Comments on: Former boyfriend/best friend, just GONE

By: Jegaby2003

Jegaby2003 — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 15:21:00 +0000

There is no such thing as a guy “friend”. Any normal heterosexual male wants sex/intimacy from a woman (and – trust me on this – he is not hanging out with you unless he is attracted to you – men don’t hang out with a woman unless there is an attraction there). Trust me…if you have a guy friend – he wants to be more than just friends unless he is gay. My girlfriend & I have this discussion a lot. I can see a guy friend if you are friends with another man who is married (happily married) & you are more or less casual acquaintances. But, if you are hanging out with a single man – he wants to be more than friends. I don’t care what he tells you. He will stay your friend until your relationship progresses to the next level or he finds another woman he is interested in.

By: Gyest

Gyest — Sat, 23 Apr 2011 09:57:00 +0000

Most men always follow their sexuality because that is all they really care about in the end. Their are some rare exceptions but they’re very rare.

By: fkinh8u

fkinh8u — Wed, 29 Dec 2010 22:12:00 +0000

same thing happened to me hun ( you’v lost him 2 her. sorry to be blunt but but thats the way it is. not spoken to my best mate for a year now after growing up together i had a bf but always made time 4 him. he got a girlfriend and iv seen him 3 times i think my cat sat on his lap one of those times and he pushed her off saying his gf would know hed seen me ?? wtf ?? i miss him but they thats life (

By: doodledee27

doodledee27 — Sun, 03 Oct 2010 07:39:00 +0000

Forget him. Not worth your time.

By: Jessie Granger

Jessie Granger — Thu, 23 Sep 2010 21:39:00 +0000

YEAH!! I could not have said it better than MA.

By: MA

MA — Sun, 29 Aug 2010 16:25:00 +0000

What “to do,” is fairly simple. Realize that if you HAD been sexually attracted to him, you would still be in the relationship. Realize that since you see him as “shy and not very good looking,” he knows that you see him this way. Clearly the reason he wanted to be with and maintain a frienship with you is because he was attracted to you but you did not reciprocate that. Men often offer “friendship” to a woman when what they want is intimacy, or at the very least a sexual relationship. He attempted to make that happen with you for over 4 years. It didn’t work. He has realized that and finally moved on. He is not contacting you or responding to you because he had feelings for you and wants to put them in the past and focus onhis new woman. All sensible stuff. Also realize that you were using him. YES I SAID IT – using him. Since you have “a child” you wrongly assume that a partner substitute is o.k. It is not. You owe it to yourself as well as your child to have a real relationship, a full relationship, with the next man in your life. If you want frienship, nurture the firenships you have with women and do NOT teach you daughter or son to settle as you did with this “friend.” Most importantly stop blaming him. He doesn’t deserve your hate.

By: sriikant

sriikant — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 05:04:55 +0000

u are a stupid woman, the guy loved u all the while but becuz of his “looks” u cudnt see that, he loved u with whole heart, but the heart has a limit of loving, when he cudnt get what he wanted from u,and another real gal came up who loved him for what he was, he realized what he had been missing all this while, u deserve this u bitch, u deserve to rot in hell

By: Pandoras Box

Pandoras Box — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 06:15:52 +0000

i’m always afraid of this happening with my best friend. we promised eachother we’d be friends for life, but god knows promises don’t mean shit when a S.O. is in the picture. he says he’s not interested in girls & dating, but he’ll be going to college in the not-too-distant future & him being the nice & funny dude he is will probably find another girl. i’m in the same situation. we were together for awhile & then i broke up with him because i was too afraid to commit & now we’re very close friends*despite the stupid fights sometimes*

after hearing this same story over & over, i feel like i’m trapped in a stupid cliche romance book that i’ve skipped to the ending of. >_<

By: Unscathed

Unscathed — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 17:55:52 +0000

I think you need to get a life. Sorry but you sound like a bit of a loser. I can understand you miss your friend but you need to move on. He doesn’t want you in his life anymore for whatever reason. It doesn’t matter if it was his choice or if his new girlfriend made him stop talking to you. You should take a hint and stop bothering him. You are just making a fool of yourself. The most irritating thing is you say he was the most important person in your life? Your DAUGHTER should be the most important person in your life. You should concentrate on your daughter and your studies.

By: An

An — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 07:38:27 +0000

So… you dated this guy for a while, decided you could do better than this ugly shy fuck and dumped him, he tried to hold on to you for a while because he really cared about you and maybe thought he’d win you back, but then he found a girl that liked him for more than his looks and he’s putting a lot of effort into it and you’re somehow the martyr because he’s not all over you anymore, give me a break, asshole.

By: My2cents

My2cents — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 04:09:36 +0000

You aren’t his girlfriend. How would you feel if your boyfriend was always talking to another girl so frequently? Just the fact that you state he has “cared for you more than anyone ever has” and you believe he “left you” sounds like you have a thing for him… whether you do or not. No wonder his girlfriend got insecure or jealous. Don’t you think his girlfriend would be on here griping about how her boyfriend puts YOU over HER if it was the other way around?

If a guy seriously loves a woman and wants to commit, I give him props. Maybe he has found what he wants and doesn’t want to mess it up. REAL FRIENDS don’t quantify a relationship or judge it by the time spent. Sounds like you have a lot of emotional investment… perhaps more than just a “friend.” Be respectful and think of the golden rule.

By: ReasonandLogic

ReasonandLogic — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 16:11:58 +0000

I’m pretty sure he’s not talking to you because of the other chick he is seeing. I’m sure if he gets a text or something from you, he gets an earful. She probably even made him delete you from his phone.

If he hasn’t had a g/f in so long and isn’t good looking like you said, he’s probably trying to make this one work, in which case, he likely lets her walk all over him.

That’s my guess anyway.