Relationships hurt, and it will take you a few years to get over this! Maybe 1, 2 or 3 or more! Who knows? It’s been 2 years for me, and I’ve not been able to hold down a relationship either, and now I’ve gotten to a point I dont want one unless I can find some of that addictive feeling again. Your ‘obsession’ was not completely FOR him, but you were obsessed with the effect he had on you, the way he made you feel light headed and shake, the jumping in your stomach when you thought about kissing him? Does that sound familiar? So you weren’t ‘obsessed, obsessed’ as you said yourself. You were just addicted to him, and the effects he had on you. Totally normal for us females hunny. Sometimes being a woman is a curse, and it’s a shame men will never get to feel any of the emotional bonds that we do. Men were born with one instinct; to mate. Thats it, thats all, thats all it will ever be. It’s society that tells them otherwise, but thats all they feel biologically. We women were born with a deep emotional attachment that would bind us to our child and will us to care and nurture it until it is old enough. Look at the octopus and what she does for her babies. We were born with these greater emotions so we could be good mothers, men were born more related to deer than they are to emporer penguins, in the sense that they fight with each other, shag as many woman as they can, then fuck off. Basic nature, want something loyal? Get a dog, or get yourself a good group of girlfriends, and have a boy on the side for sex. Because all men, will be like this one you’ve just described.

~ Tibbles