Thank you for your sentiment and insight. I was very very angry at my first post. My counselor says that I have a hard time setting boundaries with people and then when I’ve had it, I blow. I went to a lot of counseling about 16 years ago after being in a mentally abusive relationship with someone.  Sometime I think it’s chemistry that make 2 people clash. The man I was involved with at the time has moved on with his life, been married for about 11 years and has a 10 year old. We are 2 thousand miles apart so I don’t know 100% he has changed but I think he’s on higher ground then when we were together. He refused to work full-time, pay taxes and be a good citizen at the time. Now, I think he met someone who made he want to step up to the plate in life. I have moved on too but have not had a very successful relationship since then. I have kept my relations casual. I never have wanted to have a husband but I would love to have a loving caring partner. It’s weird that all these guys on dating sites say “friends first” but they really don’t mean it because they view your picture and say “would I have sex with her?”. If the answer is no then they don’t want friendships.

I don’t know where I am going with this but Merry Christmas to all and may everyone’s New Year bring Peace, Love and Prosperity.

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