you notice, he contacted me twice after I said I no longer wanted sex, which was the same day he said to lose his number. Actually, I said it a week prior, but I guess he thought I’d change my mind.
So, yeah I know we were friends with benefits, hence me putting “ex friends with benefits” in the first sentence.
@Muzolf-I was thinking something was wrong with him mentally like you said as well. It just doesn’t make sense for him to flip flop like that.
Whenever I rejected a guy, he may have tried to beg once or twice, but gave up and never contacted me again because he only wanted sex and moved on.
This guy has been in my life for 3 years. He has his tantrum (he’s never gotten physical), then he’s back like nothing happened. It’s like the kid who yells “I hate you!” because he didn’t get to eat ice cream for breakfast, but is back like nothing happened by the time he’s picked up from school.
I mean, I’ve watched him switch right in front of me. He went from “awww I don’t want you to be mad” (I didn’t want him to smoke cigs because they’re not healthy) and 2 seconds later goes “fuck it” and called the front desk at the hotel we were in to ask if they had a cigarette (they didn’t).
And he claims he took me to the hotel, which is really a “romantic getaway” hotel, because he was trying to figure out what he wanted to do.
The issue is deeper than he just wanted sex and I can’t take a hint.
Cutiepie:
K gotcha!
R2D2, please stop making us look stupid, no offense.
Cutiepie, the more you describe him, the more it seams that he wasnt simply a jerk, he was really messed up in the head as well.
What you told us about him looks more and more like a classic case of schizophrenia, a condition where what the subject thinks, feels and does have little to do with eachother, major mood swings without explanation in seconds, and inconsistent behavior. It gets worst with time, untill a full breakdown of thought processes, when he start to experience horrific delusions, hallucinations, becomes fully disorganised, confused and dangerous.
The guy needs a doctor, and possibly locked away before it gets worst and he becomes a threat to himself and his enviroment. Dont be suprised if you hear of him later killing someone, or possibly himself.
Okay, maybe i have blown this out of propotions, it doesnt have to be the worst case scenario, there are lighter cases, but it could come to what i described.
Muzolf- I understand what you’re saying, but I honestly don’t think it’s like that. I’ve never felt like I was in danger or anything around him. He is a good person, goes out a lot and has a lot of friends, sky dives.
My dad is a dangerous person, so I can sense when someone is bad news. I do feel like he’s got an issue with expressing his feelings when it comes to romantic relationships. Like, he says he doesn’t want a relationship, but his actions say otherwise.
I’m just confused. I still haven’t responded to his text because I’m tired of having feelings for someone who doesn’t know what he wants.
Ok, he just texted me : Must not be good…that sucks i hope it gets better for you
OMG!!! All I want is for him to address and apologize for what he did. He says something mean and his version of saying “I didn’t mean what I said” is simply contacting me and changing the subject.
O great, I’m glad you didn’t really mean it and still want to talk to me, but who just ignores what happened completely?!
I still haven’t texted him back.
Cutiepie (Great, now i am sounding like a creep adressing you.), there are more ways in wich someone could be a threat. You might sense if someone is mean spirited, or something else, but are you sure you could allways sense if someone is a ticking bomb?
Because there othervise are complinely decent, or even kind people, who still might become a threat, even if they themselves dont want to.
Even heard the original werewolf stories? Well this is the thing, the oldest ones, are not about people phisically turning into wolves. They were the explanation given to some people who behaved complitely normal until a certain point.
And possibly about rabies but that isnt relevant for us.
Muzolf-I would feel differently if I’d only known him for a few weeks/months, but I met him Aug. of 2009. I know he’s not a closet killer or woman beater. I think he can be moody and have mood swings though. And he doesn’t know what he wants romantically, which I don’t have time for.
He is also a Taurus (bull) really close to the Gemini (twins) cusp. My mom was a Gemini, and my goodness it was like she was two people in one body. She could go from really sweet to cussing you out in a snap lol. I don’t know, maybe that has something to do with it.
He and his friends came in the store I worked at one day, and his friend was like “you know him?”. I said “yeah”. He was like “that’s unfortunate”. He didn’t laugh or say “just kidding”. It was weird because they were all buying beer to hang out together, so I don’t know what that was about.
@cutiepie
many men aren’t sure what they want romantically. most of us don’t really think about it until we’re confronted with the question. even thinking about it now, i’m really not sure what i want in a woman. it honestly feels like a mental block is in the way. what his friend said to you could either be a sign that he knows something you don’t or the “friend” is trying to manipulate you for or against the person he speaks of. men aren’t always as simple minded as some think, we often encourage and discourage people without them ever knowing, women do this as well.
Cutiepie, okay, you know him, not me.
He still sounds schizopheric to me by your descriptions.
As for not knowing what he wants. Well thats is just sad.