The “Alpha Male”…I guess (just venting)

Posted on by Tootsie" rel="author"><a href="http://www.ihatemen.org/members/tootsie/" rel="nofollow">Tootsie</a>

I would really appreciate replies from women only, that’s why I’m here.

There is/was (he’s persuing his music career, or so he tells everybody) that Im head over for this guy. Im still in college, 23, a virgin, I guess you would label me a “good girl” and unfortunately I have always been attracted to my father.
My father is flirty, outgoing, cocky/confident, cheap-ass hell, just that so called “alpha male” type and can blend in into any of his surroundings. Since Im 23 my father has become an overbearing asshole towards me…and I will leave it at that.
Unfortunately, the guys Ive always falling the hardest for are just like him but I never seem to win them over. I’m so sick of trying, I told my crush numerous times how I felt and its like no one gives two craps about chasing a girl like me. I’ve been complaining about guys for as long as I can remember.
Everyone tells me to wait for this and that, but what the h3ll am I waiting for? I’m TWENTY THREE and I want to DATE the guys Im actually WANT…I always give the “good guys” but these posers are quick to invite my over their house. (to watch a movie, yea right…)

Do guys not understand what a virgin is?

Sh**, am I being unrealistic…I want to screw that ULTIMATE guy, not someone I really don’t want…I want it to be worth losing…like someone really rich/attractive/etc. of course, I want him to be the envy of everyone because a virgin is worth THAT MUCH. Its silly to some but I want to have pride it losing it to whomever the “one” maybe.

Can’t these men raise their sons to work for the VAGINA? …d*mn so lazy.

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About Tootsie

So I have been keeping in touch with this older for about 2 years now. He is not like "super" old but he is 40 years old and I am 20. He is somewhat famous, he knows a few celebrities, single with two kids and has no problem with getting women (i.e. yes he's very attractive). What is so odd about us keeping in touch is that, thats all I feel in my heart. That I am just keeping in touch with a "celebrity" and nothing more. So he got in touch with me out of the blue a few weeks ago, in text message, and asked me how I was doing. We are in contact agian, but today we got into one hell of an argument. The problem is he is always telling me how much he wants me, that talking dirty to me on the phone and saying how he wants me to have his third child. Then I got a bunch of weird texts telling me that he's loves me. Today I sent a joke text telling him that I should hook him up with one of my friends. He got mad telling me that he doesn't need anyone to hook him up and that plenty of women try to get with him. Blah, blah. Anyways, I yelled back and told him not to talk to me in a condescending we every agian and that I'm not a child. We really bumped heads and he said he'll call me back after he did his speech at this college. Anyways, I don't know if this guy is serious but on my part it is a scary situation.
  • Guest

    ???

  • Guest

    look like i can't leave LONG messages per post

  • Guest

    test

  • Guest

    how MANY characters are ALLOWED per post? This forum really sucks.

  • Guest

    Short and sweet:
    Thank God I am 99% sure i never want a “real” relationship again cuz look what i have to work with? Chicks MY AGE and a few years younger have the mentality of a steaming pile of regurgitated man-batter.

  • Tootsie

    How “expected” of you…

  • Shazz

    Let me guess .. hazmatt is back. lol

  • Guess

    a) I could be him.Hey.Just an offer cuz i really dont fuck with too many ppl online anymore,forums,chat,anything right now(i will when i have to)i was wondering if you at some point would want to be a moderator of some section (was gonna have some sort of gender section in my forum,but lots of other crap)

  • Guess

    b) You said you administartored something at some point-and anyone can do it.Kids,women,mentally challenged men,guys who act like women,whatever.
    Keep in mind my website isn't just a messageboard,it's a webiste with lots of shit on it and gonna offer webhosting as well eventually,etc, etc,but i want some social crap there to help member retention and everything.

  • Guess

    c) Qualifications for the future would be, you have to have atleast a few online buddies(and would help if they had a few as well)
    2, you dont mention how we “know” eachother. I'm Guess.
    Benefits-having a voice in a proffesional .com retail sales and everything else site. No amazon affiliate bullshit. Well, a voice in the forum atleast.

  • Guess

    d) My site is pretty much to be everything combined into one,and I'm doing everything myself-which is how i like it,but when it comes to the forum im gonna eventually need some mods (though some shit will be free for all so ppl who dont like authority,like myself, wont have to prretend they are something they aren't.)

  • Guess

    YO? It aint letting me post anymore YO? Last post was small YO, smaller than one that already posted YO.

  • Guess

    Yo?

  • Guess

    e) I was gonna offer a mod position to maybe one of the only chicks i sort of liked online for awhile,but im pretty sick of her and about to FOREVER cut all ties with her and where i know her from-and she is a corney bimbo.

  • Shazz

    Hazzmatty (aka guess) said..
    a) I could be him.Hey.Just an offer cuz i really dont fuck with too many ppl online anymore,forums,chat,anything right now(i will when i have to)i was wondering if you at some point would want to be a moderator of some section (was gonna have some sort of gender section in my forum,but lots of other crap)
    b) You said you administartored something at some point-and anyone can do it.Kids,women,mentally challenged men,guys who act like women,whatever.

    Shazz says…
    a) Thank you for the offer…but no thanks.
    b) I said I am currently an Admin .. and no.. 'anyone' cannot do it. It is a position with enormous responsibility.. both moral and legal. For me the most important issue is that I respect the site owners and enjoy my work. The sites I work with are already well ordered and functioning with experienced Mod groups and members that are professional in their postings.

    I do not allow members threads to be trashed and in saying that.. Im surprised you chose to make this Mod request public instead of sending me a pm. 'Off topic' personal conversations are frowned upon in a members thread.. and this thread belongs to Tootsie. My apologies to her for being the cause of the diversion.

  • Bellajans

    I'm a woman. I like your post and first off, 23 is still young so please don't get into the time thing. This is about what you want and what you hold dear to your heart. Please get this: do not try and win someone over. If someone is interested they will make it known. Period. You'll never have to wonder. I do not have a good opinion of men as I believe everything is ruled with their dick and that's it. They don't care about you or your virginity or anything about you. If they can get inside you, that's all they want. I think they'll all cheat given the opportunity and no I do not think women are wired like that. So the bottom line is that you look out for yourself and do not run your life for the males approval. If there is a man that will truly love you for you, he will make it known to you and he will be one of the good ones and you will never have to wonder. :)

  • Guess

    a) When i said “anyone can do it” i mean anyone CAN do it. (If they want to, and know how to atleast check their email. So you disagreeing just makes you rebellious and look stupid. Have two working hands and able to check email and learn your control panel and do your job…simple. That's why i said it. Anyone who thinks it's difficult or overwhelming aint cut out to even take their car into heavy traffic.)

  • Guess

    a) When i said”anyone can do it”i mean anyone CAN do it.(If they want to,and know how to atleast check their email.You disagreeing makes you rebellious and look stupid.Have two working hands and able to check email and learn your control panel and do your job..simple.That's why i said it.Anyone who thinks it's difficult or overwhelming aint cut out to even take their car into heavy traffic.)

  • Guess

    b) And i don't care who is “professional” in their posting. That's the GREAT thing about forums…it's “come as you are”…like church. Don't need to be a “professional forum poster.” Rediculous. I expect my mods to lead by example. The rest of the people can be themselves. Yet moderated – somewhat.

  • Guess

    “My apologies to her for being the cause of the diversion”
    c) I'll let you apologise for me.Better that way (being that i don't even care where i ask something.)The topic was trashed when tootsie 1st posted it.It could only get better through diversion.

  • Guess

    d) Gonna be like those”if you had one opportunity do not let go”
    deals.Have fun with your kiddy non profit forumajig or whatever it's called.Last attempt at being nice 2 a rebellious stubborn argumentative patronizing,very little self control asshat on my part though….

  • Guess

    e) ….Your “strengths”would have been suitable as mod possition (and it's cool that the invisible forum admin is less hated than his bitches anyway.) but weakness as in dealing with me personally.

  • Guess

    “Im surprised you chose to make this Mod request public instead of sending me a pm”
    f) Last thing.I don't know how to send pms or even if you could here.This forum is a wreck-only really good for looking over quick or spamming it.The articles of jaded freak chicks who don't seem very mature or altogether with it is not interesting,and the advice given here blows as well and delivered by Generic Emo-Female Thought Train Railway Systems Inc.

  • Shazz

    To Hazzmatty (aka guess)

    a) It is clear to me that you have never run a website/forum.. so shut up.

    b) I expect my Site owners to have some semblance of manners/education and business acumen. That lets you out.

    c) They also need to respect forum members that make the effort to post. Again.. that lets you out.

    d) LOL..That ones not even worth answering.

    e) ROTFLMAO … fuck off. I work with adults on my own level.. not little boys that want me to bow down to them and treat them like a king.

    f) You want to run a Site but you dont know how to access your profile or pm's? Im sure someone as intelligent as you will figure it out….. eventually. LOL

    Again..thank you for the offer but the answer remains the same. Never in a million years. :)

  • Shazz

    Bellajans is right Tootsie.. “If there is a man that will truly love you for you, he will make it known to you and he will be one of the good ones and you will never have to wonder.” So until then.. walk tall and be proud of who you are right now. Focus on yourself.. find the real you and enjoy life.

    Good luck.. :)

  • angel

    youll be waiting forever bc youll be like damn hes fine and all that and then youll be like it wasnt good as it looks sex aint that good. 90% of women in the world will never orgasm by sexual intercourse bc we cum by the clit we dont even need a man or anything in the pussy to orgasm.id suggest u stay a virgin because once u lose it its gone and then you fell shity for having sex in the firstplace bc it was pointless

  • guest

    grl it dnt matter how good they are or how sweet they are they are still whores and they all cheat bc they r so fuckin easy and sleezy. how many good married guys have you seen the greatest sweetest guys who take care of they family be fuckin other grls the answer all of them theres a guy that lives next store to me he makes me sick hes married his wife is in another country and everytime i see him he with a hooker but he takes good care of all his kids and sends money such a great husband i dnt understand why us women even bother with these motherfuckers we dnt need them i think all girls should just be lesbians and leave men out the picture except use em like our little bitches like them giving us massages thats bout all men good for

  • Guess

    Ok, so you said no. Was gonna give you a piece of my mind….but you know. Can't type much here. You have your own demons to work with, i have money to make.

  • Guess

    “not little boys that want me to bow down to them and treat them like a king”

    so kings (aka the realest men alive) are little boys? Makes sense. BTW, i DONT want any of my mods to “treat me like a king” (like HOW? give me cyber blow jobs?) Just don't be an asswipe like you, and do my bitchwork for me.

  • Guess

    “You want to run a Site but you dont know how to access your profile or pm's? Im sure someone as intelligent as you will figure it out….. eventually. LOL”

    Dont think you got the idea ya phoney LOL broad (you look silly btw – unless you had a friend here to “pretend laugh” with) but since this forum is virtually unuseable (cant post much) and im in the midst of ruined punk females, i dont care to explore the maybe three options this site has.

  • Guess

    “a) It is clear to me that you have never run a website/forum.. so shut up.”

    It was also “clear to you” that I'm buying 4 houses, remember? But yeah, I never “ran” a website – was appointed moderator of one at some point for a bit – that's it. “running a website” is as easy as the person is competant in DESIGNING it, since it will be fully automated outside of a few things.

  • fffff

    BTW, i DON'T think you would be that lippy in MY house. Yep. NOT afraid to hit a little woman in the chops. You have NO idea what i want to do to you. “Know who you are dealing with” Sometimes it's ok to walk away. You. Me. Island. What's up? She grins as i hate her, but she's rimming my asshole, so who cares?
    I hate her, and she is grinning. Grinning seems as if she touched a happy emotion. I still hate her….even more so if the bitch seems happy….but she rims my asshole, so it's all good.

  • Full_monty

    This post really gets on my nerves. Why do so many chicks think being cunts is funny? Ppl don't like them and rape and murder them. I mean, personally, if she acted this way in my house i would knee her in the face. Thank fuck simple assualt is only a misdimeanor most everywhere and you know she'd call the cops.

  • Dave A

    Didn't you write this?

    “I have avoided men at all cost and I do all the approaching, I only approach extremely attractive men and flaunt them around campus”

    It's the complete opposite of what you post here. You say “don't waste your time on idiots” but it's exactly the type you are seeking out.

    Pick a side, and stick to it.

  • Dave A

    “someone really rich/attractive/etc. of course, I want him to be the envy of everyone because a virgin is worth THAT MUCH”

    You are in the group of the most shallow people I've ever heard! Being a virgin is worth nothing. From a third-party perspective, you are exactly like your father. You're supposed to learn from your parent's mistakes, not emulate them.

  • Tootsie

    Sorry I haven’t been on in a while…
    I understand and since this post just grown to worry about myself. My parents did say that I could become a “hermit” if I quit dating altogether…which I will stop anyways. I just don’t see the point in it.
    First Im stuck up because I dont approach them…which I have made the first move and it blow up in my face. Second Im being to forward, apparently they is no perfect medium when dating so I stopped it.
    I honestly told my mother the other day that I dont see myself with a family in the future and that its just going to be me and a few dogs (I absolutely LOVE DOGS)…somewhere in a mansion.
    If I have to be alone I could at lease make something of myself and dogs make me happy. ;-)

  • Tootsie

    I meant “there is no perfect medium”…

  • Tootsie

    …wow, you’re off your meds.

  • OT

    you need to read this book: “why men love bitches.” I’m a guy — and I am one of the alpha males you refer to — and since alpha males are probably used to getting a lot of attention from girls, you have to act more coy about your feelings towards him. Learn to be aggressive when necessary and back off as well to make him chase you. Peace.

  • broseph

    now this is disturbing, you never listed how you are. 23 years and you still haven’t thought enough of anyone to give yourself to them? 23 years and you place yourself above the best and kindest you get? i’ve been on movie dates where nothing has happened, you know why? I didn’t give two shits about sex, i enjoyed her company, she enjoyed mine, and eventually things went as they should. You are no different than a man dating a women for her body, you get into a relationship with a man and demand him (with thoughts, no indications or words, not even a subtle hint) to be an older brother?

    lower your expectations, improve yourself, and stop putting yourself above others, want equality? you do the chasing, and you face rejection.

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