Single Dad’s and Dating

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Ok I am an oddball here.    I am a single dad.   I have primary custody of my 5 year old. I was reading though the articles here and I have to say I do feel they are misguided.

It’s not a “man vs women” issue, it’s how each individual was raised. Granted I am part of the extreme minority as custody is generally automatically awarded to the women, but in my case I am part of the single digits (IE: about 4%) where it’s awarded to the father.

But I can say with extreme authority that not all women have halo’s around their head.

So to say “all men are jerks” is misleading at best, and childlike at worst because it comes down to the individual themselves.

I love my son with all my heart, and I am successfully raising him without any help from a women… I almost believe that having a women around would slow his progress… as I do believe I have the only 5 year old that has no problem multiplying / dividing / adding / subtracting / reading / writing / typing / formatting his computer to remove Windows on it because “linux doesn’t give me those error messages daddy” and wiring up a home network so he can play video games head to head with his friends and riding around on his scooter and bike….

Maybe there are kids that can do that as well… but it’s what I taught him and I am proud of it.

Geeky…. maybe… but the fact is that in order for him to learn all that stuff.. someone had to spend extreme time with him… and in my case there is no women around… so that had to be dad.

Maybe his clothes don’t match all the time, maybe someone would yell at me because I take him out to eat too much because I am just not a great cook… maybe someone would state ” Single Dads are terrible” .. who knows.. and honestly who cares. I do the best I can… and I think I am raising a wonderful kid.

Go ahead and flame me for being a good parent….

  • Rebecca

    Nobody is flaming you here at all (at least, I’m not). But I must say that you are indeed an exception (a BIGGGG one!). Most of the guys are even too lousy to take care of their own flesh and blood during the visit weekends, let alone fulltime.

    The fact that you are a good guy doesn’t mean that the majority of men are good as well. Like I said: you’re the exception. Thank God there are a few of them. But I quit dating for a reason. Not because I met tons of good men, but because I met jerks, sexists, egoists, cheaters, liars, and so on. Not once, not twice, but many many times.

    Sorry, but the majority of your gender sucks. But I’m happy to read your story and conclude that they’re at least not ALL the same.

  • Theresa

    There are good and bad in both genders! It just so happens that it men have put women in a lower class then their self for many generations. Men get the, “That A Boy!” pat on the back from their fellow mates when they mistreat women. When women mistreat men we are the first to put that women in check when she is wrong.

    I think it is great that you find yourself a Great Father. I also find it very offending that you believe a woman would slow your son’s progress down. With words and behavior like that, aren’t you raising your son to become a woman hater? I do not call that very good parenting skills. It is a known fact that children need both male and female genders in their life at one point or another.

    I also can’t help but wonder, what type of relationship you have or had with your own mother???

  • Sweet Sue

    You are the exception and a microcosm and I am sure your son will do just fine with a loving and caring parent such as yourself.

    My children’s father was such an incompetent irresponsible jerk that I needed to take the kids and leave just to keep them safe. He would leave then alone in the house ( ages 2 & 7 ) while he ran next door to the minimart for his hotdog fix, leaving the doors wide open and an invitation to any pervert parked nearby to essentially help themselves. There are equally disturbing acts of endangerment which I will spare everyone.
    Not all men are jerks but the majority are and even they;ll admit to that.

  • Man

    I am so happy that you care about your son. I am going to be married within the coming year, so I hope I can have that much of a personal relationship you have with your kids.

    Sweet Sue: I am a man and I admit that most men and most women are ignorant, immoral people who should not taint our great world.

  • Man

    Well, I mean our once-great world.

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