It’s all flesh and blood.
Dear ladies of the world,
I am a young male, damning I know, whom has come across this site and read a few of the posts displayed through the news feed. Surprisingly, I have not found getting angry, nor defensive about the views and rants posted here but almost empathetic and a bit sympathetic.
I will take into consideration that many(or some) of you have been abused sexually and/or violently by men and thus developed this hate. Not including these severe cases I have concluded in my mind that some of you, quite frankly fear men, or simply find you lack of understanding for the male being frustrating and this interpret this as hatred for men.
Anyway, I believe many of the posts shown here have displayed the message of deep insecurity. And upset. However, what you seem to fail to understand is it is a two way street; we are both human. Born from our mothers, live off emotion. Although different in some ways it may surprise you that we also share many of your characteristics, yet, feel we have to react a different way.
As a man, I feel women have more freedoms than I do in what they can wear, in what’s advertised for them, in job opportunities, in what you can socially acceptably say and do. As women of course you can see the opposite. And that’s fine but you’ve got to realise that that’s society, society is not completely run by brooding male bigots, the reason there may not be as many big wig entrepreneurs is that perhaps not as many women choose that career path. Although it is not hard to find strong, successful women what ever field you look at.
I found a post which I found particularly interesting. It was talking about the evolutionary theory behind why men would be unfaithful, cheat. I talked slanderously about how men have not evolved from their primitive instincts and how they have no control over their sexual urges for other women besides their lover.
As a someone very adept to the Theory of human evolution through a psychological lens, I will explain, in-short, the outline to you. ( im sorry for those whom may already know all this)
Humans are higher primates. From a very early stage men and women set themselves certain roles and tasks, which at the time was successful.
1. Defend settlements,
2. Hunt for food,
3. Teach the young
4. Build shelter etc.
1.Forage for fruit and nuts
2.Tend and befriend other females so that in the case that they were to die perhaps their young would be cared for by another woman.
3.Look after children etc.
This all sounds very sexist but this is how it was million of years ago.
Now, a lot has changed, gender roles are over lapping, equalism, multiculturalism, all these great things, but there are still instincts we have not evolved from in BOTH sexes.
Things like; men like cheating, men are lazy and all those other things you like to rant about but these are things we control! We have a conscience and it is our responsibility to ensure we remain faithful.
however, women also have primitive instincts still, “TEND and BEFRIEND”- give into a lot of social pressure to fit in, care a lot of other girls and try your hardest to please your friends is in fact an ancient instinct… MATERNAL… OBSESSION WITH LOOKS not all i know and a stereotype, but I have to go on stereotypes of both genders to make this point understandable, originally, men look for youth in a woman because they were the most fertile, women looked for muscle and intelligence(and age) in a man because they were the most resourceful,
Sexuality is just an overall frustrating thing;Men not giving unattractive women a chance is a terrible thing but the fact a woman stereotypically looks for a man of whom she can depend on and take his money and things to look after herself and their kids is not a very flattering prospect for me either.
I would like to hear you thoughts and comments on my post, thank you for reading, Im looking g for thoughts, opinions and debates, but an argument.
*All comments on gender is a generalisation and it must be understood that I understand completely that there are many exceptions and have never looked upon women as anything less (or more) than an equal to me (and malekind).
This post was submitted by ZelliTheEqualist.