Some Men Are Just Mama’s Boys!
I am 49 years young and for the past 4 years I have been living with a man who would not or could not break the apron string with his mother. I did everything in my power to open his eyes to show him just how sick his relationship is with his mother.
It’s like its insestual relationship they have going. He plays the role of her husband and his mother the wife. His dad is in his own little world and just ignores their behavior. Its just sick! To this day I am still not convinced they haven’t had sex, but when I ever asked him about it he got all defensive and of course the fight was on. I put up with this crap from him and his mother for the past 4 yrs. I finally had my fill when his mother called me bitching me out about how I am taking her son, her soul mate from her.
What makes a mother do something like this to her son? I have 3 adult children myself, 2 boys and a girl. I never dreamed of treating any of my kids like that! This woman goes to church almost every day of the week doesn’t she realize that her behavior with her son is morally wrong?
I wish I could say that I am over reacting or making all this up, but its the God’s Honest Truth. That family is sick!! I am not sure if I can give is real name on here but he also goes by stilakid070 on my space. So ladies please watch out for this guy has a lot of issues he needs to deal with, and I would really hate to see someone other nice women go through the hell I have been through these past 4 yrs.
This post was submitted by TallSassyRedHead.
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what makes u think its incestual? were u seriously thniknig it was or were u jsut griping?
Thrashthemic, Yes I really think and feel it is incestual. My ex-boyfriend lives right next door to his mother and there is nothing wrong with that. But when I would spend the night over at his place his mother would see my car in the drive and while we were in bed, she would just walk in his house with out knocking and slam open the bedroom door and scream “Christopher just what do you think you are doing!” At first I just thought they both were co-dependent upon one another then as time when by I saw there was something more to their relationship. Also instead of his mother going to her husband his father like a wife should do when something would come up . She would call her son at work and would want him to take care of everything. It was just a bunch of little things that added up to where I feel deep within my heart and gut my ex-boyfriend and his mother have a sick incestual relationship. Like I stated in my earlier post, to this day I still do not know if he and his mother have ever had sex!!
Wow! – Dealing with something like that must be so hard. When the “other woman” in his life is his own mother is, well, just sick!! I agree that there is something very weird about that behavior.
It is horrible to be with a guy like that. I hate mama’s boys!!!!
It is very tragic but unfortunately some mothers cannot let their sons go. Case in pint: One of my neighbor’s at my childhood home residence had such a relationship with her son, who was her only child. Oh, was she ever in control of him! Her husband, not so much, but boy she controlled her son to the point where he went away to military school to get away from her (and females!). So, Jon graduates military school with top grades, gets married, but has a relationship with his wife which is more like brother-sister. Yup no real emotional intimacy or anything.
inhateallmen, yes it is unfortunate that some mothers have this type of control over their son’s. The sad part about my situation is he is not the only child he has 2 sisters one older, and one younger. That whole family has issues!! I am a Social Worker, so I have studied a lot of Psychology, and Sociology, plus I have seen a lot of abnormal behavior such as this one in many sick families I have worked with. I still for the life and can not understand why I did not run when I first noticed something was very odd and just plain ole weird about this family. I guess I just wanted to fix him and his family. However as we all know, you can not help those who do not want to help their self. To this day, I have not heard from him. Which is a good thing, lol..I wrote him, his father and aunt, an apology letter, stating how sorry I was for all the awful and mean things I said to them. But I did not write one to his mother nor will I !! I still have all his important paper work and a few of his clothes here, I placed everything he left here in a box and its put in the closet. I have requested that he come by and get these items, yet he has not done so..I am sure his mother has forbidden him to ever see or talk to me again..giggling..which I find rather funny but most of all sick!! Since I have been out of that sick relationship, I been so happy, and healthier. As a matter of fact I gave away my living-room set and bought new!! I am back to wearing make-up and dressing up..lol…So really that dysfunctional family did me a world of good in their own sick way. giggling.
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The majority of “mama’s boys” become that wat BECAUSE of the mothers.
but i like it because its dil da mamla hai.
After I hears the following phrase ” I can’t go out with you tonight because I promised my mom I would go to a wine tasting with her”. I had enough!! He already went to a game with her a few days before. Then I realized He was dating his mother!!! I totally understand where you’re coming from. You will find someone that is an adult. I’ve dated nice guys who love and respect their mother that don’t act like that. Be strong!!!
Oh hells no, how dare he get all defensive when you accuse him of sleeping with his MOM. DAYUUUUM GURL.
A man who cannot make his mother #2 and make some other woman #1 is still a boy. It is one thing to respect and love Mother; it is another to refuse to transfer primary affection from her to another woman.
Such men, frankly, are pathetic, and almost nothing can be done to change them. The worst-case scenario is a horrible crime. You see, after Mama dies, these “men” become time bombs, avenging her memory rather than disappointing her personally.
Yes, You are right.I am a 41 yrs old male who live with his mother. I do not date anyone. Its a sick state to be in. Its is important to date the person. At lest I know about it. It funny when you see it up close. I live in an adult community and see other mother-sons with the father walking behide like the teenage son. Also it sad to see in the movies most bad guy are hiding out with mommy. Mommys make the babies and they can also make a monster. good luck!
I know a mamas boy, my brother in law is a perfect example. One of the things I hate about him is that he is always complaining about his job, how he hates it, how he hates his boss and so on. He is 27 years old, he owns his own house which is quite an achievement, he buys only designer clothes, just recently he bought a 60 inch flat screen, this is all made possible by the job he hates so much, he is getting top dollar and he still complains like a bitch!!! I live with my wife on her parents property, her parents live in the main house and my wife and I live in the smaller house, I always have to see this cunt all the time, he visit his mommy like every week, he does not have a relationship with his father, obviously because he is a mamas boy! Anyway as I said he is always visiting his mom, and its really pathetic to see a grown ass man act like a child, his mom would say “you hungry son?” he would say “yes mommy”, she cooks and cleans up after him like a maid, its sickening!! Another thing, he is single, I wonder why, he had a woman but his mommy didnt approve of her, probably the only woman he ever had, since his mommy didnt like her, he broke up with her, now he hasnt had a woman in years!!
As I was saying, he is single, so whenever me and my wife go on dates, guess who has to come with us? Yes you guessed correctly, its always the three of us, a classic example of a third wheel, and to be honest its getting lame, I actually thought he wanted to come with me and my wife on our honeymoon!!! My wife sees him as her little kid brother, wtf? He is a grown ass man, geez!!
he really reminds me of a little girl, really, plus he has to get testostorone shots every week because he is not producing testostorone naturally, that explains a lot, really. Anyway, my mother in law agreed that in time my wife and I will move in the main house and they will move in the smaller house that me and my wife currenly reside, this mamas boy now decided to sell his house and move in back with his parents!! Now, what the hell? Now what are we to do? I guess knowing my wife, the three of us will live together!!
I dont know what to make of this decision of his, that is really really pathetic!! I dont know what he is gonna do when his mama dies, really, he is a freakin cunt, still hanging on to his mom’s apron strings, certainly not a man!!