Saturday night mistake

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I went out for a drink with a workmate one Saturday night, just as friends, he’d been bugging me to hang out which is fair enough. The night had been going well the atmosphere was relaxed until he goes and kisses me. The night took a turn for the good, he was a good kisser and knew what he was doing and there was a kiss fest for the rest of the night. We kissed goodbye that night only for him to tell me the next day it was a bit of fun, it meant nothing to him.

Why do guys do this?

He’s the first person I’ve kissed in 3 yrs because i couldn’t trust anybody else. The only thing I can comfort myself with now is that at least I didn’t sleep with him.

This post was submitted by emzyma.

  • Naila

    I completely understand what your talking about. Im 18 and it seems that older men are attracted to me, but whenever something will happen where we kiss nothing ever happens after that. Im beginning to think that i have no hope with relationships. And im losing faith quickly in the male gender, and the sad part is im still a teen. I dont know why men do it, but ive learnt to zone out the hurt feeling a long time ago. Maybe you should adopt that also.

  • Lady

    Why do men do this? Well it’s very simple: Because they can!

    The fact that he did this just for fun, illustrates yet again, that men are egotistic creatures. He doesn’t care what it does to you or your feelings. The only prize for him was that he was able to kiss you and knowing that you wouldn’t resist.

  • Sam

    Men are not egotistical, that MAN is egotistical. It is a grave error in judgement to assume that all people of a certain group are as bad as the extreme examples of people in that group.

  • Adam

    I know i’m entering a place where men are hated, but in response to this post I wish to add few words. Kissing for men means nothing if it does not lead to sex. Its that simple, if the kissing had turned into a both of you having sex then the next day he would have been in your face all day. However, because the kissing did’nt go anywhere this man did’nt want anything to do with you the next day apart from keep you in this book for a rainy day.

    Now, please don’t shoot me all at one.

  • Emzyma

    I appreciate the support I’m getting from everyone, adam you are a brave one to venture on here. The guy is still confusing me, I just wish he could tell me straight, does he fancy me or not? I am getting bored of his games.

  • Kim

    I don’t hate men, but I don’t have much respect for them. I’m glad Adam said something, so we can see what a guy is really thinking (although I already knew that he’s blowing you off because you didn’t sleep with him). Now you just have decide if you want to risk being vulnerable with him or not. Personally I don’t take these kinds of risks anymore. Being as coldly logical as Adam; the rewards simply don’t outweigh the risks.

  • Emzyma

    I won’t take risks with him again, I’ve removed him from my life as he has started to completely ignore me at work as well now which I’m just not standing for. He is obviously not interested in me. I won’t beat myself up about this as I have done nothing wrong, he was the one chasing me.

  • John

    I have no problem with women that hate men, or a specific man, but the real issue here is that maybe you could have seen where the situation was going in the first place? I am not trying to be mean at all, or say that you were leading this man on, but did you know this bloke as being sort of a “playboy” of sorts?

    Sometimes, what you know before going into battle helps all along the way. I have to disagree with Adam, even as a man, and say that JUST kissing is obviously being taken the wrong way. Why can’t a man and woman kiss, or makeout, for an extended period of time WITHOUT having sex? Maybe I am in the minority, but I am a male, so maybe I just don’t get that.

  • Jason

    John,

    “Just kissing” was fun in junior high. I’m pretty sure you are in the minority if you enjoy hour long kiss fests that lead to nothing else.