by stupidlady
I am so thankful for this outlet
9:39 am in I Hate Men by stupidlady
I am the lady that is so angry that a tear can’t even pop out of my eye right now. I am the most stupid person on the face of the earth right now. I am also the angriest. I let J come back and live with me. He wants to rule the roost, no work, take money from me, doesn’t replay it, borrows more, comes home beat up, lays on his ass, lies to my face and lies about feeling bad about lying to my face. Leaves, lies about where he is going, lies about the money he owes, says he has no gas, then didn’t buy gas.
I just hate him. I just hate him, I just hate him. I just want to peel the skin off my face I am so angry. I want to ram my head into a wall I am so angry. I hate him I hate him I hate him. I hate myself I hate myself I hate myself. I feel like I am going to blow up. My head is just going to explode. The next time he gets beat up I hope he gets more than one black eye. Somebody else is tired of his shit too. I am sure he lied about how and why he got his ribs kicked in and his eye blackened. OMG! What a fricken nightmare. I am going to walk this off so I don’t have a stroke. Another year ruined by lies. Another holiday in the toilet.
Dont feel so bad. Im worst. I spent 9 yrs with a man that hates me. He cheated on me, I knew it and begged him to not leave me. At the end he still did. Cheer up.
I feel so much better today. Two days have passed. I found out that J stole a prescription of mine from the pharmacy, lied about not having money because there was money from the street sales of my much needed zanax prescription. Everyday I find out that the same ol J exists. A.M. prescription stolen P.M. I found out he’s ordered 2 porno channels and what a jerk off! No pun intended. It’s so over for me.
Cynthia, I don’t know you but men don’t cheat because they hate the woman thery are with. Men think that they are better than all women and they deserve to do waht they want to us, lie, cheat and steal. Who ever the woman was, he’ll cheat on her too. Once a cheater always a cheater. Thank God he walked away so you can get on with your life.
OMG…Like men are soooo stupid. How can they pretend so much. Like one minute they are all nice to you, the next they just ignore you? Argh!!!!!!!!!!!! I hate them, I hate them, I hate them. I wish we could switch lives with them so they could see what kind of jerks they are.. But I hate myself more for letting them do all that to me. Each time I meet someone new, im like “Oh maybe hes different” Psych!!! They are all the same.
I am with you. I hate men. All the men I have ever met were assholes. I thought this one was different. But I hate him too. He has turned out just like the rest.
I hope this reply is taken with a grain of salt. I’m searching for answers myself, but have found a few that I’d like to share. Both men and women have to take responsibility for their choices. I’m responsible for my choice if I choose to be with someone that I know has issues that aren’t being dealt with. I understand that it may be difficult to impossible to know what issues the person you’re with has, but we all know when were unhappy. Its our responsibility to find out what the underlying causes are. You can either find out together in your relationship or if your partner is unwilling, you need to find out for yourself. Let’s face it, all people have issues, injuries from childhood, etc. More often than not, it needs to be dealt with using professional help, as in therapy. Otherwise we will go on making the same choices and mistakes. There’s no reason to hate men, just as there no reason for me to hate women. If I’m choosing someone that is unhealthy in their habits or thoughts (and inevitably actions), then I just may have to look at myself and work to make myself more healthy in any way.
One thing specific I’d like to share is that porn can kill a relationship easily. It needs to be removed 100% and then therapy should be used to understand why porn was being used in the first place. I’m speaking from my own experience with porn. There’s no room for porn in a healthy relationship. And I believe its an absolute huge problem. There are other addictions that can cause the same bad results but porn is so much more hidden, which, in my opinion, makes it very difficult to conquer. Remember, that removing porn is only the very beginning of a long road to mental health.
The only other things I’d like to specifically share is that I seem to be coming across a lot of women that need ways to boost their self-esteem. All I can say, is that there should be ways to boost your self-esteem in healthy ways. It shouldn’t be done by finding someone else to help you do it. I, along with lots of people, struggle with this, but I have faith that there are ways to do this. Look within. Allow yourself to value yourself without hating or even disliking others in the process.
I hope hearing a man’s view helps and doesn’t invoke any anger or negative feelings. I’ve recently read sites with posts only from men that are just as angry or frustrated with women and I try to make a point to those posters not to let misogyny enter the picture. There is a path to healing and healthy relationships that I’m hopefully on, but I know its a life long pursuit and commitment, not just a week, a month, a year, or even a decade.
Once a man cheats, he will always be a cheater, I just found out the hard way this year. My first love had cheated on me when we were kids, although we lasted two years then. When I separated from my husband, I looked him up. He told me he had changed, he wasn’t doing that anymore. I believed him-stupid me. I let him visit me for two weeks, and our son was conceived, oops. Well, I truly believed he meant to marry me once my divorce was finalized-was I ever duped. He found someone else in a matter of months, and got her pregnant too, but didn’t bother to tell me for four months. Even then, it wasn’t him who told me, it was her, three months after he broke it off with me. Once a guy cheats on you, don’t ever trust him again. I love my son dearly, but I won’t have his father back in my life. By the way, once I proved to his new girlfriend what a lying piece of crap he really was, she dumped him too! Smart lady, lol.