Comments on: What’s the alternative to constant heartbreak? http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/whats-the-alternative-to-constant-heartbreak/ World's Largest Women Driven Social Media Website Wed, 08 Feb 2012 11:48:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Nathan_f_19999 http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/whats-the-alternative-to-constant-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-23184 Nathan_f_19999 Thu, 13 Oct 2011 08:00:00 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=619#comment-23184 Get used to the selfish and indifferent attitude of men 30+ cuz we only care about ourselves and our vices! Nate. Get used to the selfish and indifferent attitude of men 30+ cuz we only care about ourselves and our vices! Nate.

]]> By: Angiegirl2493 http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/whats-the-alternative-to-constant-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-17377 Angiegirl2493 Sun, 03 Apr 2011 06:33:00 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=619#comment-17377 When you sleep with a guy in the first week you meet him then he's bound to only want your body...."husband material" will take the time to get to know you first because he is attracted not only to what you look like but who you are as a person. When you sleep with a guy in the first week you meet him then he’s bound to only want your body….”husband material” will take the time to get to know you first because he is attracted not only to what you look like but who you are as a person.

]]> By: Bettifree http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/whats-the-alternative-to-constant-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-17113 Bettifree Thu, 24 Mar 2011 11:30:00 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=619#comment-17113 Your best bet for marriage/serious relationship is a conservative, at least somewhat traditional and probably religious man. I'm not saying they're a guaranteed winner, either, but at least they respect a woman who doesn't offer instant sex. I'm in my 40s and I know from experience that most men want sex only or sex primarily. An easy way to weed out the real asswipes, douchebags and all-around losers is DON'T HAVE SEX QUICKLY OR EASILY. A lot of men won't stick around, being horny and impatient, but those men are not worth your time, anyway. Also, don't get too emotional over a man who you've only known for days,weeks or even a few months. Get busy with other interests and don't expect happiness delivered from a man. Then, if you do meet a great guy, it will be a pleasant surprise! Your best bet for marriage/serious relationship is a conservative, at least somewhat traditional and probably religious man. I’m not saying they’re a guaranteed winner, either, but at least they respect a woman who doesn’t offer instant sex. I’m in my 40s and I know from experience that most men want sex only or sex primarily. An easy way to weed out the real asswipes, douchebags and all-around losers is DON’T HAVE SEX QUICKLY OR EASILY. A lot of men won’t stick around, being horny and impatient, but those men are not worth your time, anyway. Also, don’t get too emotional over a man who you’ve only known for days,weeks or even a few months. Get busy with other interests and don’t expect happiness delivered from a man. Then, if you do meet a great guy, it will be a pleasant surprise!

]]> By: Jadenn http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/whats-the-alternative-to-constant-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-14366 Jadenn Mon, 24 Jan 2011 00:13:00 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=619#comment-14366 I hear you, Jane...so much so that I could have written your post. I would like to say it gets better, but it doesn't. I am in my late 30s and finally found what I thought was the last decent guy on earth. We married almost a year ago (the first for us both). I discovered that my husband (a few years older than me) is actually a very spoiled five year old child, still playing all the games guys play. I could go on, but the short of it is that I both love him and hate him at the same time. I struggle daily with our issues, and try not to take out my hatred of men on him... I hear you, Jane…so much so that I could have written your post. I would like to say it gets better, but it doesn’t. I am in my late 30s and finally found what I thought was the last decent guy on earth. We married almost a year ago (the first for us both). I discovered that my husband (a few years older than me) is actually a very spoiled five year old child, still playing all the games guys play. I could go on, but the short of it is that I both love him and hate him at the same time. I struggle daily with our issues, and try not to take out my hatred of men on him…

]]> By: Laura http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/whats-the-alternative-to-constant-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-14256 Laura Tue, 18 Jan 2011 12:33:00 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=619#comment-14256 Text him once if at all. If he doesn't return it in a reasonable amount of time ie within a couple hours, then don't return his texts or calls for two days or so. If he is into you he will stop playing games and persue you if not then he prolly has another girl or two... Text him once if at all. If he doesn’t return it in a reasonable amount of time ie within a couple hours, then don’t return his texts or calls for two days or so. If he is into you he will stop playing games and persue you if not then he prolly has another girl or two…

]]> By: Laura http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/whats-the-alternative-to-constant-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-14255 Laura Tue, 18 Jan 2011 12:29:00 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=619#comment-14255 I have had sex on the first date lots. And then I can't get rid of them. If you are the one who leaves their place without asking for digits he will be chasing after you.... Almost all my boyfriends have been one night stands that just kept sticking around untill I was in a relationship I didn't want. But they are all jerks, I don't think it is important how you aquire one he will piss you off in the end usually.... I have had sex on the first date lots. And then I can’t get rid of them. If you are the one who leaves their place without asking for digits he will be chasing after you…. Almost all my boyfriends have been one night stands that just kept sticking around untill I was in a relationship I didn’t want. But they are all jerks, I don’t think it is important how you aquire one he will piss you off in the end usually….

]]> By: Laura http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/whats-the-alternative-to-constant-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-14254 Laura Tue, 18 Jan 2011 12:23:00 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=619#comment-14254 Don't date bartenders. All men are pricks but men in the bar industry take the cake. To many insecure women all over them all the time and boosting their egos into monsterous proportions. If you have to date a bartender act like you couldn't give a shit about him. Blow him off and he will be so confused as to why you aren't gushing over him that he won't be able to stop thinking about you. It is wrecked with this one because you txt and then called but for the next one this works. But again the whole thing will piss you off because as soon as you relax and love him he will lose interest. So unless you want to be with a man that you have to consistantly treat like crap so he doesn't leave you for someone who will date a computer geek or something. Sorry, they are all jerks but no need to start with the jerkiest... Don’t date bartenders. All men are pricks but men in the bar industry take the cake. To many insecure women all over them all the time and boosting their egos into monsterous proportions. If you have to date a bartender act like you couldn’t give a shit about him. Blow him off and he will be so confused as to why you aren’t gushing over him that he won’t be able to stop thinking about you. It is wrecked with this one because you txt and then called but for the next one this works. But again the whole thing will piss you off because as soon as you relax and love him he will lose interest. So unless you want to be with a man that you have to consistantly treat like crap so he doesn’t leave you for someone who will date a computer geek or something. Sorry, they are all jerks but no need to start with the jerkiest…

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/whats-the-alternative-to-constant-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-13337 Anonymous Tue, 21 Dec 2010 02:30:00 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=619#comment-13337 Well unfortunately if you're sleeping with the guys just after a couple of dates... that's what you'll most likely be to them - a booty call. I've personally never had casual sex or sex after a few dates. I have always waited months and months until it is considered a serious relationship. I've only been hurt by 2 guys, and I only slept with one of them. Now I'm married. So perhaps the key is to not have sex with them... that's considered an age old thing anyway. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free etc. Not having sex with men means they will quickly move onto someone who will have sex with them, so it does the work for you... Well unfortunately if you’re sleeping with the guys just after a couple of dates… that’s what you’ll most likely be to them – a booty call. I’ve personally never had casual sex or sex after a few dates. I have always waited months and months until it is considered a serious relationship. I’ve only been hurt by 2 guys, and I only slept with one of them. Now I’m married. So perhaps the key is to not have sex with them… that’s considered an age old thing anyway. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free etc. Not having sex with men means they will quickly move onto someone who will have sex with them, so it does the work for you…

]]> By: Perspective 2.0 http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/whats-the-alternative-to-constant-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-13102 Perspective 2.0 Sun, 14 Nov 2010 09:13:00 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=619#comment-13102 His response has nothing to do with playing, or any shit about giving it up easy, you dug your own grave by saying that you wanted to be just friends when you really wanted more, a man doesn't have much alternative when told that, its a shutdown, a "I don't want you like that" and arguing about that will just make him seem desperate and sleazy. That and hes only known you for a week Even then why would he want to even tangle with you if your not clear in what you feel or want? If hes straight about how he feels toward you, you could have done the same, instead you rebuffed him cause he ignored your txt, which is just childish to be honest. oh and he probably didn't respond to your txt cause he was busy, hence the not answering his phone. You need to stop reading into it so much, if he shared his time with you, he wanted you around for whatever reason anyone chooses to keep company, but this business of telling men off for superficial reasons (txting) is what hurting you, your jumping the gun, wait till he cheats on you or some shit like that. His response has nothing to do with playing, or any shit about giving it up easy, you dug your own grave by saying that you wanted to be just friends when you really wanted more, a man doesn’t have much alternative when told that, its a shutdown, a “I don’t want you like that” and arguing about that will just make him seem desperate and sleazy. That and hes only known you for a week

Even then why would he want to even tangle with you if your not clear in what you feel or want? If hes straight about how he feels toward you, you could have done the same, instead you rebuffed him cause he ignored your txt, which is just childish to be honest. oh and he probably didn’t respond to your txt cause he was busy, hence the not answering his phone.

You need to stop reading into it so much, if he shared his time with you, he wanted you around for whatever reason anyone chooses to keep company, but this business of telling men off for superficial reasons (txting) is what hurting you, your jumping the gun, wait till he cheats on you or some shit like that.

]]> By: Lovetheville http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/whats-the-alternative-to-constant-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-13101 Lovetheville Sun, 14 Nov 2010 01:15:00 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=619#comment-13101 The truth is that men are all pimps, even the "nice ones". They don't want a relationship. He freaked out because you (rightfully so) wanted more than just a screw. Dating you would have cramped his pimp style. And he probably lied-you were probably one of at least a few women. Did I say that men are lying pimps.Anytime they oopen their mouthes, automatically ssume it's a lie. He got what he wanted and now he's bored because he is a skank. Wish I could meet him, I would tell him that myself if I were there! Currently I am reading "Catch Him and Keep Him". We'll see if this helps, but I am pretty convinced that men will always remain pimps. I have decided that I and every other woman out there are too worthy of these skanks and we don't need them except for physical release (and hell, toys actually do it better than they do!). Hang in there, hon. Remember, men are lucky to have US :) The truth is that men are all pimps, even the “nice ones”. They don’t want a relationship. He freaked out because you (rightfully so) wanted more than just a screw. Dating you would have cramped his pimp style. And he probably lied-you were probably one of at least a few women. Did I say that men are lying pimps.Anytime they oopen their mouthes, automatically ssume it’s a lie. He got what he wanted and now he’s bored because he is a skank. Wish I could meet him, I would tell him that myself if I were there! Currently I am reading “Catch Him and Keep Him”. We’ll see if this helps, but I am pretty convinced that men will always remain pimps. I have decided that I and every other woman out there are too worthy of these skanks and we don’t need them except for physical release (and hell, toys actually do it better than they do!). Hang in there, hon. Remember, men are lucky to have US :)

]]> By: At6821 http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/whats-the-alternative-to-constant-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-12986 At6821 Thu, 28 Oct 2010 14:16:00 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=619#comment-12986 No direspect to you but nothing you said makes sense to me at all. How do women have it easy? We raise kids by ourselves and end up with all bills of yours since men can't get hired these days because they think they are too good for community college (only $20/unit...I paid my way working two minimum wage jobs(one full time and one part time) and school full time) men just "don't want to" do anything that takes any effort anymore if it doesn't involve their immediate pleasure like porn your fav and anything else that................. YOU KNOW I'm so tired of men ruining everything I can't write anymore. I wish honestly I wasn't in this generation because men are just not attractive. For example, why do we have to read a whiny man complain that he can't jerk off fast enough. Cry you little baby. No one can afford a house and have to struggle. It's a matter of being an adult and taking responsibility to plan and figure out what you can do instead of saying "women have it easy" go to classes they are CHEAP at community college. Men don't want to do anything the right way or have morals. I'm just so pissed I hope your cock gets broken. I HATE MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No direspect to you but nothing you said makes sense to me at all. How do women have it easy? We raise kids by ourselves and end up with all bills of yours since men can’t get hired these days because they think they are too good for community college (only $20/unit…I paid my way working two minimum wage jobs(one full time and one part time) and school full time) men just “don’t want to” do anything that takes any effort anymore if it doesn’t involve their immediate pleasure like porn your fav and anything else that…………….. YOU KNOW I’m so tired of men ruining everything I can’t write anymore. I wish honestly I wasn’t in this generation because men are just not attractive. For example, why do we have to read a whiny man complain that he can’t jerk off fast enough. Cry you little baby. No one can afford a house and have to struggle. It’s a matter of being an adult and taking responsibility to plan and figure out what you can do instead of saying “women have it easy” go to classes they are CHEAP at community college. Men don’t want to do anything the right way or have morals. I’m just so pissed I hope your cock gets broken. I HATE MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

]]> By: At6821 http://www.ihatemen.org/2009/12/15/whats-the-alternative-to-constant-heartbreak/comment-page-1/#comment-12985 At6821 Thu, 28 Oct 2010 14:07:00 +0000 http://www.ihatemen.org/?p=619#comment-12985 I have to write to you because I have the same experience with men right now, and I have been observing this creepy trend for the generation of men in their 20s-30s. I know this sounds extreme, but men in this generation don't want any relationships with women and just their small group of men best friends which one of my ex-boyfriends called his "family" (4 adult men that had their own lives in different states). I don't know any men in their 20s or 30s that want a wife or girl firend or children or a house or any large commitment. They just want to go out to be entertained and go home to their favorite porn! It's really really really common. They want porn but not anything else. Also, they don't have responsibilites or accountability for anything even at work they make up excuses for not getting work done...or just quit the job or wait for the women to fix it.. Also, I have been noticing in articles and people talking about how men aren't really men right now because "they don't know what to do" on account that women are more educated and getting jobs but since men don't have the same statistics of graduating college (because they don't feel like it) men aren't getting hired except temp work or other odd jobs/ handy man. Even my uncle that is in his 50s is being a drunk and swearing at my Aunt because he is out of union carpenter work and can't use the computer but she can so he treats her like crap, now. I have totally lost any respect for him because he could try to learn new things like normal human. Also, my best friend lives in Colorado (super beautiful, fun, educated.. like you had said) and she can never find a normal, nice, employed man! She always has to settle to go on dates with men in bands or a man that was a painter turned history teacher that treat her the same way you described where the men don't care about women they date. This really depresses me. I totally feel the same way you do!!! Where are the nice men??? What the hell? This is all we get? cheaters,porn addicts, dumbasses, bad attitudes, don't care, don't try, don't have any man qualities that actually turn me on or attract me! One more example that our generation of men are not real men! Lots of young women I know that are just like you (and me - educated, pretty, normal) are getting married to men in their 40s!!!!!!! They are finding what they want but in men that are from another generation that were still the normal men. I have to write to you because I have the same experience with men right now, and I have been observing this creepy trend for the generation of men in their 20s-30s. I know this sounds extreme, but men in this generation don’t want any relationships with women and just their small group of men best friends which one of my ex-boyfriends called his “family” (4 adult men that had their own lives in different states). I don’t know any men in their 20s or 30s that want a wife or girl firend or children or a house or any large commitment. They just want to go out to be entertained and go home to their favorite porn! It’s really really really common. They want porn but not anything else. Also, they don’t have responsibilites or accountability for anything even at work they make up excuses for not getting work done…or just quit the job or wait for the women to fix it.. Also, I have been noticing in articles and people talking about how men aren’t really men right now because “they don’t know what to do” on account that women are more educated and getting jobs but since men don’t have the same statistics of graduating college (because they don’t feel like it) men aren’t getting hired except temp work or other odd jobs/ handy man. Even my uncle that is in his 50s is being a drunk and swearing at my Aunt because he is out of union carpenter work and can’t use the computer but she can so he treats her like crap, now. I have totally lost any respect for him because he could try to learn new things like normal human. Also, my best friend lives in Colorado (super beautiful, fun, educated.. like you had said) and she can never find a normal, nice, employed man! She always has to settle to go on dates with men in bands or a man that was a painter turned history teacher that treat her the same way you described where the men don’t care about women they date. This really depresses me. I totally feel the same way you do!!! Where are the nice men??? What the hell? This is all we get? cheaters,porn addicts, dumbasses, bad attitudes, don’t care, don’t try, don’t have any man qualities that actually turn me on or attract me! One more example that our generation of men are not real men! Lots of young women I know that are just like you (and me – educated, pretty, normal) are getting married to men in their 40s!!!!!!! They are finding what they want but in men that are from another generation that were still the normal men.

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