I don’t deserve this!
Why do guys always treat me like crap? Honestly. I’m a nice, pretty, smart woman but every relationship that I have been in I just get hurt in the end. Whether it’s being cheated on or just disrespected and unloved.
I liked this guy for like 8 months and we were really good friends and after a little while I came clean and told him how I felt and flat out said it’s ok if you don’t feel the same, I don’t expect anything from this I just felt that I should let you know because I’m not the kind of person that just sits around twirling my hair wondering how it could be. He responded weirdly: too soon sorry. When I asked him about it he said that he really liked me back but he had just broken up with his girlfriend and didn’t want me to be a rebound. I accepted it and thought he was a great guy for doing that and 2 months later he asked me out. We went out for about 2 months and then he just called me up and said that he just sees me as a friend and never really had feelings for me. And when I asked him why he even asked me out if he didn’t have feelings he said that he just thought he should go for it. When I told him that he shouldn’t have even asked me out then he responded with I know I’ve learned my lesson now. Glad I could have been a teacher to him. If you don’t truly have feelings for someone you shouldn’t kiss them first, ask them out and ask them to be your girlfriend. He made all the first moves and didn’t feel anything for me and then just dragged me along all this time only to leave me crushed and heartbroken… again. And what confuses me is that his actions and what he said and the way he made me feel was anything but “friendly”. Once again I have been treated like crap. Why does this keep happening to me? I don’t deserve this!
This post was submitted by Krystina B.
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I HATE MEN!!! THEY DISSAPPOINT YOU EVERY TIME!
Because men are crap!!!!!! I hate men!
I just had this happen to me too recently … The kicker of the whole thing was that he was my first boyfriend. I was with him over a year and he was the first guy I ever slept with. When I waited till I was 20.
He made me believe the world of him and even myself. I fell so deep in love with him i couldn’t find steady ground… But the thing that baffels me most is how I could have ever felt so much for him when if I really look at every thing he was treating me like trash.
He kept us a secret from everyone. Told me he’d been hurt so much that he was afraid of intimacy to the point where he was terrified of kissing me … (sex he managed though) He only saw me when he had the free time which was towards the end getting to the point of once every month and even then we’d never go out just stay in all night and he’d leave the next morning for work.He made me feel like he was embarassed to be seen with him or that he was too disgusted by me to kiss me. I should have felt used and exploited but instead all I did was love him more and more every time I saw him.
Now I’m so mad that he took my virginity knowing he didn’t care about me… he knew how much it meant to me … he knew I was young and would have done anything for him. I hate him for taking advantage of a young girl who thought the world of him and not knowing better than what he did to me… and the thing is I know he knew better.
He just didn’t care enough about me to protect me.
For six months he chased me … I wouldn’t even go out with him because I knew this was what would happen. But I fell for him so hard eventually I just had to see him and now I’m just as jaded as I knew I’d be … he lied to me to avoid seeing me … told me he was going to sydney for work when he was home the whole time (his sister who I’m best friends with busted him without knowing what she’d done) and that was when it ended. He changed his number and e-mail address to avoid me completely and I just can’t believe he’d ever sink that low. I didn’t even try and make contact with him after it all his sister told me what he’d done.
I just … I’m starting to feel like this will always happen to me no matter what. I loved him so much and I hate that I live in a world where loving someone that much is a negative thing… guys run the hundred yard dash when they hear a girls in love with them. Not that I have a whole lot of experience but through my friends and the women on this site I’m seeing a pattern here. As long as you run they chase… And when they get you they disguard you because you’re no longer proving to them they’re special because if you believe that they are, they stop believing you and try and convince someone else they’re worth it till they’ve stomped on every heart they can find. Because when I look back on David and I ,,, He wanted me to think the world of him … and then when I did … he stopped respecting me.
I don’t know … maybe I’m wrong and it’s just their need to screw anything female that moves. But I really believe some guys do this because they use the chase as a way of proving their self worth.
But in all honesty I’m done with letting guys use me to make themselves feel worth it. David was my first and last. I’m just exhausted by the whole thing and so damn over it.
Cause men are SHIT! i’ve been with one for 6yrs only to have him sleep with someone else get her pregnant and move in to live with her… So I’m totally convinced all the “good” men are gone..
Men will only treat you the way you allow them to. Let’s stop letting them get away with it, then they would get the message that their behaviour is unacceptable. I ended a relationship with a guy just after christmas because he got a thrill out of standing me-up . He now has to find another female to play games with.
What ever happened to the days when women could just slap a man across his face for hurting or disrespecting us? I’d love to bring those day back. Maybe then these creeps will think twice before they decide to play games with our hearts and minds.
Tania I am so sorry that that happened to you. Some guys honestly just dont get it that they have a good thing going and then they ruin it. He’ll regret it and when he comes crawling back you can have the satisfaction of rejecting him and going on with your life.
Jade: I don’t let ANYONE treat me like that. I’m glad now that we are no longer together. Any guy that does that is stupid and no towrth my time, or anyone else’s time for that matter.
Danalove: AAAAAAAMMEEEEEEEEENNN. I don’t think I’ve ever heard (read…) anything so great!
A little update on the situation. He is STILL playing games with me. He’s acting like nothing happened and everything is fine between us. He flirts and jokes around and is totally unphased by everything. I’m starting to think that he just didn’t want to buy me a gift for Christmas (he broke up with me on December 23rd). On a positive note though, I’m not putting up with him and his crap and I have realized that he is totally not worth my time!
honestly, i know how you feel, and would like to say that i am really, really sorry that this has happened to you. i wouldn’t wish this on anyone, not even the person who did practically the same to me.
first off, you have to know that i am not female, i have the utmost respect for women, except two, and am disgusted at the male race.
my girlfriend seemed to only want to hang out with me when she had nothing to do, and would only talk to me if there was nobody else in the vicinity.
i completely trusted this person, who shall reman nameless,, i let them know all my secrets, and this was the only person i ever felt i could be myself around.
when i look back, i realize that she always treated me like carpet, something to wipe her feet on.
after eleven months she invites me over, and as always, i cancelled whatever i had planned that day so i could see her.
i arrive with roses, i wold always take a gift, and when i look back, i realize that she never even thought enough of me to thank me for the gifts.
after half an our of talking, she starts making sexual moves, and keeps trying to advance. i told her her i wasn’t ready, and sill in pieces from my breakup two years earlier, which was completely true, so what she does is tells me to leave and never come back.
all of this she already knew, that i still wasn’t over my last relationship and wasn’t ready for sex.
the month, when i finally went outside, i hadn’t seen anyone else for a while,
i went to the park down the road. i started crying and just stayed there on the park bench for hours, at about 8 pm, the caretaker came up to me to ask what was wrong.
i told the entire thing to a complete stranger,
and it turns out that it was her cousin. he explained to me that she had been cheating on me the entire time. he even showed me a picture of him, the other boyfriend, he had been given by her
i tried to commit suicide that night, then after a few days in hospital, i was made to stay in a mental hospital for a month. i got out three days ago and can’t even bring myself to go outside. someone from the mental hospital comes every day and makes me food, makes sure i eat, and talks to me for a few hours, i havn’t actually spoken since i emet the park caretaker and ii, now, am just telling this to a complete stranger.
i’m sorry, i have probably just made you feel worse somehow…
and i think one of the worst things she did, apart from break my heart, is every step of the way, she was telling my secrets, my most personal information, the things i wouldn’t even tell my diary, to all of her friends, every step of the way.
i haven’t spoken to anyone for a month, haven’t said anything to anyone over the internet either, all i have done is sit huddled up in a ball, not getting any bsleep and staring into nothing, a white wall, while ignoring the worker from the mental hospital.
and here i am pouring my heart out to complete strangers.
i should just kill myself…
i probably succeded in nothing but making bot of us feel worse,
writing everything, i was crying every stepof the day, now i am still crying, and i don’t think i will stop crying, i probably wont say anything for another few weeks… or months…
Suicide,
I am so sorry that this happened to you. Seriously. I’m not just saying that. I wonder how some people can do this. You seem sweet and really nice and if she doesn’t realize that then she doesn’t deserve you.
You shouldn’t just kill yourself. There is so much more to live for. And its okay to pour your heart out to strangers. I did the same thing with my post. In fact here’s one stranger that you can talk to if you ever need to. I care.
PS you didn’t make me feel worse about everything
Most men are sick Ball emptiers…Better to become a lesbian or be alone forever…
I am that guy….not, your guy, just that guy…I am so sorry that you went threw that crap. I am lost beyond a doubt. I am a successful man with a very close family, grew up in a middle class setting. Anyway, I started to see a girl, we were together for 4 months and she got preagnant. We never “really” knew eachother. The only thing we knew was raising this kid…she went back to school to get her RN degree, and meanwhile i was providing our family with EVERYTHING. We did not communicate. That was our bad. I had an affair due to the lack of interest she was showing me. OK….I am great, I am a goodlooking, hardworking, successful, dancing fool….It hurt to be turned down sexually but maybe 10 times a year…we were together for 4. We are separated now and have joint physical, joint legal, 50\50, no child support either way……
The affair ended 6 months after we were “officialy” together…..I learned that the affair was a monkey “monkeys never let go of a branch, until they have the grasp on another”…NOW to you….I am juggling girls now…I am only sleeping with one. The others I havnt been honest with, and they all want to be with me..Now i feel like I kinda want to work things out with my kids mom…She still wants me, and we both know where we messed up in our relationship, but now “YOU” are in the picture as the only one im sleeping with…so now i am a mess….do i continue to walk away from my kids mom because she doesnt need an asshole like me…do i drop everybody and focus on myself?, Do i act like an asshole to all the girls and make them leave me…..Ugh… sorry, probably doesnt make much sense….i feel better for venting though…haha….
OH HEY SUICIDE…..Dont kill yourself….You may be clinicaly depressed. I dont know if you have kids or not but as a parent…I would love my child unconditionaly. So you have relationship problems? who gives a shit, we all do. I would not kill myself for no woman, nor man. I hope nobody would, they dont deserve that either…You probably have your health, family, you can walk cant ya? There are a hell of alot worse things out there that people are facing that bad women luck. One example: I am a firefighter ok….ever hold a little girl that is burned on half of her face? DONT LET RELATIONSHIPS END YOU!!! Better yourself and go workout, take up a martial art, Hang out with friends, DONT EVER GO TO THAT GIRLS HOUSE WITH FLOWERS AND GIFTS AGAIN…FUCK HER!!!! SHE ISNT WORTH YOU!!! you need to look out for yourself…the women will come.
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