Why?
Why is it that so many men shun sexuality, be it just a woman’s sexuality or everyone’s, including their own? Why is it that the most perverted men paint an image of themselves as nigh-asexual to adhere to an outdated notion of virtue? Why is it that the overly macho womanizers embrace the sexuality of men, yet are the first to call a woman a slut for any reason? Why is it that when a woman tries to claim her sexuality, she is deemed a bitch, frigid, a whore, etc. Why is it necessary to have words to denigrate those (women) who enjoy sex in the first place? Why do so many men attempt to force a woman to sexualize herself, only to use and subsequently insult her for doing so?
If, according to what some say, most men are kind and intelligent and that the bad ones are few and far between, why is it that these kinds of things are so prevalent as to be the norm in our society, with women holding themselves and their sexualities to what a man thinks they should be?
This post was submitted by HaplopelmaLividum.
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As one middle aged man once told me… its because they are scared of us! They ignore their mothers advice over the years..then the horrible realization that she was right all the time hits them about age 35.
When women speak to each other the men hear an almost alien language.. where everything has a totally different meaning to what they are actually saying, to them its almost as if we are speaking in code! Girls seem to understand this hidden meaning from birth, boys dont.
A father can listen to his wife and daughter talking and knows there are 2 conversations going on.. one that he can hear and the other one with a deeper meaning he cannot hope to fathom.
Sounds melodramatic? Ive had 2 men tell me this same thing, both very intelligent and well respected gentlemen with daughters…
Im guessing some of the bad reactions from the men are because they feel frustrated, alone, and dont know how to voice their concerns. Instead of saying “I dont understand you”.. they hit out in anger. Of course there are the straight out ‘gang mentality’ idiots who wouldnt know a good thing if they fell over it..
Shazz, those two probably overanalysed it and looked for a hidden meaning where there is none.
But feel free to prove me wrong, tell me, IS there a deeper meaning, something that cannot be heard by the words you are speaking, if you are speaking to eachother?
I would be suprised, but i am ready to accept it as a truth that eluded me so far if you say so.
As a simpler explanation, let me offer this: The things described above, are they comeing from the same person?
Or several others?
Because in the second case, the answer is much easier. That these men are all different, just as all women are different. It allmost seems to me that many women on this site think that men are supposed to be some sort of uniformed beings with the same views and toughts everywhere. Or as if men were some sort of hive mind.
You can’t please everyone, you shouldnt even try. It would fail, no matter what, and you just make yourself miserable.
So how about, just living your life, and handling your sexualy just the way YOU want it, and not giving a damn about what others think?
HaplopelmaLividum, i think people try to put others down, in the ways you mention as well as others, because they’re jealous or think they’re superior. if they’re close to you, they may just disagree with your actions and not know how to express themselves properly. i can kind of understand what shazz says, when i’m having a disagreement with the woman i’m seeing i get the urge to scream and throw things.