Trust | I HATE MEN

Trust is a big issue between interacting human beings. We build trust between the coffee guy making our chai lattes, the content label at the back of the sandwich box, employers and co-workers, friends and families.

Unfortunately, there are times in my life where these bonds where broken and you guessed it right ladies, it was a man. From my father that almost left me dead to a best friend whom I trusted to be loyal to me… Yes, men have a way in doing the most unspeakable and down-right stupid.

So I grew up not trusting men very much due to my father’s poor demonstration of how reliable he is, I have tried to very much change my view on men and not be prejudice against them. Among one of the men who is suppose to be my exception is one of my best friends that I met in my first year of college when we were all living in a hall of residence.

I am a lesbian so me and him have a frequent clashing of female targets that we are attracted to. But as one of the many unwritten rules common to men and women, you do not mess with the guy/girl that your mate is interested in. This is a test of loyalty to your friend.

So straight after I have completed my final exam for the semester, I was informed by my female infatuation target at the time that my supposed best-friend (male) slept with her last night… I confronted him on the spot about it and he explained to me that he was under the influence of alcohol. There were no prior discussions of attraction on the same girl before and all of a sudden he expects me to accept alcohol as an excuse for his behavior, for betraying my trust in him.

I have discussed this story with men and women from all ages and experiences. All men admitted to me that it’s just a hole in the dark and that men’s standards to have sexual relationship with are very low compared to most women. If you offer them sexual pleasure, 99.9% of the male population will accept it despite the circumstance or status that they are in.

My distrust in men is not because I am a lesbian but also from the poor demonstration of loyalty displayed from the men that I do meet… I tried to trust them but instead, what a disappointment.

This post was submitted by YeungE.

Vicki

Well, I’m not a lesbian, and I have a wonderful father. No abuse there, they say that women who are abused by their father’s never learn to trust men, but that didn’t happen to me, and I was still abused by other men. My father loves my mother, never laid a hand on her, yet I ended up in a marriage with a cheating abusive husband. I am not a repeater however, once burned forever learned. My trust of men is very very low. The hole in the dark rings true….I think when it comes to sex, it is more mechanical for them. For women, sex, no matter how casual usually does have emotion attached to it because we are emotional creatures…I don’t think a lot of men are emotional, some are, most gay men (and this includes my bi-sexual son) are emotional, but most men I come into contact with would rather walk across hot coals with their bare feet before talking about how they feel.