by suicide
sex change?
10:51 am in I Hate Men by suicide
i am probably breaking rules on a massive scale, but read before you ban me:
i have always hated men, besides the fact i am one, they all treat me like something to take anger out on, and the only males who aren’t being mean to and abusing me are the ones who are hitting on me, they are kind people, but none of tem seem to like my personality or personality disorder (bipolar)
i don’t mind them to much,
i care alot about my wait and image and get upset really easy, and all the boys find this a reason to pick on me.
i have the utmost respect for woman, and what you have to put up with from men, and think it should stop.
i think, and alway have, that i should have been a female.
everyone thinks i’m freak and i’m considering the sex change operation, i have been thinking about this all year and really want to do it.
the million dollar question, should i do it?
i came here because i knew it would be the only place where someone might understand how i feel, i came here for help.
please don’t let me down, i will be grateful if anyone so much as reads this, let alone responds or replies.
-Nate
Don’t let anyone pressure you either way. If you really want to do it, you should do it.
Society has no right to tell you what you should or shouldn’t do, as long as what you’re doing is legal (which, in this case, is legal, as far as I know.)
If you really want this, I hope nobody convinces you to do otherwise. If they don’t like it, it sucks to be them.
Don’t worry about everyone else, live your life for yourself.
Know that you are never truly alone, someone somewhere is always willing to talk and give a helping hand.
Don’t let anyone or anything affect your decision, do what you feel will make you happy and will make you feel fulfilled. Its your like you have no reason to live it by other peoples expectations and opinions.
Good luck with which ever you chose, and i wish you the absolute best
never do it, never go to sex change operation. you are so extraordinary boy so it would be great pity. women would love u, i love your opinion towards women, so little men have such opinion and it makes me so hopeless. i think you should keep who you are!
I am truly sorry to hear your story. If you feel that this is best, then you should do it. Only if you feel that your decision is the right one.
However, I wish I had a boyfriend like you. ^^
Well Society Shapes Morals I Believe. And No One Has The Right To Tell You What To Do Neither Do I. If It Makes You Happy Then Hun Get Your Sex Change. But If You Ask Me It Would Be A Great Loss To All The Woman Out There. You Will Be Missed BY Us. But Do What Makes You Happy, Live For Yourself Darling.
dear suicide
,
you seem completely confused at this moment, as we all become sometimes, but honey don’t let stupid people bring you down like that
i have a similar problem, but the more i grow, the more i realize how crucial it is to move on from these soon to be minuscule problems
do what your heart tells you, but remember the surgery is dangerous..and you can EASILY find a man/woman anywhere..i already like you and i don’t even know you
i wish you the best
love,
someone who understands and cares
Nate,
i think you should definitely get professional help before you make any decisions and i don’t mean oh you’re crazy you need a shrink…i mean, if you are serious about a sex change then you need professional help to talk you through it.
You should go to a doctor and tell them what you have been thinking and they will guide you in the right direction. Either way, i hope whatever decision you make leads you to better happiness than what you’re feeling now.
Just trust that not everyone will judge you and just do what you need to to make yourself happy
Good luck hun
There is no such thing as a sex change, really. You can only have surgery to make you look vaguely like the other sex.
I believe gender – the idea that men and women act differently – is socially constructed. Sex is firstly your chromosomes and secondly your genitals.
By this reasoning, it doesn’t make sense for someone to be born in the wrong sexed body. You may act in a socially ‘female way, in which case you may feel pressured into thinking your sex should be female…
There are many reasons people have sex changes…but personally I think you should learn to love yourself as you are.
Just think about this seriously first…A ‘sex change’ may not solve all your problems.
After the operation, you may not have sexual feelings, you may be in pain and you may not really look much like a women…cosmetic surgery can cause many serious complications and can even kill you. The surgeons are only in it for money, or possibly some sort of fantasy about playing God and ‘making a woman’…
Hormones have to be taken for the rest of your life..Transexualism is relatively new and the effects of this are completely unknown. As far as ftm trans are concerned, I heard that a man taking testosterone to increase libido can lose several years off his life – and so if a woman takes testosterone she will surely have a decreased life too. There are likely to be similar unknown effects for you..
I’m only saying this because I care, not because I’m..some sort of moral prude or something..! I’m a girl and used to want to be a boy until I was around 15 – now I’m older and realise that I just wanted tobe treated like a human and didn’t like being degraded for being female.. When I hear stories about under 18s, one as young as 12 and I think there was a court case for a 9 year old, it seriously distresses me……At the moment I’m in a gay youth group and we campaign for gay rights etc. Some of the other’s thoughts on trans people disturb me…. they see nothing wrong with under 18s having sex changes and just don’t question it at all.
I’m going on a lot, sorry!
I think that accepting yourself for who you are in your own body is the easiest and probably the best solution…
Typo:
where is says “When I hear stories of under 18s” its meant to follow “having sex changes.”
Also, as a transexual you will be treated worse by men, almost as badly as if you were a woman.
Dunno what sexuality you are but if you sleep with men, I think you will likely attract more men who will want to degrade and abuse you if you have a sex change.
Ok, that’s enough blabbing.
Take care X
Hun, I believe that if you feel like you were born in the wrong body and have always felt feminine, i would say go for it. But if there is any doubt in your mind i would advise you to not get a sex change. There are many risks to a sex change operation and it is also very expensive .