My biggest complaint

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So I have been married for almost 6 years now and I can honestly say that more often than not I hate my husband. My biggest complaint is that he sleeps on the couch 99% of the time. He falls asleep watching tv and despite his recent promise to me to try to read in bed like I do before going to sleep, I still find him on the couch in the morning, usually with the tv and lights still on! IT DRIVES ME CRAZY! Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of other issues. The next most important one is that the romance (what little there was) is completely gone. So I am always asking myself- why did I get married? Is this reason enough to leave? I am usually unhappy and even miserable at times. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

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  • Heavenlyhope

    I had the same problem at one time. I had the cable turned off. Night after night, he got bored with reading so he did eventually go to bed. But never solved the problem. What you might want to consider is telling him how you feel. Have an open discussion with just talk. Men are from a different time zone and when it is not in thier zone, they just do not get it. He may not be aware of how you feel. You can beat around the bush and he still wont get. Be straight, forward and up front. Then he will be aware of the situation. I would suggest counseling, if not for you both at least for yourself. I hate counseling myself, but I have learned more about me during the process. Also a good book… Why does he do that…. yes it is about men with abuse issues, whether it be anger, controlling, financial controling, emotional abuse or down right abuse it will give you a better understanding of men in general. Good Luck

  • Guess

    “The next most important one is that the romance (what little there was) is completely gone. So I am always asking myself- why did I get married? Is this reason enough to leave? I am usually unhappy and even miserable at times. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. “

    MEN (smart men only – men do anything) do NOT get married. Notice how this dingbat bases her HAPPINIESS in her marriage? You do NOT invest your LIFE in “how happy a woman is” – you do NOT invest in a govenrment contrect according to HOW A WOMAN FEELS.

  • yo yo yo

    Fuck i hate women on the “abuse” trip. REDFLAG. Can't associate with pussies. HOW can such a weak a pathetic gender always harping on “abuse” be GRANTED too much leeway in society at large? Go hide inside a little cupboard. Let the world turn without you. And yeah, it will too – better yet and with less friction.

  • yo

    Thank god TYPICALLY, marriage is the ONLY (yet STILL cripples naive men) damn CONTRACT that is based on some touchy feely loser woman's EMOTIONS.

    Most contracts make sense. Not on some crash market dumb female's EMOTIONS. That is a bet you can't win. Check it out. Not a contract deal.

  • GO BOY BOXHEAD

    This is funny, and ironic. You have wimpy men complaining that their Diva kicks him out of the bed he bought (when she should even ask for permission EVERY night before she even sleeps in it.), but your husband willingly rather not even sleep anywhere near you. If your husband had nothing to lose, (besides a dime a dozen woman, you of course, except you are one of those doozey cloud 9 life is but a dream fragile romantic types.) I'd say just divorce him, since i am both a pro men's right and anti marriage advocate. Though men get the shaft in divorce, so im gonna have to just say, stay awhile.

  • Young Boy BLOOM!

    “My biggest complaint”
    What other complaint is there? Your marriage is doomed since like MOST fairy tale broads, you marry for all the wrong reasons (say, you marry because of a FEELING rather than just having a STRUCTURED nuclear unit. Hope you know, courting women based on FEELING is pretty damn new concept in World History, and started sometime recently in Europe according to what i read and as you can tell, it doesn't really fly) and you are on your way to making a divorced man's life hell with the money racket which is marriage/divorce.

  • Young Boy BLOOM!

    Society has got to pull the plug on THE biggest hoax America ever saw – duped lots of ppl and we CAN'T be having men REALLY think women are ALL THAT CAPABLE if we want our country to stand the test of time. Cuz when the curtain closes, women are still women – pathetic to the core. About 20 trillion negatives to Feminism – ABOUT 10 pluses

  • Kellyjanewalsh

    get rid love

  • Young Boy BLOOM!

    I want to fuck your asscheeks. Not anal exactly, but like titty fucking your ass cheeks. So, instead of “titty fucking” it's “assy fucking?”

  • Young Boy BLOOM!

    “My biggest complaint”
    “nobody likes a complainer”-you hear men talking about women being annoying and that's IN relationships.Nag nag nag.Atleast try to avoid the constant complaints and maybe you women will have better luck in your short AND long term dating life.Nothing spells UNDESIRABLE in a woman faster than her having a negative and grim outlook on life and bringing ppl down around you.

  • Jewish Wigga LT

    “My biggest complaint”
    “nobody likes a complainer”-you hear men talking about women being annoying.Atleast try to avoid the constant complaints and maybe you women will have better luck in your short AND long term dating life.Nothing spells UNDESIRABLE in women faster than having a negative and grim outlook on life and bringing ppl down around you.

  • Jewish B-Bopper

    “My biggest complaint” – “nobody likes a complainer”-you hear men talking bout women being annoying.TRY to avoid the constant complaints and maybe you women will have better luck in your short AND long term dating life.Nothing spells UNDESIRABLE in women faster than having a negative and grim outlook on life and bringing ppl down around you.

  • Young Boy Bloom!

    My biggest complaint,more like biggest question of ALL time next to what the meaning of life is,is what USE do women serve The Man,since women stopped at nothing to make sure they are as argumentative,stubborn,and hypocritical as possible,yet women turn around and complain men only care about sex?Hey,kill what use you have to The Man mentality-wise,the body remainsYou CAN'T expect men to have NO interest in women whatsoever.But your bodies have become more interesting than ever.

  • Young Boy BLOOM!

    My biggest complaint,more like question of ALL time next to what the meaning of life is,is what USE do women serve The Man,since women stopped at nothing to make sure they are as argumentative,stubborn,and hypocritical as possible,yet women turn around and complain men only care about sex?Hey,kill what use you have to The Man mentality-wise,the body remains.You CAN'T expect men to have NO interest in women whatsoEVER.But your bodies have become more interesting than EVER.

  • Full_monty

    Jen,if you are a hot milf that likes a young dick that won't quit and dont have a gag reflex n sick of your husband never touching you or wanting to be in the same room as you,i'll fuck you in that bed he bought and never uses either of his possestions (bed, you) while he's asleep in the next room and he has no prior manslaughter convictions.I like chicks with pussyass boyfriends/husbands.Hit me up if you are in PA or tristate area.

  • Hazzmatty

    I have a complaint. I have no idea about site navigation or why this site sux so much. Please explain. We have a new member that posted something but doesn't show up with the rest of the articles and is just secret and i can only access it from the members list. If it is up for moderation and needs to be approved to be placed out here, that's just weird, cuz it shouldn't even be partly readable until moderation.

  • Hazzmatty

    I have another complaint. How come when i post and not as a reply to a specific post within an article, but to the main article, how come it just randomly posts to wherever and not at the top? It's just in the middle of something half way down the page.

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  • Hazzmatty

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  • Full_monty

    This site sux you women. I swear, one freaky bitch posts one bullshit article, and ya never hear from the freak again. And most the bitches whom come here leave like one reply and no more. See, everyone THINKS men are such the bad guys cuz women are overly emotional and think things that aren't bad, are WAY bad, and women are always hating – but it's often just in short bursts. Women aren't the ALL year round hateful creatures most ppl think they are.

  • Michelrwl

    Been with him for over two years and no sex after six months Goes from bed to couch or to aa meetings but never any time for us. We live across from the beach and he wont even walk with me but can jump up in a second flat if one of his buddies calls . Yes it is surely a reason to leave , i am.

  • Full_monty

    The reason why marriage typically doesn't work is women go into it emotional,and leave it emotional.Marriage ORIGINALLY was institutionalized for family structure and that was about it,and is WHY marriage doesn't work anymore ever since women's SAPPY emotions were granted too much consideration to have a role in society.

  • Full_monty

    All i know is i'm never getting married cuz not only do half marriages fail but WOMEN file for 3/4 of them for primarily two reasons:1 emotional,and 2, they have less to lose than men.So,the 25% of men who are the ones who file and not women,must REALLY fucking hate their wife like you can't imagine. This 1 infamous macho bulldyke i used to know BOTH her ex husbands were the ones who filed.

  • Full_monty

    Anyway,women are too emotionally flakey and unstable with fluctuating insanity to want to invest in some “till she no longer feels it” marriage vow. “Risk is part of the game-don't be a pussy.” “Don't be a skeptic.” You never know until you try.” “No guarantees in life”…except me never getting married.Plus women don't typically like you seeing other women when you are married. Fuck that.

  • Full_monty

    'Been with him for over two years and no sex after six months”
    Neither of you have gotten laid for 1 1/2+ years?Talk about a loser couple.It's probably because you don't got “the touch” the WAY about you.Dance for The Man. Suck on a lolly next to him slowly.Swing your hair back while holding a pepsi.

  • Anetteclough

    Usually people are annoyed in relationships, due to financial worries, difference with kids etc.

    Your biggest beef, is that he sleeps on the couch? and doesn't “read in bed like you?”

    He doesn't have to do everything the same way you do. Why does it bother you so much? Just curious.

  • LML

    You sound angry. And from your first post, possibly perverted. Why don't you move on over to the I Hate Women blog.

  • LML

    I know exactly how Jen feels. I was married to a person much like that for 12 years. I believe what the big beef is a man that sleeps on the couch 99% of the time, does not make it to the marital bed because he is passed out in his recliner, IS NOT PARTICIPATING! There is more to family life than sitting in front of the damn TV.

  • Full_monty

    I'm always angry n' this place doesn't help.I'm always perverted n' this place doesn't help cuz there's so much throwaway abandoned pussy here.
    What i hate women blog? If i go anywhere,I'm going to this site's NEW duplicate –>(ihatewomen.org)<– exact same way,but we hate bitches who are annoying.

  • Full_monty

    Nobody knows. My dad willingly slept on the couch all the time after his second divorce though we have three bedrooms he never claimed any of them. I personally prefer a bed and a bedroom, but whatever.

  • Dave A

    If a man loves his woman, he will break his leg to be by her side. If he is on the couch most nights, it's because he doesn't find you attractive (whether it be physically or emotionally). Why is that? Can you answer that honestly, no apologetics?

    What was the relationship like before you got married? How did you act? Do you act the same today?

  • Guerrillagirl

    Why are you keeping him?

  • Guerrillagirl

    If you hate him now, you cannot go back. You will never love anyone forever…just get passed this one and stop ruining your life. He probabaly hates you too.

  • Kasey

    Gross

  • Btw213

    Jen, I have the exact same problem. Adding to this problem, when I fall asleep in bed, my husband sneaks downstairs to watch porn. We have sex every other day on average. He says that he is sexually satisfied, but continues this ritual even though it hurts me. To answer your question, if your situation is similar to mine- yes! Its grounds for leaving. If I catch my husband sneaking around like this, I am gone! My bags are already packed because I know its a matter of time before he does it again.