Is There Something Wrong With Me
I am a 20 year old MALE college student and just want to know is there something wrong with me. My issues come within my views of relationships. I believe up and down all around in equality. I do not believe in chivalry and refuse to take part in it for anyone. Its to a point that I get angry when men give up their seats and open doors for women. I dont think this way because I hate women. I really dont hate women. But i think this way because chivalry was created to protect the weak and if someone is able to die by my side in war and is capable of competing with me for my job why should i treat them as if they are weak? I believe women are incredibly strong, hard working, and fully capable of taking care of themselves. I would never do that for a man, and I do not owe you anything why would i go the extra mile to serve you. I do this in every relationship I have. I just cant feel good about chivalry. Every woman I know or who is a friend of mine either says I am mean or that I treat them to much like men. I do have plenty of female friends, they know my personality and they expect this from me. Hopefully they wouldnt have me any other way. But i could understand why women would think that way about me and its because I believe that honesty and honest criticism can be used to benefit someone in the future. I am that guy that will call you fat and tell you new hair style is stupid. Im sure it sounds like im being a jerk when writing this but my intentions are pure. I was raised as an athlete and to get someone to try harder or change something about themselves what i have noticed is that beating around the bush never works. Why would I let you leave in something that makes you look fat and if I really liked your original hair style and i dont like the new one, im just not going to lie to you. I dont know, I just believe in telling people how you feel about them all the time. And I am completely open to someone telling me what is wrong with me and those are the only people I really want to be around. My main issue is probably when I tell people about my idea of a perfect relationship. They say its ridiculous. I hope you ladies dont, but I want a separate bed, bathroom, television, car (I dont want her ever using mine), bank accounts, basically separate everything. I dont want to share anything tangible because I really just want to have a relationship with someone whos personality i absolutely enjoy rather than become enthralled by anything tangible. Im not saying that because i dont want someone to take half if we break up, I just need to know that if one of us lost it all that we would still be with each other. But wayyyy more than that im really selfish and flat out dont share. The other thing is that i really want in my relationship is to NOT HAVE A SUBMISSIVE WOMAN!!!!!!!!!! If I could write that in 75 font i would. I want someone to take care of themselves. I dont have to buy them anything. I dont want to be her protector or her provider. I want her to be fully capable of doing that herself. I dont need her to take care of me at all. I am a pretty good cook and damnit im cleaner than most people. So I dont even desire a woman to take of me i would much rather take care of myself when it comes to personal and domestic duties. I am very serious about everything I have just said. Also I do find men attractive but i need to be with a woman for my complete satisfaction.
Please answer the title question and tell me if there is hope for a woman in the world that would make me happy in the way i described. Or if I need to change.
P.S. I love this site for two reasons 1. Every story is so personal and every opinion is very strong although some (Not at all most) of them are not backed with enough evidence to make men seem evil. and
2. I dont want to be the guy that makes a woman search in google “I Hate Men” find this site, relate with it, and spill her soul to strangers about me.
Thanks for reading
This post was submitted by DienMahlee.