by YeungE
Even He Agrees
1:40 pm in I Hate Men by YeungE
I live in one of the most culturally and sexually diverse group of friends you can ever imagine. Interacial, homosexual, heterosexual and alternative lifestyles run on a regular basis under our 5 bedroom house. Often we will discuss various topics during dinner and one of the most frequent subject is sex.
Now, this comment came from all the boys present in the room. Two of them were straight while the other is gay. “A hole is a hole.” Unless the other person is extremely, extremely unattractive, there is no need to turn off the lights when the opportunity comes along. So I asked myself and those of you who are reading this, when was the last time I suggested sex to the man? My answer was never. Every single time, it was him who suggested it.
Sexually driven creatures we all are, men are definitely right up the chart. They are fundamentally built on those grounds so brace yourself if you think they are going to change any time soon.
I’m not judging, only anticipating.
Nope. My boyfriends excuse for always thinking about it is that its natural and instinct to want to mate. Nice excuse…things have changed, we are more evolved now.
Not true we are all ruled by instinct we are only animals after all and if we are more evolved then why don’t women make the move more often? I know women enjoy sex but its rare indeed that women will take the first step. Its not a bad thing its only instinct and we are all ruled by instinct in one for or another the instinct to procreate is one of the strongest driving forces in men and women it shapes our culture regardless of who you are.
you can never separate the mind from the body sex must always be apart of life one way or another because without sex their is no life. women must grow up and stop trying to act grown up. because the whole act mature thing is just immature.
women under stand that sex is one of gods greatest gifts. so go out and get some. offer it some time, if you think that makes you a slut calm down men don’t care the love sluts. men have to worry about being judged more than women do because women are picky. so do you see what my point is hear women you have to not be so squeamish.
@regular guy – Well you gotta just love that.
Go out there and offer some sex, because this is what God gifted us with?
In case you’ve missed it, there are STD’s out there that kill women but barely affect men, women get PREGNANT, the more partners we have the higher our chances of cervical cancer, and last but not least, when we have sex certain chemicals are released in our brains which makes us feel attatched to the male we are sleeping with, hurting us when he walks away. This is not something we can do anything about.!!
But hey, lets go out there girls, lose our squeamishness and the respect we should have for our bodies and health, and go service a collection of strange mens sexual needs.
It is men like you Regular Guy, that cause women to get onto sites like this in the first place. You have NO respect for women, and you put them down (telling them they are immature) and try and manipulate them(it’s God’s gift) into sleeping with you. You disgust me.
I’m a 19 year old male and I don’t even care about sex. It’s usually an issue with girls. They want to have sex, but I don’t. I guess it all depends on the person and the circumstances in life. Seems like I don’t identify with males or females when it comes to sex.
I’m with Annie on those other comments from guys. We are not cavemen anymore, and there is risk involved. Not all women feel attached to guys after sex, but many do. You have to think of both sides, not just yours, guys. I utterly despise casual sex anyway. I have to have feelings first, if even then.
perhaps i should re-word this. Yes i do admit that the sexual drive is equal in both sex but count the amount of times that woman act upon it. As Annie have pointed out, there are more risk for women to have casual sexual partners then men. Pregnancy scares (when u miss a time-of-the-month after you’ve been naughty with a guy) has happened to me before and believe me it was one of the scariest moments of my life waiting for the results.
I disagree that men get judge more. A guy will more likely get a pat-on-the-back after telling their mates about getting with *some number* of girls where as for a girl it will be an instant S.L.U.T. A guy gets called a pimp and girl get either whore/ slut.
By the way. learn to spell/ use the correct word before asking me to grow up and what not. You get my point here?
@Near.
That is great to hear!! I’m glad you want to feel a connection with a woman first Giving yourself time to get to know some-one before the crazy lust phase, is possibly one of the best ways to ensure you actually end up with a really great partner. Sex can and does get in the way(and makes us confused).
Good to know there are some young men out there, who realize we aren’t cavemen/women anymore!! haha
I agee that men act on it more. Those of us who don’t act on it get ridiculed too. I remember I refused to watch a private strip show with my friends one time and I never heard the end of it. Apparently I missed out on the fun time. It just didn’t feel right watching a girl do that, and I had more important stuff to do. like school. Most had girlfriends at this time anyway!
I also agree girls get called names way to much. A guy will be called a hero and inspiration and the girl will be a whore.
Looks like the word hero has lost all it’s meaning. Why bother saving people to be a hero when you can just get girls? 
Some guys even turn around the day after and call the girl a whore. Even girls that are raped are called whores and frowned upon. Not the actual rapist!
Annie, thank you for your kind words. I just think everyone at my age is preoccupied with sex. I’m focused on school now. Maybe others will change when college is over? Atleast I’ve gotten away from those old friends now. They aren’t going to college, and I believe they are the kind of guys this site talks about. Most guys are know are like that, actually. Good thing I was raised by my single mom. My dad could be the posterboy, er, man of this site.
Near: You seem like a good guy. That is not something I say lightly, believe me.
My first kiss was when I was 19 and head-over-heels in love, so I can relate to where you’re coming from.
As for girls being considered ‘sluts’ or ‘whores’ while ‘Player’ is often used with respect among guys, well, there are times I’m genuinely ashamed to the same gender as most males. The gene pool really, really needs a healthy dose of chlorine.
As far as I’m concerned: Any man who calls a rape victim a whore doesn’t deserve to be called a man. They’re beneath that. Any man who calls a rape victim a whore to her face just surrendered several of his rights. Primarily the right to be upright and conscious. I consider rape as gross a crime as murder – worse given that murder is often a crime of passion where rape is born only of anger. Anyone who defends a rapist or further victimises a rape victim is probably only alive because it’s illegal to kill them.
As for men’s obsession with sex, well, it’s something I’m more conscious of than most. I’m studying as a monk (a warrior monk in fact) in a Taoist temple in China right now. (And yes: even Taoist temples have internet these days.)
Although Taoist monks have no issue with sex and can have girlfriends while studying in the temple, very few do. It’s not that we don’t want to, it’s that we understand *why* we want to.
I suppose the simplest way yo explain this is to say that I see sex as something that should be allowed to happen naturally, not made to happen.
You shouldn’t be the puppeteer; you should be the puppet.
I hope that makes sense!
Thank you, Ki. I try to be a good guy, but I always end up lumped with the others, labeled as a “nice” guy, or forgotten. Not too worried about it now, though. I’m happy and on the right path.
My thoughts on rape victims are the same. Rape is right beside murder as the most reprehensible crimes. Many rapes lead to murder anyway. Not to mention the scarring on the inside. The men that defend them are evil. I always hear men doing it. She was asking for it is the number one excuse. Because she dressed a certain way, and was therefore inviting it. Horrible comments like that. Who wants to live in a world like that? Rape and murder should be punishable by death. They forfeited their rights when they assaulted others, and the men/women that support them are just as bad.
It makes sense to me. Don’t just seek out sex for the sake of sex. That’s how I read it, anyway. Wait for it to happen when you’re cormfortable. Thank you for your words. Good luck in the temple. I always thought that would be interesting.
I always have a hard time on this one. I’m a 21 year old male, and I’ve always struggled internally with the way men (a generalization) seem to act sexually. I was raised to connect emotion to sex. To me sex really is one of the most intimate ways to be close to a partner. Right now I have a girlfriend and its been wearing on me a little, because I feel guilty about instigating sex. I typically like to let one thing lead to another, I don’t come right out and ask, but I definitely do act first most of the time.
I feel awkward about it because i know I’m not one of those guys who just wants to have sex all the time, I just really love the act and the closeness. I sometimes feel guilty because she rarely instigates it first. Lately I have found myself not pursuing her as much as a result, and not trusting myself around her. I can tell that she is perplexed by the difference. I’m just tired of doubting myself and feeling like I have to hold back from something that we share, I just don’t want her to see me as a “male pig.”
@confused.
You aren’t a male pig. Sex is different for women than it is for men, and if more people understood this, we’d do a much better job of treating each other decently.
The reason men focus so much on sex, is not JUST because it’s fun and because you have a lot of testosterone, but because for you it IS intimacy. it is how you feel close to a woman, how you share your feelings with her. In a nutshell, it is a man’s way of “talking”. Men in sexless marriages often feel used, unappreciated, unloved and very hurt.
Women’s intimacy needs are different. For us, intimacy is TALKING verbally and sharing feelings with you. Once we feel emotionally connected with you , we desire physical contact with you. Sex comes after emotional intimacy for us, while with men sex IS intimacy.
So, sex will alway’s be important to you, and you should never feel ashamed of that. Too many men are made to feel exactly as you describe, a male pig. It’s not true.
What you DO with your sexuality and your desire is what will define you, NOT how you feel.
I would recommend reading a few books. “The male brain”, “The Female brain” and “Bedroom diaries”. Get your GF to read them too. Women don’t often understand how sex makes a man feel, or why it’s important to you, and why women who love men should instigate sex more. It isn’t that we don’t want sex, just that we don’t think to instigate it as much as you do.
Good luck, and I’m glad you recognize how important and intimate sex really is, instead of just giving in to your sexual urges and sleep around with all and sundry.
Why would a man enter a relationship without sex? Do you really think we just want to share and hear you talk all the time?
Honestly…do some deeper thinking.
excuse me miss, are you fucking stupid? You are bitching that he always suggest sex, and you never do?
Do you realize then that if he didn’t, there would be no sex at all?
What’s you fucking point? I think you should grow up and accept the reality that people want to screw.
annie you talk crap, men dont want sex because its intimacy lol, men much prefer non intimate sex, is why you will find men prefer doggy posiiton
@Dawg
I was talking about men, not boys.
woman, no. just go back to the kitchen.
Forget it, the discussion made sense and I really started thinking there were some decent male examples (Ki, Confused, Near) but boys have joined the fray. Annie, argument is pointless. Boys don’t listen they screw. Remember? So just ignore their penis talking.
You can’t ever argue with a dickhead. They will never see reason or take intelligent discussions seriously. It’s best to just ignore them and give them no reaction. Hopefully the wankers will get bored and go away to play with themselves.
Don’t worry about this sucker. Men like this only prove our point: they suck!
This website is shit. And what man would want to spend his time with a frigid bitch who never initiates sex? Women like you should walk around with signs on your back so we know who to stay away from.
@ Matt
I won’t bother to insult you as you sound like you’re too stupid to understand anyway. So I’m going to talk to you in the most simplest way I can. This is a site for women who hate men. You are not wanted here……………..so F**K OFF!
@ Matt
Frigid bitches … have you tried foreplay?
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