I can’t let him go…

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I have been seeing this guy for almost a yr. Our age is very different, he’s 37 I’m 23! but that doesn’t bother us at all. We have great chemistry together. We always have a good time together and he makes me laugh. Well, he’s kind of a loser for his age…he has no job, lives on a fishing boat. but i was fine with that!

Anyway, he got a job selling $400 blenders at different Costco in California. He’s gone all the time! and the last time he took off for 2 weeks and he called me to tell me that he will be gone for an additional month and that we should take a break?!!? i was shocked considering the fact that we didn’t fight about anything prior to this. So ok we said bye on the phone and i was devastated.

Eleven days past, I decided to text him and i say ” If i had know that day was gonna be our last day together, I would have spent every minute of it telling you how much you meant to me. But it’s too late now. I miss you always…

Nothing came back to me..I text that this morning (7/26/09) 8am… Should i expect an answer back? What do you think about my whole situation?

Please help me. I’m desperate!

This post was submitted by paulie.supakit.

  • Bonnie

    I understand how you feel cause i have been down the road of rejection and feeling lonely but you have to look deep inside yourself and find who you were before you got emotionally involved with this low life. There is one thing you have to learn about men is that most of them look at women as objects and not as partners. We are just temporary to most of them. Many men find it easy to just walk away and we as women are left standing in the dark wondering what the hell did I do wrong? You did nothing wrong. You took a risk at companionship and got hurt and that is what happens when we open our hearts to people whether it be a man or woman or family or friends. Do you want to sit around feeling sorry for yourself or do you want to feel strong and wise? I could go on and on about this but I leave you with this thought “If there was no bad in the world and no pain and suffering we would take the great parts of life for granted” Enjoy life till it is over and stand up for what you believe in and never let them see you sweat.

  • http://www.ihatemen.org a better woman

    Paulie when you are with a “loser” he is going to do the stuff that losers do. He didn’t have anything else to do while he was jobless, and you were fun to him.

    Giving him the benefit of the doubt…It may be a the case where he can only focus on one thing at a time, and since it is his job – that may be all that he can do. Also, the fact that he is away does not help the situation. Maybe when he returns you may be able to salvage the relationship, but it seems he has other priorities right now.

    Focus on you… the pain will subside, and you will realize that you can let go.

  • Alma Wilson

    I can’t let him go-Don’t you think you’re letting your own life go? Why remain an option in his life while you make him a priority in yours? At 23, you have your whole life ahead of you. But the choice: Is this what you want? That is the question.

  • persephone

    I have been in the exact same situation for the past two years. Im still trying to get my life together. One thing that you have to keep in mind, is that if he really wanted to be with you, he would make it happen. If you really were anything more than just fun to him, he would have made an effort.

    Cry, mourne, and then carry on with your life… i have to … hope you can too.

  • paulie.supakit

    thank you guys for all your very helpful comments.