Lost in the Texts
So I ended a (2 year) relationship, but I still stay in touch with my ex. We hooked up and would hang out from time to time. I always believed we would be together forever, even after we broke up, I thought we would get back together. He used to tell me he loved me, and told me (even after we broke up) I was the one…and I felt the same way about him. A few weeks after we slept together, he proposes to another female. I found out about his marriage through pictures on facebook, he didnt even tell me. When I confronted him about it, he kept saying its not what I think. Supposedly he marries this woman because she needed citizenship (I don’t believe him, cause I’m not retarded). So I end it, and walk away from him. A year and a half goes by, and I don’t talk to anybody. Not because I don’t want to, I just have bad luck with men. Until I meet this other guy.
We start off real casual. And I thought he was really cool because he approached me, and sought after me. He did some really sweet things, like drove out to see me for like 5 minutes. I thought we had chemistry, so we slept together and he expressed he liked me and wanted to see where this would go. And I was really convinced he was the breath of fresh air I needed….but he wasnt. He only texted me, and would never call. A month of knowning each other, and we never went on a date or had a phone conversation. We would set up dates and he would just flake out…but keep hitting me up through texts as if nothing happend….I don’t understand his motive….what do you think?? I’m trying not to let my heartbreak with my ex affect my decisions on how to deal with this guy, but I’m not a fool. I don’t wanna be played.
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Don’t take this the wrong way but you teach people how to treat you. My little secret is that all of the cliches about men “not buying the cow if they get the milk for free” are completely true. In other words most men are intrigued by women that don’t have sex with them until they’re in a fully commited relationship (at least 3 months with lots of dates and deep meaningful conversation). Men love innocence… Contrary to what cosmo and other girl magazines say. So don’t kiss on the first date.
In the mean time stop worrying about men and start developing yourself. Read books that teach you about subjects that intrest you. Learn an instrument. Take up painting. Make yourself into a more exotic and interesting girl… men will be less likely to pursue you for sex and see you as marriage and mate for life material.
Lastly… Ask yourself if these guys that decieved you were really what you wanted… I mean come on! They were players and players are boring idiots. You’re going to be way out of these guys leage and won’t even attract them anymore once you’ve done some self reflection and realized that you’re a magical interesting woman.
Good luck! (this worked for me.)
The guy is not ready for a mature relationship quite yet. Sounds like he lives in the basement of his parent’s house. Let the guy go and spend more time on yourself rather than pursuing men.
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I think he’s scared of being put on the spot and not knowing what to say, that’s why he doesn’t talk on the phone. But honestly, it sounds to me like you were his bootycall and now he doesn’t want you to hate him so he’s just talking through texts to make sure everything’s fine. Don’t ask him out on dates anymore, he needs to man up and ask to do something with you. Next time you two spend time together, play hard-to-get a little so you can see what his intentions really are. I’m not saying be a bitch but don’t buy everything he says.
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I think he has a girlfriend
I know how you feel…my friend, whom I’ve had a relationship with for the past 1.5 years but does not acknowledge that we have a relationship…..just sexual,,,just texts me…no phone calls….he’s known how I’ve felt about him for the last year…I’m so in love with this man… but I’m soooo willing to end it because it’s not a good thing for me…. I just need to be strong and say no when he comes to town….
I read your post and my advice to you is to get back to square one (you). Here is an example of what needs to be done. If you meet a guy that you think has potential start off slowly. If he talks about sex tell him politely that you are not that type of woman and that if he is that type of guy then bye bye. Have tons of respect for yourself I am speaking from experience that most men will not pass up a chance to have a one night stand. There are lots of men that are only looking for sex aand they will tell you everything you want to hear just to get it. I know disgusting right? Well you just remember that you are 1 in a million and its due time to start feeling like it. Everyone gets lonely and depressed so you are not alone but when you feel that way dont you dare lower your standards to get a man. If he does not want you because you wont sleep with him then what makes you think you would want to be with a selfish pig like that. I want you to do one thing find a song and listen to it over and over it is called I choose by India Arie Good luck sweetheart and keep your head up
having a rough time with my mother being ill…She’s 78..my dad drinking to much…omg…told him my frustrations about my neighbor not wanting to sleep w her husband… told him they just don’t know what they have… said he doesn’t know either that it’s starting to go away..he had no clue what I meant. told him our “non relationship” relationship was starting to go away..he had no clue…I asked my man what i’ve been waiting for for the past two years (which he initially asked for)…he wasn’t able to answer….
I’m really hating men right now…!
…It’s done…feeling angry and empty at the same time…