I have been married 5 months and unfortunately we are in to separate states for a reason too long to get in to. I was helping my husband submit a resume; he gave me his yahoo password. While I was on, I hear a ding and I see a chat. The chat was from SLAVE SLAVE and it was addressed to “master”! I figured it may just be an unsolicited chat. I get them all of the time from a Bambi or Candy whatever. So I ignore it, and go on with what I was doing. Then a week later I am on again submitting yet another resume and another ding from a different girl. Well I know the hubs is sleeping and so I decided to find out if she knows him. I chatted back and she began to flirt. She said she found his name on a dating site and did he want to see her on a webcam. So I blew her off and closed the chat inside yahoo. Then I opened the real messenger her name and Slave Slave was in the contact list. Her name and 37 others listed under “girlfriends and my name well it was under girlfriends too. I was so mad! I went to saved conversations and there were a few not to bad chats a few months old.
So I tested him and said um Honey an IM came up and she wanted to talk who is this Shella? Oh he said I don’t know and it must be a random IM. So I thought I needed to know if there was anything more going on. Also he had just sent back a phone I gave him on my plan, said the service didn’t work well at his home. It did not really bother me but now I wondered if it was to hide text numbers.
So I start sneaking on and checking e-mails and chats. It took a week or so but then he IMd her “DO YOU WANNA PLAY” A day or two went by and then she back that she was available and tried to get him to web cam. He said no but said that real life was better. So know I am pissed. Also around the same time I found two e-mails from girls stating that they were both from a dating site. I looked and looked for 3 days trying to find if he was on the site. I could not find him. Then another chat asking him how long he had been on the site and he answer that “he had just signed up”! Now I was so sick, I knew I had to confront him but I couldn’t. Saying it out loud made it real. Finally on last chat what was said was just too much! I tried to call and yell at him but I couldn’t. I was so hurt so angry; I threw up and couldn’t stop shaking.
I shot him and angry text telling him my ring it was coming back to him. He said what did I do and I told him. I was crushed. I told him how hurt I was but he brushed it off. He told me that he just got mail from the dating sites and he was not on them. I told him I HAVE THE CHATS and E-mails I copied them. Also that in his own words he stated that he was on dating sites. He just kept lying and I was so tired. He had class and I told him we would talk after… When we talked, he said ok what do you want? I said it is simple no more girls and no more dating sites. He said fine and we said good night. If he had apologized and tried atone it would have been behind us. I believe in second chances but oh NO!
The next say he was rude and surly. I asked why was he acting this way and that I should be the one that is mad. He told me he was mad because I gave him an ultimatum and that I was causing the issues. If he had not done anything wrong then how would it be an Ultimatum? I mean how would any woman feel if her just husband was chatting with girls and asking them if they “want to play?” His contact list was up to 44 women listed as “GIRLFRIENDS”(so he has added some). REALLY? Um most married people would have a HUGE issue with that.
So I for some reason just had to find his profile and I did. Large as life a suggestive nickname resent pictures, his real name in the bio and it stated that he was divorced! He had changed his height, he is very tall and that is why did not find him. There was a timestamp of when he was on and one picture was less than 2 weeks old. I copied and pated the chats, the e-mails and the dating profile and sent it to him. Still no apology, he said he just wanted to look around a full week of denying it. Faced with the proof all he can say is he had to fill it out to be able to look around. Well I had to fill a small portion out to try and find him. I never had to use my real name and I did not add personal photos. Does he really think I am this stupid? Of course he does and so he has a self fulfilling prophecy… he will be divorced!
Even hurt and mad it takes a bit to fall out of love and I know he thinks he has gotten away it. I am sure he has new girls to chat up. Oh but revenge is sweet I have not told him yet. I simply act the part of a DUMB forgiving wife. Mean while I have a new e-mail and soon a new phone number. Without a word the phone numbers will change and the old e-mail removed. Facebook will have my maiden name back up. Not to mention being an attractive woman, I found my own playmate! So Ultimatum that HUBS!!!

This post was submitted by KC.