Lets start with them bag of bone super models!!! Thanks to the media, they brain washed a lot of people and say we look fat or gained weight or something that is soo surreal!! I am very athletic, skinny to me is scary to me. I like having meat on my bones.. It makes me feel strong and healthy… But I do understand what you mean though… When I was in that shitty relationship with my ex, I gain like only 5 pounds people were going on to me about how chucky I look.. I felt pretty hurt but then again I had to remember because I was light weight bodybuilder they could see my skin wasnt all tight or whatever.. But yes I do recall the feelings very clearly though! But I say if you are happy with your weight fugg everyone else!

Actually,ksqd4, men in general don’t get the backlash that women get concerning weight. Male actors who are overweight can actually make it in that industry without resorting to emaciating themselves. Women care less about how men look and more on their personality. (Unless you speak strictly to shallow chicks.) And men are NOT bombarded daily by news reports, magazine covers, television commercials, and ads about how they should lose those “pesky pounds” and how happy it will make not only them, but everyone around them. (What they fail to note is that women are never happy about their weight.)

Unlike the male population, women in our society have to mold into the “size 00-6″ category if they want to be considered normal, or at least not disgusting. And by our current “average” size of 14, it’s entirely impossible for every woman in the United States to conform to that ideal. Yes, ideal. That’s really all it is.

Even putting aside medical conditions and childbirth, women retain more fat than men do (making it harder for women to lose weight.) Not everyone has the opportunity to be a bored housewife, and some actually have to work for a living. (you know, those pesky things called responsibilities?)

The point wasn’t that she shouldn’t lose weight, it was that even HER FATHER had to comment on such a trivial thing as her weight. (unless she’s medically obese, which I doubt.)

So what if you gain or lose five pounds?
Why do we put so much weight on weight?
Is there really nothing else we could be putting our efforts into, like say, something productive?

It really is very sad that I even have to defend this argument by saying that I’m not overweight myself and that I’m not ‘defending’ my “fat,” which I’m sure someone would have used against me otherwise.

Women caring less about looks is a myth. If you’re a short guy for example, good luck with the ladies! How about balding? Cross him off. Small pecker? No good either. If a guy is fat, bald, short, and has a small penis…. then God help him, because nobody else will. The reason for the illusion in our society is just that women have much MORE criteria in addition to appearances, that may gain slight priority… which makes it seem like they don’t care as much about looks, but the reality is that it’s overshadowed by even higher criteria.

Sorry if I’m a bit off topic. You’re right that media makes more of an issue with female physical appearance than men’s (some ads excluded of course). But the real world is not the media. Out “in the field” of reality, women can be even more judgemental about appearances… they just don’t make it as obvious as men do. But what’s worse, is that in addition to appearances, they’re also picky about social status, wealth, and a man’s personality needs to be top-notch (almost faultlessly inhuman), or it’s also a no-go. In fact, the standards that women set are so high, that it makes me wonder how so many men ever even succeed in gaining any meaningful relationships with women at all, based on comparing to their internal criteria.

Now to be on topic. Your father is probably just the type of person that is fault-finding. This is by no means a rarity. If you were the perfect weight, he’d find something else to comment on that is insulting to you… believe me. I doubt that helps make his comment hurt any less, but perhaps realizing that will help you focus a little less on yourself, and more on what’s wrong with him for saying it in the first place.

I know EXACTLY what you’re talking about Catzisme. I once visited this website where this guy was categorizing women basically stating that women who are curvy or slender are ok to love or like or screw, but anything bigger than that, should be brought out into the street and shot coz they serve no purpose. I was like we women do NOT categorize men like they do to us. It’s as if overweight women don’t need love too, as if they should just put a bullet in their heads because they were just wastes of flesh.

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You know you aren't cute anymore when even the fat guys don't notice you any longer. So…… we need to get in that “I hate the world and I'll punish my body for it!” mode. It sucks I know. My grand dad, who's a fatass, always says, “Girl, your butt is getting as big as your momma's.” I want to punch him in the face everytime! So I just stay away from him. My grandama basically starves herself, she's a tiny size 5, because that's how he expects her to be.

You are a tard. I don’t know how else to explain it, but just cuz a man is fat doesn’t mean he prefers fat bitches. That makes sense.

Just because a man smells like shit, doesn’t mean he prefers smelly ass bitches. Just because a man is arrogant, doesn’t mean he prefers arrogant women. Just because a man likes to have the last word, doesn’t mean he likes a woman to have the last word. Just because a man kills someone, doesn’t mean he likes to be killed. Just because a man punches another man in the face, doesn’t mean he likes to be punched in the face. Just because a man steals something, doesn’t mean he likes to be stolen from. I could go on all damn day, but this is common sense and it’s how life is.

You learn all that common sense in your parents basement all alone. You cross dress, don’t you?

“You cross dress, don’t you?”

If i did, i still wouldn’t expect you to. What works for me doesn’t mean it has to work for you.

But atleast i know you are a fatty, and that’s why you think men just want sex – cuz no man even goes near you – and if they do, they dont stay very long, cuz they let ya think it was just the sex – cuz “fatty and bitch” doesn’t go well.

Why the heck are you calling her a “tard”. You uneducated moron. You have to be uneducated because a guy who has some decent education and some culture would not write in such an uncouth manner. It appears you must be in such desperate need for female attention that apparently the only way you can get it is by coming on a blog that clearly says “I HATE MEN” to insult females who you know darned well would not even give you the time of day. Maybe YOU are the smelly man you refer to, go take a good shower and while you’re at it wash your mouth too.

Catzisme, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And where men are concerned their tastes vary greatly, regardless of popular beauty trends.

The trouble with what you are saying is that her FATHER said this to her..it displays a sexist attitude entirely, regardless of his personal “preference”. He has no right to prefer his daughter to be thinner, other than health. Really, what cause is there for that?