by visionprdx
The two faced jerk
11:03 am in I Hate Men by visionprdx
My ex, he is white and I am black.. He is hearing and I am deaf. He married his new black over weight girlfriend of two years last V-day. What gets to me if I don’t think about it, is that he insulted black people and their personalty, deaf people and their dumbness, insulted me complaining that I was too fat for him and I am a size 7.. His new wife is a size 11-12.. His new wife is very dark skinned, he has no respect for successful woman of color. He insults Oprah, Beyonce, A. Keys and many other women of color. I spent and wasted almost 8 years with him. He once said to me that he would never marry me in front of his mammy, and she thought it was freakin funny. His momma life aint doing too well either, she lost one son due to marriage. His wife cannot stand his family.. He once insulted my deafness, he took the time and effort to write in the snow he hate having a deaf girlfriend. The list can go on forever. He was indeed verbally abusive. After I decided to pack up and leave his mean nasty hateful azz, he found a new dark skinned black woman and marry her two years later.. She is the total opposite of me, it shows that he is a true hypocrite… Now I sit here saying two things I sure as hell feel sorry for her and he shell reap what he sow… Pay back sure is going to be a true bitch…
My next door neighbor is deaf and I hate it when her stupid b/f talks abour her negatively to us and she asks him what hes saying and he shrugs her off. I’m very respect to her and translate everything as fast as i can considering i know 1 10th of sign-language. If i were you just say fuck him, it aint worth it. You can find somebody who will treat you sooo much better. what comes around goes around, she and he will both see it soon.
You wasted (past tense) time with him? You’re still wasting time with him. Stop. Train your brain that every time you want to think or talk about him that you think about something pleasant instead and be aware of how much better you feel.
Sorry to hear that this happened to you. He sounds like he has a lot of issues, and you should be happy that he is no longer in your life. I’m not sure what the woman being “very dark skinned” has to do with much at all, but you shouldn’t take your anger out on the new woman. She has nothing to do with it, really. And her skin tone isn’t of much importance either, black is black. Nonetheless, it seems that he is the type of man that prefers black women, but hopefully you are not that shallow and will be willing to date other races, including your own perhaps. You never know, that might work out better for you.
Best regards
it’s possible that you need to re-think your way of finding men — you sound pretty smart; you had to have known that this wasn’t a good guy, even while you were with him. it’s just hard to admit stuff like that to yourself.
reminds me a bit of some advice i saw recently — women tend to get obsessed with “the idea of him” and have a difficult time just dropping him and going on solo — here’s the blog I got that from: http://finding-true-love-through-movies.blogspot.com/
Look, I question your self love to let a man do that to you for eight years. Now you are wasting everyone’s time (including your own) on a stupid worthless bastard that none of us could give a damn about. Don’t you love your black self enough to tell that fool to fuck off. You sound like you are having an identity crisis or something. Work on yourself and the man will follow. You have a long life to live, you need to be ok with yourself before you go looking for someone else. Sounds like you have a lot of work to do on you. Why are you so worried about your ex’s wife. Maybe, she is someone that won’t take his shit. Maybe she kicks him in the ass everyday. Don’t worry about him or her. Worry about you and move on.
Hello.. thank you for your insightful comments.. Yall are right I am wasting time.. But its kinda hard, after you spend almost 8 years with someone on and off.. We went though college together, we been though a lot of stuff.. I am not a racist but I guess I didnt state why I mention him marrying someone darker then myself.. Hes a hypocrite, he disliked dark skin women he made fun of them.. Insulted some of my family members, insulted all sorts of people and color was one of them. And I am nothing against his new wife I just feel totally sorry for her, because she appears to be a full cup of coffee, and is a bottom cup of coffee..
Its just hard for me to move on because I havent had much good success.. He brought me to a place and left me out hung to dry. Its been taking me a long time to get my stuff to gather and move out.. I planned soo many things and I end up taking a bad detour and I am suffering in the result of.. So It just pisses me off that I am stuck in the same runt and his life has moved on for the best.. I am a strong beleiver of you reep what you sow.. I am having a Medea Moment..
PS He is my first everything. First boyfriend, first love…
Hiya
Of course you are suffering
Yep
He was a hypocrite;
And its soo hard to forgive one s self for having wasted so much precious time on a shit
I ve been there a lot of times too
I now know that everytime it FELT wrong it WAS wrong
Simple but we seem to be programmed by society to take this shit and still think its gonna get better
You can never ever talk to men rationally
They really only listen when they are still into you
then of course they don t have to
Cause you don t VOICE yr feelings towards them when things are fine
And afterwards its just always too late and we are the ones us women that invariably get hurt
not them they ve already stuck their dick into their next victim
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the only ones that not totally or at least partially shitty are the ones that are already with someone else:
My advice to all women don t stick around when it gets bad
Trust someone who recently 2 onths ago got tortured for 5 hours
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Good for you for leaving him! Nobody deserves that kind of treatment. You’re a smart woman and will meet someone worth your time. Now it’s time to make your thoughts leave this asshole.
hey i feel you… men are jerks all the way. but you will see later in the future he will think of you and regret letting you go. men dont realize what we really mean to them until they get something worst.. iam married and have 1 handsome son… to his father it seems like we dont even exist i truely feel fustrated but am too scared to leave but i do have faith in god . i know he has someone good waiting for my son and myself its a matter of time till i receive that blessing from god… have faith god took that guy out of your life because he knew he was not worthy of you…. you will see that you will meet someone better that will love you for who you are and cherish you… one thing dont go out looking for love let it come to you…best wishes. keep your head up. GG
I am so proud of you! I know how hard it is to leave those jerks but good for you!
You will find someone who will love everything about you and won;t leave you for some dark skinned over weight girl who obviously doesn’t respect him or care about him as much as you. Have you ever heard of the 80/20 rule? If not its when a man has the perfect girl and she’s an 80 instead of 100% and the same man meets the 20% thinking its the 100% he;s looking for and dumps the 80 then after a while realizes what he did. If he’s like most guys he’ll pretend for a while that he’s happy and one day you’ll find him on ur door step DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK! find another man. GOOD LUCK!
Baby girl….don’t sweat it. I promise you attraction has nothing to do with color or weight. I am a white “Irish” women who is in love and in a relationship with a beautiful black man. I say “Black man ” because that’s what everyone else says…to me, he is just a beautiful man, smiling full of advise , life and he served his country for 8 years! “Outstanding” Oh and by the way when I meet him over 10 years ago I was 360 + lbs and now I am a healthy 163. He loved me then and loves me now. and I come to you because I dated a guy who was hearing impaired. He is still a good friend!..it has nothing to do with black/white…hearing/deaf it’s all about YOU…He is just making excuses for his behavior rather just coming clean and saying what’s what…You do You….Best of Luck to you. You as everyone deserves Happiness!